# Biting ..... who likes it? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 11, 2003, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138 "2003-04-11T22:54:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![cuauhtemoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecb155/32.png) [@cuauhtemoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuauhtemoc)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2003, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/41 "2003-04-12T23:35:48Z")
I’ve actually dared women to try and hurt me. Being bitten on the shoulder and nails digging into the back is nice. And here’s a weird one: I’ve offered women the outside of my hand to bite (I don’t know if there’s a name for that part. It’s the part you use to karate-chop someone? What is that called anyway?). I’ve shocked myself a couple of times when I heard myself tell a biting woman to “Make it hurt.” I’m not really a biter, though. ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2003, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/42 "2003-04-12T23:45:16Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by moi \* > \*\ ***Brief Hijack:** My post was in no way meant to stifle conversation about why people like pain, biting, being bitten (see Rhino’s post). I didn’t intend “overthinking” to be a judgemental statement and apologize that you found it so. What I did mean was that when I try to understand the pain-pleasure connection (in my own experience), I tend to overthink it. In the best situations, it boggles my mind; it the worst, it makes me worry over whether what I like is healthy or not. I honestly didn’t meant to single out Rhino’s Honey (you’re post was just the most recent post in the thread at the time). > > Sorry to take up space over this, but I didn’t want to get a snotty reputation. \*\* Ok no worries… I thought it sounded somewhat judgemental (like you pictured me sitting over my cornflakes mulling over the whys and wherefores of all this)… but it was miscommunication/misunderstanding - it happens. Maybe I misunderstood it cos I’m not having the best day in the universe today?☹ oh well, we live and learn… ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2003, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/43 "2003-04-12T23:53:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > **Ooooh! Can we watch? 😃** You are soooooooooooooo bad 😃 ---
**Author:** ![FaerieBeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e95f7d/32.png) [@FaerieBeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FaerieBeth)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/44 "2003-04-13T01:07:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by cuauhtemoc \* > \*\* I’ve offered women the outside of my hand to bite (I don’t know if there’s a name for that part. It’s the part you use to karate-chop someone? What is that called anyway?). \*\* Oh! Oh! I know what you mean. My husband bites my hand sometimes, but not the karate chopping side. I like for him to bite the fleshy part just under where my thumb connects to my hand. _swoon_ FB ---
**Author:** ![soulburnz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@soulburnz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/soulburnz)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/45 "2003-04-13T01:25:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by that\_darn\_cat \* > \*\*I like biting…as any of you who have been paying attention have probably figured out. 🙂 I’m not so big on being bitten, thuogh recently I discovered I like being bitten on my…ulp…man bits. :eek: Even to the point of mild bruising. \*\* Okay I just have to know if anyone else has encountered the “biting of the man bits”. I was performing oral sex on this guy (damn that sounds so clinical :rolleyes: ) and he wanted me to bite him - hard ! I tried a few times - he kept saying harder… I just couldn’t do it… must be the endorphins that get all worked up during sex that elevates our pain threashold. Another guy wanted his balls twisted… very hard. Anyone else like having that done ? or have been asked to do it ? Biting or twisting ? Anyone ? Bueller ? ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/46 "2003-04-13T01:27:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by FaerieBeth \* > **Oh! Oh! I know what you mean. My husband bites my hand sometimes, but not the karate chopping side. I like for him to bite the fleshy part just under where my thumb connects to my hand. _swoon_** I think thats an acu-pressure point for the relief of pain - I think you’re supposed to pinch it when you have a head ache - could be part of the reason you like it there? ---
**Author:** ![Cosmopolitan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/94ad74/32.png) [@Cosmopolitan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cosmopolitan)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/47 "2003-04-13T01:35:49Z")
Hmmmmm… _lascivious grin_ I enjoy being both the biter and the bitten - depends on my mood: I have a keychain that says, “Bite me - Literally!”, but I also have a reputation as a biter, even just flirting (gently biting a hand or finger, let’s say). So…yeah. 😉 And I, too, was a bit woozy after reading **Davebear** ’s post. Ohmy. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Branwen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ea924/32.png) [@Branwen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Branwen)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/48 "2003-04-13T02:01:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*Only you and **Branwen** seemed to appreciate _my_ post, but at least the others ignored it, rather than being snotty. \*\* Oohhhh, yeah. I’m still fanning my face.😉 ---
**Author:** ![FaerieBeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e95f7d/32.png) [@FaerieBeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FaerieBeth)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/49 "2003-04-13T02:29:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Rhino’sHoney \* > \*\*I think thats an acu-pressure point for the relief of pain - I think you’re supposed to pinch it when you have a head ache - could be part of the reason you like it there? \*\* After a little research, I discovered this particular area (the base of the thumb) is called the Mount of Venus and is linked to sex drive! Maybe that has something to do with it! 😉 FB ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/50 "2003-04-13T02:40:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by soulburnz \* > \*\*and he wanted me to bite him - hard ! I tried a few times - he kept saying harder… I just couldn’t do it… \*\* Thank you! Now I don’t feel like such a wuss. > [@](#): > > \*\*Another guy wanted his balls twisted… very hard. Anyone else like having that done ? or have been asked to do it ? Biting or twisting ? \*\* :eek: YooOoowieeE! Hell NO! :eek: I would say that guy was…what would the Politically Correct phrase be?..aw, who am I kidding? I don’t do PC…he’s a freak. (If there’s someone here who’s into this, no offence intended.) ---
**Author:** ![Omorka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/50afbb/32.png) [@Omorka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omorka)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/51 "2003-04-13T02:48:52Z")
Hmm . . . I seem to be the prude on this thread! (A **very** unusual position for me to be in, BTW.) I like being nibbled, quite a lot, but actual biting is generally a turn off-for me. There are a couple of spots along the tops of my shoulders to the base of the neck that are exceptions, and a partner who likes to bite is directed there, where as long as s/he doesn’t break skin, it’s all good. 😃 But anyone who bites me elsewhere is (a) breaking the mood for me completely, at least for that night, and (b) about to get the lecture on negotiating power-play beforehand, which will probably break the mood for them. Because I’m not into it, I generally don’t bite others unless specifically directed to do so. However, I take directions well, as long as they don’t want me to break skin. (Blood-play is **so** not my scene.) ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/52 "2003-04-13T02:54:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Cosmopolitan \* > \*\*I also have a reputation as a biter, even just flirting \*\* So… **Cosmo** …how YOU _OW!_…do_OW!_…ing? Sheesh! I can’t even wink 'cause my eye’s still twitching. > [@](#): > > \*\*And I, too, was a bit woozy after reading **Davebear** ’s post. Ohmy. 😃 \*\* 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/53 "2003-04-13T03:17:16Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Branwen \* > \*\*Oohhhh, yeah. I’m still fanning my face.😉 \*\* Hmm. “Fanning my face”. I don’t think I’ve heard it called that, before. 😛 -Evil Dave ---
**Author:** ![Searching\_For\_Truth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@Searching\_For\_Truth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Searching_For_Truth)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/54 "2003-04-13T03:43:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\* I _knew_ we were compatible. 😉 \*\* And the more I read from/about you, the more I am convinced! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Elvis_Rojo)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 11:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/55 "2003-04-13T11:42:10Z")
I’m a big fan of foreplay and kissing and the like, and in my opinion, teeth are a definite. I’m not a big fan of sharp biting though; the concept of breaking the skin is kinda frightening. I’m generally a very soft kinda guy, so all my nibbles and such tend to be rather light, until the girl I’m with requests a bit more preasure. I love biting the lower lip! Mmmmm…When kissing, I also like to have my tongue bitten a bit. Again, nothing severely hard, but if she closes her teeth on it and slowly pulls back, or lets me slowly pull my tongue back, that’s really fucking sexy. I’m also a HUGE fan of tummies!! There’s nothing finer in my mind than a woman with a tummy that you can come up behind her and just cup your hand around, and if she’s got one, it doesn’t take much for her to get me on my knees worshiping it. Nibbles are nice all around, especially the ear lobes, back of the neck, base of the neck, shoulders, rib cage, sides, lower back, and, of course, there’s always room for a nice bite on the butt. 🙂 The calves and thighs are enjoyable places to get a nice mouthful, but it’s really fun to nibble the back of the knees. My favorites places to get a nice sized bite though are definitely the tummy area, and the inside of the thigh. All the way up, especially right in the crook by that tendon (you know, where there’s that little dip). Also, what I really love is to nibble that little spot right around the pubes. When a woman has her legs closed, there’s generally this really thin, soft line in the pelvic mound between where the pubes stop and the crease of the thighs. I find that absolutely adorable and love to nibble right there. I’m not a big fan of putting my teeth on her actual genitals, I tend to like to just treat that with my tongue, but nipples are fun. I like to suckle them while resting my bottom teeth along the base of the nipple. Again, if the girl requests a bit more preassure, I’ll gladly oblige, but I’m always a little scared of actually gnawing the thing off, so I try to make sure I don’t get too carried away (one too many zombie films, I guess). As for what I like having bitten…again, my lips and tongue (suprisingly, having the upper lip bitten is quite exciting as well) are necessity while kissing, but I also enjoy being bitten on my lower neck, chest and shoulders. Nibbles on the earlobe are nice, as well as everywhere else, but my thighs are very ticklish, so nibbles there aren’t really that much of a good thing as far as I’m concerned. I do like having my a good deal of preasure dealt to my shoulders, lower neck and chest area, though. When things are going along really well, there’s nothing like a nice clamp down on the shoulder to say “Thank you.” I’m not too big a fan of hickies and the like, so having and leaving bite marks isn’t a big thing for me (although, leaving one on the inner thigh somewhere, or the tummy does make me a little happy…kinda like a “our little secred” kinda thing), but I do have to admit there’s one mark I don’t mind having cover my body: Claw marks! Not to create a hijack, but if you like teeth, I’m pretty sure you love having someone rake your back and chest with their fingernails as well. There’s nothing like looking in the mirror the next day and seeing an array of lines scattered across my back and chest. Now **THAT’S** fucking sexy! ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 11:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/56 "2003-04-13T11:52:03Z")
Oh my I’m in desperate need of a cold drink… cold shower probably too 😛 **El Elvis Rojo** I’ll remember that thing about the tongue when kissing - I never did that… sounds very nice to me! Guuuddddd post too hmmmmmmmmmmm … ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 12:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/57 "2003-04-13T12:59:16Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by El Elvis Rojo \* > \*\*I’m also a HUGE fan of tummies!! \*\* Amen, brother! ---
**Author:** ![Cosmopolitan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/94ad74/32.png) [@Cosmopolitan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cosmopolitan)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/58 "2003-04-13T15:41:29Z")
I’m going to go pass out now… 😛 Oh, and **Davebear**? I don’t bite _hard_…unless you want me to. 😉 Not into puncture wounds, myself. ---
**Author:** ![Luna\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c57346/32.png) [@Luna\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Luna_Child)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/59 "2003-04-13T16:42:26Z")
mm, teeth… neck, collarbone, ears…it’s all good. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138/60 "2003-04-13T21:40:25Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Cosmopolitan \* > \*\*Oh, and **Davebear**? I don’t bite _hard_…unless you want me to. 😉 Not into puncture wounds, myself. \*\* Well, that’s a relief. 😉 That image still cracks me up, though. I really wasn’t picturing severed digits. Actually, it sounds kind of sexy, which surprises me, a bit… err, a little. Of course, you better know where those hands have been _before_ you bite them. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/biting-who-likes-it/168138.md?page=4)