# BIG LOVE 2/28/10, or "The Lord Says He Wants us to continue jumping over this shark"

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**Created:** [March 1, 2010, 6:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-love-2-28-10-or-the-lord-says-he-wants-us-to-continue-jumping-over-this-shark/530838 "2010-03-01T06:47:36Z")\
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**Author:** ![Rhodes](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhodes/32/273_2.png) [@Rhodes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhodes)\
**Post date:** [March 18, 2010, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-love-2-28-10-or-the-lord-says-he-wants-us-to-continue-jumping-over-this-shark/530838/41 "2010-03-18T14:48:28Z")

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> [@Dogzilla](#):
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> There’s great controversy in the exmo community about this, in fact. Should you resign? Or should you just let them ex you? Everyone has their own viewpoint on this, but mine is that I will never let someone chase me away. If I want out, I’m taking control of my choices and I’m walking right out. You can’t fire me, 'cause I QUIT! Some people just don’t care about that sort of thing, have left any anger and bitterness on the side of the road, and just do not give a flip if they are exed, still members in good standing, whatever. You can bang on my door twice a month and leave brownies if you want, but you’re just wasting brownie mix and you’ll never make me a faithful mormon again that way. It’s different for everyone; not everyone carries around anger and bitterness about it. Some people just shrug and drop mormonism from their life, no fuss, no muss.

There certainly is a lot of controversy among ex-Mormons about ongoing church membership. They get pissed when they are excommunicated, or they get pissed when they are still on the Home Teachers assignments list.

When I exlained to my bishop that I do not believe any of the supernatural claims of Mormonism, there was no talk of resigning or excommunication. Home teachers, missionaries, and church leaders are always welcome to come and chat and tell me how much they love me and bring brownies and even stay for dinner. When they realze that I may convert them before they convert me, they’ll probably stop coming. Until then, it’s nice to occasionally see some old friends.

After a couple of months the bishop stopped by unexpectedly to see if I had any second thoughts, and if I wanted my name removed from the membership lists. Nope, I don’t care whether I’m officially a Mormon or an Apostate. Nope, I don’t care if I get excommunicated. I am 100% certain that my standing with Gosh has nothing to do with my LDS membership status.

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**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\
**Post date:** [March 19, 2010, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-love-2-28-10-or-the-lord-says-he-wants-us-to-continue-jumping-over-this-shark/530838/42 "2010-03-19T04:40:44Z")

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Question–is there a thread out for the season finale yet? Just saw it tonight, but couldn’t find any other more recent thread…

Never mind, found it.

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