# Bi-Curious? Ever? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 15, 2005, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395 "2005-10-15T20:01:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Revtim](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/revtim/32/1042_2.png) [@Revtim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Revtim)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2005, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/41 "2005-10-16T20:37:36Z")
> [@Operation Ripper](#): > > See him in [Troy?](http://i.timeinc.net/time/2004/troy/images/01.jpg) Yes I did. I can see he was in excellent physical shape, but again, just a face. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2005, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/42 "2005-10-16T20:49:54Z")
> [@Operation Ripper](#): > > Well played sir. šŸ˜‰ I was being serious, and I donā€™t get the joke, but Iā€™ll cheerfully take credit for it. ---
**Author:** ![Amaranta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Amaranta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amaranta)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2005, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/43 "2005-10-16T21:23:43Z")
Iā€™ve always been attracted to attractive people. Iā€™ve slept with girls and guys. Sexy is sexy, to me. But I feel bad about it. Guilty, somehow. Not because Iā€™m in anyway ashamed of it, but because really, what girl my age doesnā€™t claim to be bicurious? Iā€™m not the kind of girl who makes out with other girls at clubs because someone has a camera, or to entice men, or whatever. But I worry about being lumped in with those skanks. Itā€™s confusing. ---
**Author:** ![Tess\_of\_the\_Derbyville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8dc957/32.png) [@Tess\_of\_the\_Derbyville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tess_of_the_Derbyville)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2005, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/44 "2005-10-16T22:33:54Z")
Just like week I met a young woman who was visiting my city. She was interesting, charming and clearly a lesbian. While our contact was strictly friendlprofessional, I could just tell that she found me attractive. She seemed like a really neat person and I was strangely flattered and pleased that she singled me out and was sorry that I wouldnā€™t see her again. Needless to say, my boyfriend found this facinating. šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2005, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/45 "2005-10-16T23:17:34Z")
> [@matt\_mcl](#): > > I was being serious, and I donā€™t get the joke, but Iā€™ll cheerfully take credit for it. I think that **Ripper** was just acknowledging that, although he directed his question towards het guys and girls, thereā€™s no reason it canā€™t be expanded to anyone who doesnā€™t identify as bisexual. ---
**Author:** ![CynicalGabe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3e96dc/32.png) [@CynicalGabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CynicalGabe)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2005, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/46 "2005-10-16T23:52:28Z")
> [@C K Dexter Haven](#): > > The forum called ā€œCafe Societyā€ is about arts and entertainment. Only ā€œsort ofā€?? You must be doing it wrong. šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2005, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/47 "2005-10-17T01:38:18Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > That is what I am talking about too. Brad Pitt is a good example. I would have no idea that he is supposed to be really good looking if no one told me. I can see that he is in good shape and healthy but that is about it. The only real way that I have to judge men is the same way you judge livestock (i.e. look at the teeth. see if they are healthy etc.) It bothered me that I couldnā€™t tell what guys were supposed to be good looking so I started to try to learn how. It is like trying to build a computer program that can judge looks based on rules and comparing to known values. It only works a little. I figured out that [Pierce Brosnan](http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000112/) is good looking on my own and I was happy until a female said that was an easy and obvious example. I used that to figure out that some newscasters are good looking. That is only classically handsome though. I will never be able to figure out ā€œcuteā€ or ā€œunconventionally good-lookingā€. My mind simply doesnā€™t work that way. > > I didnā€™t even like having males for roommates. I switched to female roommates as soon as I could and never went back. Plus, the mechanics of male on male sex repulse me. Itā€™s okay, Shagnasty. None of use think youā€™re gay and never would in a million years. Honest. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2005, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/48 "2005-10-17T02:35:40Z")
> [@amaranta](#): > > But I feel bad about it. Guilty, somehow. Itā€™s not guilt, or confusion: itā€™s insecurity (and possibly a little immaturity). When you are secure in your sexuality and comfortable with who you are, youā€™ll stop caring whether youā€™re being ā€œlumped inā€ with anyone. Iā€™m not saying itā€™s as easily done as said, but I think youā€™ll find it to be true. And I donā€™t mean immaturity like ā€œyouā€™re so immature,ā€ I mean that some things truly _do_ come with age/experience. > [@Aesiron](#): > > Itā€™s okay, Shagnasty. None of use think youā€™re gay and never would in a million years. Honest. Ha! šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2005, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/49 "2005-10-17T03:07:03Z")
No, but after reading a number of threads on the subject of sexuality it would lead me to the conclusion that sexual preference may not be as black and white as I previously thought. While I believe it is possible to derive sexual pleasure from a member of the same sex it just never occured to me to try. I expect it would frustrating to those in the grey area if they wanted a long term relationship. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2005, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/50 "2005-10-17T03:25:34Z")
I donā€™t think so. However, Iā€™ve joked about giving it a shot with various female friends and joined in to several threads asking for your ā€œTop 5ā€ and the like. And since Iā€™m a big proponent of all sorts of equal rights, the other day I thought it necessary to _really_ think about this. The best I could come up with, going the whole enchilada (or maybe I should say taco ;))? Kate Winslet. Iā€™m not really sure totally why, except that she seems like sheā€™d be lots of fun, is intelligent and pretty, in a ā€˜realā€™ woman way. I can honestly, possibly see it. Where does that put me? ---
**Author:** ![Dante](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dante/32/9673_2.png) [@Dante](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dante)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2005, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/51 "2005-10-17T13:20:48Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > Where does that put me? Smack dab in the middle of one of my fantasies, for oneā€¦ šŸ˜ƒ Iā€™ve never had the desire to experiment myself, but I can tell when a man in physically attractive. ---
**Author:** ![Snickers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@Snickers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snickers)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2005, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/52 "2005-10-17T14:21:57Z")
Just once - there was a girl in a class of mine in college that I was positively smitten with. She was cute, pixeyish, but not drop dead georgeous or anything, and I was just smitten. Looked forward to the class just to see her. I was in a long-term, comitted relationship at that point, so nothing happened, but had I been single I might have approached her. Damn, but she was cute. Since then, nothing - I recognize when women are beautiful and even point out the ones that I think are cute to my husband, but thereā€™s no attraction there, just a ā€œsheā€™s cuteā€ sort of thing. But that girl in my class? I totally couldā€™ve been with her. ---
**Author:** ![Amazon\_Floozy\_Goddess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/779978/32.png) [@Amazon\_Floozy\_Goddess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amazon_Floozy_Goddess)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2005, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/53 "2005-10-17T15:59:28Z")
I find some stories of girl/girl action hot, but to put myself in the same situation, I just couldnā€™t do it. Not that I find it gross or anything, it just wouldnā€™t feel right. I enjoy the little things about men too much - the feel of a bristly jaw against my face, the muscles, etcā€¦a chick just doesnā€™t have those things. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2005, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/54 "2005-10-17T16:25:29Z")
> [@Amazon Floozy Goddess](#): > > the feel of a bristly jaw against my face, the muscles, etcā€¦a chick just doesnā€™t have those things. Clearly, you never met the girlā€™s gym coach from the Texas middle school where I once taught. ---
**Author:** ![Aangelica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b2d939/32.png) [@Aangelica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aangelica)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2005, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/55 "2005-10-17T16:55:31Z")
In 30 years, Iā€™ve yet to find another girl attractive. Cute, sure. Beautiful on a number of occasions. Aesthetically pleasing, of course. Just not attractive in the sexual sense. Iā€™m just not wired that way, I suppose. Iā€™m all about the boys. šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2005, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395/56 "2005-10-17T18:34:03Z")
**Dante** , you crack me the hell right up -and- that ā€œofficiallyā€ made my day (week? month?). Besides, Iā€™m going to pretend that was soley directed at me instead of the lovely Kate. Hey, itā€™s my story and I can right it anyway I want. šŸ˜› [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bi-curious-ever/326395.md?page=2)