# Bisexual? Me? Hmm. COME ONE, COME ALL... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 29, 2001, 9:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870 "2001-05-29T09:19:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![ageless6](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9de053/32.png) [@ageless6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ageless6)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2001, 9:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/1 "2001-05-29T09:19:27Z")
There are probably a thousand threads with references to bisexuality. I’m not going to read them all. I hope this will be somewhat different. I’ve often thought that the best way to be would be bisexual. I mean no preference one way or the other. Exactly 50/50. You don’t give a fig(or a leaf) what you run into. If you’re horny and it’s compliant, rush it off to bed. OOps, I just realized what I left myself open to, there. Let’s try to stay concentrated on humans, people. Oh,hell,I hate rules: include what you like. But psoriasisly, how many among you would like to be bi? I guess that would include the straight (as in linear) gays and lesbians, also. Slather yourself up with KY and slither into the fantasy pile. Squishhhh…YUM! ---
**Author:** ![Eutychus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Eutychus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eutychus)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2001, 9:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/2 "2001-05-29T09:32:06Z")
Okay … I’ll be the first to jump into the fray with TMI … I’m not actively bi. (But let’s face facts, if activity counts, I’m pretty much asexual 😉 ) But I have started to show some interest in what it would be like to _give_ oral sex to another man. Is it something I would want to do on a regular basis? Maybe, I’m not sure. I’m also not sure if I could go the complete gay route and be on the receiving end of anal sex at this time (uness the guy were really, really small), but it’s a possibility for the future as I begin to open up a bit (figuratively speaking.) But I still like women more. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2001, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/3 "2001-05-29T15:24:15Z")
At some point I’m going to get around to experiencing sex with a woman, if for no other reason than to find out what I’m missing 🙂 But there is no doubt in my mind that a) I’m at least 97% gay and b) that there are some people who are 100% monosexual (i.e. gay or straight). ---
**Author:** ![malkavia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malkavia/32/5621_2.png) [@malkavia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/malkavia)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2001, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/4 "2001-05-29T15:33:23Z")
_nudges Matt_ Uhmm… ya know Matt… if you uhh, need any help with that whole “What’m I missin’” quest… =) I personally think the good majority of people are on a sliding scale. I think Im about 87% straight, but theres a few girls who really do it for me. However… gay, straight, or right down the middle bi… I know very few people who would just grab the closest thing that breathes when they want some. I’m not sure if thats a good thing or a bad thing, really. But I suppose in an ideal world, one would never yearn for sex. ---
**Author:** ![Cumber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b5ac83/32.png) [@Cumber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cumber)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2001, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/5 "2001-05-29T16:07:39Z")
I’ve thought about that occaisionally. I don’t think I could ever really give sex with another guy a try though. The idea ranges from just not doing anything for me to being a big turn off. I’ll be sticking with the females, methinks. ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2001, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/6 "2001-05-29T16:13:26Z")
First off, Let me be the first to say that bisexuality does **not** equal an overwhelming compulsion to nail every human being who crosses your path. I can’t say I love or hate my bisexuality, because it just IS. I do love the perks, though. Like the fact that (generic) straights don’t like you because you’re gay. And (generic) gays don’t like you because you’re “wimping out” or “trendy” or “a fence-sitter” or “want to have the best of both worlds.” All-around free-floating derision is just lovely. However… I love sex with guys and I theoretically love sex with girls - theoretically because there have been… **issues** with the very very few girls with whom I’ve been involved. Men have penises, which are lovely, and no dildo is ever going to be quite the same. However, women have boobies (mmm, boobies) and they’re squishy and they smell good. I have once again posted without the first bit of content. You’re all welcome. I’ll be here all week. ---
**Author:** ![sailor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a587f6/32.png) [@sailor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sailor)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2001, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/7 "2001-05-29T16:50:25Z")
I feel I am bisexual in the sense that I’d love to have sex with two women at the same time. I guess in that sense I could be trisexual too… ---
**Author:** ![Rally\_Vincent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c37758/32.png) [@Rally\_Vincent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rally_Vincent)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2001, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/8 "2001-05-29T16:58:33Z")
Well, I think that it’s got to be more than just a matter of who you have sex with. Unless you don’t think you are ever interested in a long term relationship, at some point you have to decide who you want to be with. ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2001, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/9 "2001-05-29T20:43:11Z")
::Nudges malkavia:: You know, if Matt isn’t receptive to the offer, I’ll pinch-hit for him…😉 ---
**Author:** ![Nocturne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/9fc348/32.png) [@Nocturne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nocturne)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2001, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/10 "2001-05-29T23:56:26Z")
I’m bisexual, but that’s not common knowledge IRL. I’d get shunned and possibly beaten up (yeah, even though I’m a girl). So I just keep it very, very quiet. ---
**Author:** ![BlackKnight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/eb8c5e/32.png) [@BlackKnight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlackKnight)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2001, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/11 "2001-05-30T00:46:37Z")
It’s eerie, I know, but Eutychus55 wrote _exactly_ what I was going to write. Right down to the smiley. ---
**Author:** ![malkavia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malkavia/32/5621_2.png) [@malkavia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/malkavia)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2001, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/12 "2001-05-30T02:59:53Z")
Batter up! _winks at Superdude_ ---
**Author:** ![Jack\_Batty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jack_batty/32/3201_2.png) [@Jack\_Batty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jack_Batty)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2001, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/13 "2001-05-30T03:07:14Z")
Ah, bisexuality. An issue which has been close to my heart. I am not bisexual, I think. When I think about having sex with a man, I don’t get disgusted or anything, but I don’t get excited either. While at times I have found myself somewhat fascinated (if that’s the right word) with the mechanics of homosexuality. {How do I explain that without sounding like an oaf?} I guess, like **Euty** , I have wondered what it would be like. But I’ve never really felt an overwhelming urge to find out. On the other hand, I do kind of like _looking_, you know what I mean? A really built guy, naked. I think that’s my voyeuristic quality surfacing, though, more than anything else. ---
**Author:** ![Silly\_Rabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e47774/32.png) [@Silly\_Rabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silly_Rabbit)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2001, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/14 "2001-05-30T04:54:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Jack Batty \* > \*\*On the other hand, I do kind of like _looking_, you know what I mean? \*\* …do I ever!! I have to say that I find women more physically appealing to look at,though. They are nice and soft… even thier kisses are softer… and thier thighs are softer… But men, well… like **Hamadryad** said, men have the real thing. A dildo just doesn’t do the same thing for me. I have fallen in love with men but I certainly lust for women… ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2001, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/15 "2001-05-30T05:05:57Z")
I am what you might call a “50-50” bisexual. When it comes to relations with my partner, the first thing that usually comes to mind is,“What will it take to make him/her damn happy to be with me?”. ---
**Author:** ![JamesCarroll](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/5daacb/32.png) [@JamesCarroll](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JamesCarroll)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2001, 5:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/16 "2001-05-30T05:25:54Z")
I’ve always liked anal penetration and was wondering if I too might also have a little gay guy living in me. So once in NYC I called a gay escort service. The guy who showed was hot. No seriously, this guy was empirically good looking: a dancer’s body all muscular and hairless, blond hair, blue eyes. Being men (and because I was paying him) we did everything. It was… ok. But I did confirm two things for myself that night: 1. That being gay (or being in a gay relationship) is much more than sex. No matter how hot this guy was and even if I tried to imagine a relationship with him I couldn’t. 2. That it just wasn’t for me. I love having sex AND loving women. They’re all bumpy and curvy and they smell good. So no matter where me and my dildo might go I will always be hetero. ---
**Author:** ![evilbeth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/evilbeth/32/2268_2.png) [@evilbeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/evilbeth)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2001, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/17 "2001-05-30T06:17:19Z")
I’m with **Hama** , I love having sex with men but breasts are just so…wonderful. And women are soft and have curves in good places and they smell nice and they move so well and…I have to stop now. Mmmm…me, a guy, another girl, one room, many pillows, hours and hours with nothing to do…that’s what I want. ---
**Author:** ![Reeder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Reeder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reeder)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2001, 6:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/18 "2001-05-30T06:21:56Z")
One on one no… But shouldn’t a 3-some even a mfm be just that a 3-some? Not your turn…my turn. ---
**Author:** ![DMC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dmc/32/18049_2.png) [@DMC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DMC)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2001, 6:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/19 "2001-05-30T06:34:25Z")
Being bisexual would have been a dream for me, if I could just get past the fact that men do absolutely nothing for me. I’m one of those guys who seems to be more attractive to the same sex than the opposite sex. When I go to a gay bar, as soon as the SO is in the restroom, I usually get a stream of men coming on to me. This SO rarely happens with women. Too bad, I could have put Hugh Hefner to shame. Unfortunately, I’m 100% hetero. As an aside, I can’t fathom the thought of listening to Barbara Streisand. 🙂 d&r ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2001, 1:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870/20 "2001-05-30T13:16:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by malkavia \* > \*\*Batter up! > > _winks at Superdude_ \*\* [PA System] Now batting for matt\_mcl…number 11…Superdude! [/PA System] [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bisexual-me-hmm-come-one-come-all/66870.md?page=2)