# Big wedding photo on living room wall: narcissistic? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 6, 2004, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755 "2004-05-06T01:50:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![LVgeogeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/b19c9b/32.png) [@LVgeogeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LVgeogeek)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2004, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/41 "2004-05-06T18:25:06Z")
I agree that a 30"x40" poster sized picture of your wedding day is tacky. I would think that a photo galley style display would be much better with your wedding pics as the center. Then add pics of important stuff as you expand it over time with pics of importatnt events, special places etc… As a side note… Everyone that I have ever known that put those huge poster sized wedding pictures on proud display in their home, has ended up divorced YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2004, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/42 "2004-05-06T18:30:32Z")
> [@astro](#): > > That large and in the middle of the living room? It’s grotesque and tasteless. You have married an unsubtle women without taste who is determined to have her way. Even big breasts won’t compensate for bad taste. You’re just plain screwed. It depends. How big are we talking? No, you’re right, they won’t. Tacky, tacky, tacky and more tacky. If she wants to put those backlit-moving-waterfall “pictures” on the wall, RUN! ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2004, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/43 "2004-05-06T18:40:35Z")
> [@](#): > > Tacky, tacky, tacky and more tacky. If she wants to put those backlit-moving-waterfall “pictures” on the wall, RUN! I don’t know about that, I think the moving waterfall picture would look good right next to Clint Fucking Eastwood. Kalhoun, that made my day. Sorry about your personal misery. ---
**Author:** ![Doomtrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/0ea827/32.png) [@Doomtrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doomtrain)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2004, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/44 "2004-05-06T19:09:04Z")
> [@kanicbird](#): > > I think she needs confirmation that this house will be your house together, and not his house that she lives at. That picture prominatly displayed is a statement that she has a place in that house too and it is just as much hers as yours. I’d say the problem is “his” and “hers” space. For example, I have my area with my Mr. T Celebriduck, Bobblehead Jesus, and a big photograph that makes me laugh every time I see it (Keith Baker’s Playtime, for the curious), while **Morelin** has her area with her Final Fantasy IX wall hanging and various Johnny Depp and Aragorn posters. The only thing that should be 30" x 40" are awesome movie posters. However, speaking man-to-man, this is a battle you are not going to win. Don’t be like Robert E. Lee at Gettysburg and insist on a charge and lose the war, man. Withdraw and pick another fight. ---
**Author:** ![Doomtrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/0ea827/32.png) [@Doomtrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doomtrain)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2004, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/45 "2004-05-06T19:10:28Z")
> [@kanicbird](#): > > I think she needs confirmation that this house will be your house together, and not his house that she lives at. That picture prominatly displayed is a statement that she has a place in that house too and it is just as much hers as yours. I’d say the solution to this problem is “his” and “hers” space. For example, I have my area with my Mr. T Celebriduck, Bobblehead Jesus, and a big photograph that makes me laugh every time I see it (Keith Baker’s Playtime, for the curious), while **Morelin** has her area with her Final Fantasy IX wall hanging and various Johnny Depp and Aragorn posters. However, someone who wants a 30"x40" wedding…billboard…may not see the light of sweet reason. The only thing that should be 30" x 40" are awesome movie posters. However, speaking man-to-man, this is a battle you are not going to win. Don’t be like Robert E. Lee at Gettysburg and insist on a charge and lose the war, man. Withdraw and pick another fight. She’s peeing on you and marking her territory. ---
**Author:** ![lachesis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/848f3c/32.png) [@lachesis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lachesis)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2004, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/46 "2004-05-06T19:41:37Z")
female here in case you forgot i’m weighing in on the “oh, please **no** ” side. but i’ll make a commentary that may help your SO think this through in a different light. we’re talking enlargement here. BIG enlargement. meaning EVERYTHING gets larger – any bad hair, misfitting clothing, pores in skin… any and every flaw in the original photo is going to be repeated, big as life, probably twice as noticeable, world without end Amen. so unless you’re considering an airbrushing in addition to the enlargement process, i’d think VERY HARD about doing something like that to myself. and glass and framing for big size anything, be it picture, print or poster, is NOT cheap if you do a proper job of it. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2004, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/47 "2004-05-06T20:00:00Z")
> [@Shirley Ujest](#): > > I don’t know about that, I think the moving waterfall picture would look good right next to Clint Fucking Eastwood. > Kalhoun, that made my day. Sorry about your personal misery. Thanks for your pity, Shirley. It is well-deserved. Actually the waterfall picture would look even better next to a picture of me Fucking Clint Eastwood (circa 1975 or earlier, of course). ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2004, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/48 "2004-05-06T20:45:38Z")
You’d certainly want that hung correctly. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2004, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/49 "2004-05-06T21:28:03Z")
> [@lieu](#): > > You’d certainly want that hung correctly. I hear he is. ---
**Author:** ![chique](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@chique](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chique)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2004, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/50 "2004-05-07T00:49:01Z")
I know I read someplace - Miss Manners, I assume - that hanging family pictures in the living room, dining room, or front hall Is Not Done. The bedroom, back hall, and refrigerator are ok. How big is your fridge? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![DaddyTimesTwo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f07891/32.png) [@DaddyTimesTwo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DaddyTimesTwo)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2004, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/51 "2004-05-07T03:14:14Z")
There is a 20X24 painting on the wall right behind me of my wife and I copied from a wedding photo. It’s a waist up picture done by a friend and is framed quite nicely, surrounded by pictures of our children and family (all of which need updating). It is featured rather prominently, but it’s a good sized room. **Seven** obviously has the best decorating sense of all you other posters. **GMRyujin** , _movie posters_? What, are you like 15 or something? 😉 Try for a compromise, but it’ll be difficult negotiation. Go for the painting if you can afford it (we got ours for $250, and my best man’s wife did it), or go for a smaller print and surround it with other photos (wedding or otherwise), or, if all else fails, just give in, smile, give her a kiss and tell her you love her. ---
**Author:** ![dangermom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e274bd/32.png) [@dangermom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dangermom)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2004, 4:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/52 "2004-05-07T04:03:28Z")
For **chique** : > [@](#): > > Shrines to oneself should be displayed discreetly. Award statues may be used as doorstops, plaques and diplomas can be hung in the kitchen or bathroom, but your wedding protrait goes in the bedroom, the mounted fish you caught goes in the study and photographs taken with the Vice President or a movie star must be placed in shelved albums–not even albums left on coffee tables. > … > Finally, it is in bad taste to have a house in perfect taste. It screams of having excluded all sentiment in the form of leavings or offerings from others. > _–Miss Manners’ guide to domestic tranquillity, p. 62_ Elsewhere she forbids wedding albums on coffee tables, and mandates sentimental gifts from children such as pencil holders and fingerpaintings (should one have a loving child in the vicinity). There is no restriction on pictures of family members, such as the common Hall of Relatives. I have a Hall of Relatives with the recent wedding pictures of each of our siblings and some baby photos, old pictures of ancestors, etc, but our own wedding picture is in the bedroom–after all it was nearly 9 years ago now, not many people are that interested. ---
**Author:** ![chique](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@chique](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chique)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2004, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/53 "2004-05-07T04:10:09Z")
> [@dangermom](#): > > For **chique** : > Elsewhere she forbids wedding albums on coffee tables, and mandates sentimental gifts from children such as pencil holders and fingerpaintings (should one have a loving child in the vicinity). There is no restriction on pictures of family members, such as the common Hall of Relatives. Oooh, cool, thanks! I remembered the wedding portrait but thought it extended to all that stuff. Merci. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Doomtrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/0ea827/32.png) [@Doomtrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doomtrain)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2004, 7:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/54 "2004-05-07T07:10:25Z")
> [@DaddyTimesTwo](#): > > **GMRyujin** , _movie posters_? What, are you like 15 or something? 😉 23 with no taste, thankyouverymuch, but I was thinking of something like [this](http://www.moviegoods.com/movie_product.asp?sku=150020&dept%5Fid=13170&master%5Fmovie%5Fid=319). Huge and classic. ---
**Author:** ![NardoPolo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ecae2f/32.png) [@NardoPolo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NardoPolo)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2004, 11:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755/55 "2004-05-07T11:32:53Z")
Wow, **DangerMom** and **Chique** , that quote from Miss Manners is very helpful. I have Emily Post’s guide to etiquette here and found no reference to displaying wedding photos. Thankyousomuch. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/big-wedding-photo-on-living-room-wall-narcissistic/243755.md?page=2)