# Bitch of an almost mother-in-law and her cowardly son **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 29, 2002, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467 "2002-12-29T04:01:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/61 "2002-12-30T03:19:23Z")
Blalronia, in case you are wondering, is the mythological Land of Blalron, where Blalron is dictator for life. ---
**Author:** ![kiz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/7feea3/32.png) [@kiz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiz)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/62 "2002-12-30T04:26:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by MaxTheVool \* > \*\*Hang on a tick… a pit thread in which every single poster agrees? Isn’t that one of the signs of the impending apocalypse? Will **December** be endorsing Hillary for president next? > > If nothing else, **WhiteRabbit** can be pretty darn sure that everyone here is right 🙂 \*\* I was thinking the exact same thing while reading through this thread! Although, FWIW, I’d be curious to find out how Cowardly Son makes a living. There could be an economic reason why he still lives at home in addition to what **whiterabbit** has already said about him… ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/63 "2002-12-30T05:18:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Blalron \* > \*\*This may be a bit off the subject, but: > > 43 and 26? That’s a 17 year age difference! ewwww… gross! You were an embryo when this guy was probably a Sophmore in High School. > > He was born before men walked on the moon, when EISENHOWER WAS PRESIDENT. > > That’s just fucking twisted. \*\* You think this contributes anything to the discussion? ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/64 "2002-12-30T05:28:19Z")
**whiterabbit** , for all the pain you’re experiencing this weekend; for the cold slap in the face you have gotten from reality after not taking seriously the signs that this marriage was not a good idea; for all the tears you have unleashed as you finally looked at that reality head-on and took the adult and responsible course of accepting it, you have my sympathy. Also my admiration and respect, for your bravery. The little boy you’re leaving behind? For his timidity that leaves him unable to fashion himself into a complete individual (for whom filial bonds are, not life-long chains of obligation and approval-mongering, but a chance to love more people as respected individuals); for his self-delusion that allowed him to enter into a long-term romantic relationship with an adult, only to have his “confidence” shatter as soon as his parents came within shouting distance of his chosen one; for the sense of aimlessness and purposelessness that inevitably awaits him when, through death or incapacity, those controlling strings are sundered, he has my pity. Count your blessings. Your cats will do for a start. Proceed to the support you’re getting from this virtual community, confirming the knowledge that you are well shed of this fiance. I’m sure you can continue from there. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![clayton\_e](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c57346/32.png) [@clayton\_e](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clayton_e)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/65 "2002-12-30T06:04:01Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Blalron \* > \*\*This may be a bit off the subject, but: > > 43 and 26? That’s a 17 year age difference! ewwww… gross! You were an embryo when this guy was probably a Sophmore in High School. > > He was born before men walked on the moon, when EISENHOWER WAS PRESIDENT. > > That’s just fucking twisted. \*\* You fucking jerk, next time try to help out a little bit. ---
**Author:** ![clayton\_e](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c57346/32.png) [@clayton\_e](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clayton_e)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/66 "2002-12-30T06:07:57Z")
Oh, and **whiterabbit** , I am so sorry this happened to you. It will hurt for a while, but being married to a man who can not make his own decisions is as bad an example for any children as it is unhealthy for your relationship. I am truly sorry this happened to you. ---
**Author:** ![Hickory6](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ecae2f/32.png) [@Hickory6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hickory6)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 8:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/67 "2002-12-30T08:49:04Z")
There’s a reason the Book of Genesis says a man leaves his mother to cleave to a wife in marriage, that they become one flesh. And there’s a reason wedding vows mention that bit about “forsaking all others.” That “all others” includes meddlesome parents. I’m still single. But there ain’t NOBODY gonna come between me and my lady when the time comes to marry. Had you gone through the ceremony, he wouldn’t have really been married to you anyway. He would not have left his mother and would still be beholden to her first before you. You deserve better than that. You deserve to be the first thing in his life. I’m so sorry you were disappointed. Knowledge is often painful. All the best, darlin’! There’s still some good, grown-up guys out there. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 9:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/68 "2002-12-30T09:28:35Z")
Ya know, now that I think about it, I’m starting to feel a little sorry for the 43 yr old lunkhead. What a lonely life he’s going to lead. Sad, really. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/69 "2002-12-30T13:48:50Z")
eggssss, my precious, eggssss… Inject 'em with food coloring first, if you can. the Bitch Queen’s home will be decorated _then_, I’ll bet! ---
**Author:** ![andymurph64](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a88e57/32.png) [@andymurph64](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andymurph64)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/70 "2002-12-30T15:24:11Z")
[offtopic] Whiterabbit. Curious. What did a 43 year old do to convince 26 year old to go out with him? Whiterabbit, I’m sorry for what you are going through but I must admit I’m with the camp that really feels sorry for him. My God, what a horrible life he has had/will have. When he wakes up in the future and realizes what he has thrown away he will be in complete agony. ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/71 "2002-12-30T15:29:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Podkayne \* > **One wonders if _any_ woman would be good enough for their pwecious baby.** I doubt it, which means this guy is gonna grow old and die alone. I’m with **spooje** , pretty fucking sad all around. ---
**Author:** ![Skerri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f04885/32.png) [@Skerri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skerri)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/72 "2002-12-30T15:57:57Z")
Just chiming in to let you know that this is probably the best thing that happened in your relationship. When I got dumped in July, it was probably the nicest thing that my ex could have done for me. He’s 26, has a great job, a great place, and will spend the rest of his life supporting his mother and his brother. His mother had the gall to tell him that since she supported him through two years of college, then he had to pay for her to go to nursing school. She often told me “I can’t wait for you to be my daughter-in-law!” Fat chance, lady. She controls every aspect of his life, and basically said that if we got married, she fully intended on continuing living with him. WTF? We were never going to be able to have a life together. It would always be the three of us. :rolleyes: When I left him, I said, “well, I hope you and your mother have a good life together, because that’s the only woman you’re going to end up with.” It hit him like a brick, but you know what he said? “Yeah, I know.” Freakish! In any case, I wish you the best of luck. Now is your chance to move on in life, and figure out what you want. That’s exactly what I did when I got dumped, and boy, is it nice to date someone who has a healthy relationship with his mother. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/73 "2002-12-30T17:18:14Z")
> [@](#): > > Turns out that **they** thought it wouldn’t work out, and therefore we didn’t have **their** blessing ( **they** actually said that) and **they** wouldn’t be coming to the wedding. Bolding mine. I agree with everyone here, but I am wondering why daddy isn’t getting any of the blame? ---
**Author:** ![andymurph64](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a88e57/32.png) [@andymurph64](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andymurph64)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/74 "2002-12-30T17:51:14Z")
> [@](#): > > by Diane > I agree with everyone here, but I am wondering why daddy isn’t getting any of the blame? You women never get it do you. If something is wrong with the child, \* it is always the mothers fault! \* Don’t you get it by now? 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/75 "2002-12-30T18:03:37Z")
> [@](#): > > Don’t you get it by now? Yeah, _someone_ is going to get it but I don’t think it is me. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/76 "2002-12-30T18:28:18Z")
Okay, **whiterabbit** , you’re going to pamper yourself silly the next few weeks. Now…who can we hook her up with? C’mon guys…let’s see your stats!! Income, car, parents, house, etc. ---
**Author:** ![Fretful\_Porpentine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fretful_porpentine/32/2873_2.png) [@Fretful\_Porpentine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fretful_Porpentine)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/77 "2002-12-30T18:34:49Z")
> [@](#): > > Whiterabbit. Curious. What did a 43 year old do to convince 26 year old to go out with him? I’m not **whiterabbit** , obviously, but I’m another 26-year-old who has dated someone 17 years older, so I guess I’ll go ahead and answer your question. There wasn’t any “convincing” involved. He seemed like a decent person and had some of the same interests I did, I didn’t ask how old he was at the time, and by the time we did get around to exchanging ages it was basically a non-issue. As it should be. It’s pretty clear from the rest of this thread that age has nothing to do with maturity anyhow. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/78 "2002-12-30T18:39:24Z")
Just gotta chime in with another “wow, what a loser!” remark. It was bad enough reading this thread when I thought you were both about 18 years old. When I found out he was 43, I actually made the :eek: face. That guy is _fucked_ up! No matter what he says to you, never ever take him back. Stay far away. ---
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/79 "2002-12-30T19:07:32Z")
> [@](#): > > You think this contributes anything to the discussion? Not at all. _bows out of discussion_ ---
**Author:** ![WillSantini](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/ed8c4c/32.png) [@WillSantini](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WillSantini)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bitch-of-an-almost-mother-in-law-and-her-cowardly-son/145467/80 "2002-12-30T19:54:08Z")
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