# Bitch of an almost mother-in-law and her cowardly son **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 29, 2002, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467 "2002-12-29T04:01:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![ganglian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7feea3/32.png) [@ganglian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ganglian)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/41 "2002-12-29T17:45:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Hermann Cheruscan \* > \*\*You are far better off without him. If he can’t stand up to his parents now, why do you think he would do it later? If a man is truly in love, he’s certainly not going to seek his parents approval. > > Me? I didn’t give a rats ass about my parents approval. I loved my girl and that was all that mattered. If my parents liked her, great. If not, oh well. \*\* You’ll hear many times after this, I’m sure, but better you find this out now rather than after the wedding. ---
**Author:** ![jmpride62](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@jmpride62](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jmpride62)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/42 "2002-12-29T18:51:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Snooooopy \* > \*\*Maybe on his 44th birthday, he’ll get a nice set of BALLS. \*\* Won’t do any good. Mommy will just cut them off and stick them in her purse along with the other pair she cut off when he was 12. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/43 "2002-12-29T19:55:58Z")
I just wanted to make the point that it is your ex-fiancé’s problem (and his family’s), not yours - you did nothing wrong and there is nothing wrong with you, **whiterabbit**. I know if this had happened to me, I would be wondering a little if there actually was something less than desirable about me to make a man chose his family over me (you know, late at night, when things get a little unrealistic). If you’re thinking like that, please don’t. ---
**Author:** ![Podkayne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@Podkayne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Podkayne)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/44 "2002-12-29T20:40:41Z")
Oh, yeah, what **featherlou** said . . . My post kind of came out sounding like maybe there _was_ something wrong with the way you behaved, which is not what I meant. If you _did_ do anything wrong, then they should have given you a second chance. I should have made it clearer that I suspect that you were perfectly normal and charming, and that his parents have unreasonable standards. Oh, and your ex is a fool for letting them break you up. ---
**Author:** ![MaxTheVool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@MaxTheVool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaxTheVool)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/45 "2002-12-29T20:53:06Z")
Hang on a tick… a pit thread in which every single poster agrees? Isn’t that one of the signs of the impending apocalypse? Will **December** be endorsing Hillary for president next? If nothing else, **WhiteRabbit** can be pretty darn sure that everyone here is right 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/46 "2002-12-29T22:20:29Z")
i’ve said it before, I’ll say it again… Egg their house!!! Non-violent and satisfying. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Snooooopy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ee7513/32.png) [@Snooooopy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snooooopy)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/47 "2002-12-29T22:48:59Z")
Now, if you DID pee on the rug during your visit, then you should have let all of us know from the get-go so we could consider that in our respective analyses. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/48 "2002-12-29T22:50:53Z")
This may be a bit off the subject, but: 43 and 26? That’s a 17 year age difference! ewwww… gross! You were an embryo when this guy was probably a Sophmore in High School. He was born before men walked on the moon, when EISENHOWER WAS PRESIDENT. That’s just fucking twisted. ---
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/49 "2002-12-29T22:53:05Z")
Ditch the loser. His umbilical cord is still firmly attached. ---
**Author:** ![Hugh\_Jass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/4da419/32.png) [@Hugh\_Jass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hugh_Jass)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/50 "2002-12-29T23:24:07Z")
I’d like to echo what everyone else is saying here. You will be better off with out him. Now you can find a MAN to love you. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/51 "2002-12-29T23:49:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Blalron \* > \*\*This may be a bit off the subject, but: > > 43 and 26? That’s a 17 year age difference! ewwww… gross! You were an embryo when this guy was probably a Sophmore in High School. > > He was born before men walked on the moon, when EISENHOWER WAS PRESIDENT. > > That’s just fucking twisted. \*\* One of my great-grandmothers was 15 years younger than her husband (my great-grandfather, duh) and they were married quite happily for years. Age was not an issue here, unless it was his parents who had a problem with it. I think the real problem was that I was perceived as a threat to Mom’s total control over her little boy. _sigh_ ---
**Author:** ![pesch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pesch/32/4925_2.png) [@pesch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pesch)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/52 "2002-12-30T00:02:40Z")
Yes, this is this third sign of the apocalpyse. This is the third thread I’ve read since I signed onto this nut house in which every poster agreed with the OP. Worse, the other one is the recent Cafe Society thread about NPR’s “I’d Rather Eat Pants.” Everyone hated that. Even Tom Green’s film had its fans. Take care, wr. Yeah, betrayal hurts. So does finding out you put your faith and heart in the hands of a ball-less dick-less wonder. Maybe you should send a note to the mother, thanking her for raising a son unable to stand by his own decisions. ---
**Author:** ![Essured](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/278dde/32.png) [@Essured](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Essured)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/53 "2002-12-30T00:31:00Z")
I’m sorry you’re hurting **whiterabbit.** Honey, once the pain lessens a little, get angry. Not at bitch-momma, though I’m sure the cow deserves it. At ex-boyfriend. How dare he string you along, promising the world knowing all the time that he’d cave at the slightest frown from mommy ? How dare he agree to marry, knowing that he’d never place his wife or marriage before his mothers whims. And then once the anger goes, know deep down within yourself that you are lucky, that you have kept your confidence, your self-respect and your sanity, all of which you were in danger of losing had this relationship continued. And also know that someone as smart as you, who knows themself as well as you do (believe me, many girls would’ve done anything for approval) will find someone or something special that adds to their life, not detracts from it. All the best **whiterabbit** and I hope the next few months aren’t too hard on you. ---
**Author:** ![GusNSpot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gusnspot/32/436_2.png) [@GusNSpot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GusNSpot)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/54 "2002-12-30T01:11:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Hugh Jass \* > \*\* Now you can find a MAN to love you. \*\* Well, that was a sexist remark if I ever saw one. How dare you imply that she needs a MAN!!! Lots of women will do… YMMV 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Blunty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@Captain\_Blunty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Blunty)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/55 "2002-12-30T01:21:35Z")
I’m sorry for your pain **whiterabbit**. I was in the same boat as you a few years back. Amazing guy, loved him to death, but his mom didn’t approve and he broke up with me. This woman used to lecture me when I called his house after we had an argument and basically ran interference in every aspect of his life. This guy, however, was **19!!!** I will have to echo the rest of the replies. What kind of man still listens to his mommy at 43? A spineless, weak excuse for a man. Don’t even think about going back to him, you can do so much better. Just imagine if you did get married… every problem, every argument, he would have run to his mommy for help. Tell his mother to stop giving him the tit, tell him to grow a set of kahunas and throw out the teddy, grab the cats and get the hell outta there! And whistle while you do it, you definately did dodge a bullet. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![TheWatcherInTheWater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9d8465/32.png) [@TheWatcherInTheWater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheWatcherInTheWater)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/56 "2002-12-30T01:26:05Z")
I agree with everyone - better sorry now then sorry later. If you had married him, the Mother-In-Law would have infiltrated your life in everyway. Get the cats asap and be very very mature and gracious when you do so. Then when the prick calls you and wants you back, be very very nice when you tell him that it just wouldn’t work out now. ---
**Author:** ![gobear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8dc957/32.png) [@gobear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gobear)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/57 "2002-12-30T01:35:29Z")
**White Rabbit** , I’m sorry for your pain. No matter how fortunate it may be in the long run, you’re hurting now, so I’ll spare you the “it was all for the best” routine. Hugs. > [@](#): > > 43 and 26? That’s a 17 year age difference! ewwww… gross! You were an embryo when this guy was probably a Sophmore in High School. > > He was born before men walked on the moon, when EISENHOWER WAS PRESIDENT. > > That’s just fucking twisted As it happens the Goboyfriend and I are also 17 years apart and couldn’t be happier. It isn’t chronological age that is the problem here but emotional maturity. Any man who lets his mama veto his love life at 43 needs to wake up–Geez, what a real-life version of Pink Floyd’s “Mother” from _The Wall_! P.S. Go fuck yourself, you ignorant, judgmental fuckface. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/58 "2002-12-30T01:37:12Z")
The cats are going to be picked up Tuesday while he’s at work. The next time I speak to him will only be to tell him that I got through to my parents’ house in one piece, and after that, probably nothing. And he’s certainly not getting me back. He had his chance, and he blew it. He’s going to go through SO MUCH HELL when his parents die, it’s not even funny. Suddenly, he’ll have to make his own decisions. Horrors! ---
**Author:** ![Flamsterette\_X](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/41988e/32.png) [@Flamsterette\_X](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flamsterette_X)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/59 "2002-12-30T02:43:02Z")
**whiterabbit** , there’s nothing more I can add to what everyone’s already said. I am very sorry that you’re hurting, and I agree with everyone else here: you’re much better off without him. Vent / cry / rage as long as you need to. **gobear** , that’s just what I was thinking re: the Pink Floyu\d. F\_X ---
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 3:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/60 "2002-12-30T03:16:24Z")
> [@](#): > > As it happens the Goboyfriend and I are also 17 years apart and couldn’t be happier. Hey, I’m not passing judgement on gay couples here, only straights. Oh, you may be saying, how hypocritical it is to diss straight couples with huge age differences, but gay couples get to live on a double standard! Well, that’s how Blalronia works. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467.md?page=4)