# BJs...are they really worth it? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 27, 2000, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828 "2000-11-27T04:54:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Skelji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b38774/32.png) [@Skelji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skelji)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2000, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/21 "2000-11-27T17:01:18Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by evilbeth \* > \*\*Wow. I have admirers. Ok, well, _one_ admirer. But apparently he only loves me for my BJ conversation! Oh well, thanks anyway, Dire Wolf! šŸ˜‰ \*\* **evilbeth** , itā€™s not just your proficiency at fellatio, but also the pride in workwomanship, the quality effort, the thoughtfulness, and your Forum-like visual description that just make you so damn sexy! What guy wouldnā€™t admire that? (Wow, this is turning me on. Itā€™s a good thing Iā€™m at work and sitting behind a desk ;)) ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2000, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/22 "2000-11-27T17:18:56Z")
This topic keeps coming up. ---
**Author:** ![gobear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8dc957/32.png) [@gobear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gobear)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2000, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/23 "2000-11-27T17:29:48Z")
As a gay man, I find giving to be much more pleasurable than receiving. I enjoy giving a guy pleasure through the use of the tongue and throat muscles, but I find that most gay men (in my experience) give head as well as they kiss, i.e. not well at all. Although when I have been with a guy who knows his stuff, itā€™s unbelievably good. ---
**Author:** ![hypergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/49beb7/32.png) [@hypergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hypergirl)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2000, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/24 "2000-11-27T17:53:19Z")
I love giving head because I like knowing that I am giving pleasure. I also love the feeling of having something in my mouth. Thatā€™s the same reason that I enjoy sucking on fingers tongues, and inanimate objects. ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2000, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/25 "2000-11-27T20:14:33Z")
Hey, I know _Iā€™m_ getting all light-headed here. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2000, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/26 "2000-11-27T20:34:24Z")
**Welfy** , go to your room. You are grounded for the next few years, young lady. ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/27 "2000-11-28T01:04:40Z")
Well, the wife and I have a physically open marriageā€¦ with boundaries and everything, it works out quite well. My wife, I should have said, is _mostly_ unable to do itā€¦ sometimes, when her jaw isnā€™t bothering her, she can do it for very brief periodsā€¦ but I donā€™t complain any moreā€¦ the pleasure isntā€™ worth watching her hurt herself for my gain. Ah well. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Cynical](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@Mr.Cynical](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Cynical)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/28 "2000-11-28T01:22:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > \*\* > This topic keeps coming up. \*\* As does the question of how long it will take handy to reach 10,000 posts. With this kind of lengthy diatribe, I predict an extra month, at minimum šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![TVeblen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4bbf92/32.png) [@TVeblen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TVeblen)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/29 "2000-11-28T02:41:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > \*\* > This topic keeps coming up. \*\* Sorry to tag along, **M.Cynical** , but this one cracked me up, too. Congrats, **handy**! That was short, sly and _perfect!_ Not that anything discussed here will be of remotest applied use to you until youā€™re at least 25, **Welfy** , but good sex ainā€™t an exchange of goods. Let me rephrase thatā€¦ When it _works_, the whole shebang kinda takes on a life of its own, a very personal gestalt. :::gets slightly bug-eyed::: See, it isnā€™t a matter of Act A with Ick-factor 4 to be exchanged for Act B of Ick-Factor 3. Mother oā€™ pearl, someone else take over here. Iā€™m a dud at birds 'n bees discussions. Veb ---
**Author:** ![Silo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ac91a4/32.png) [@Silo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silo)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/30 "2000-11-28T02:45:12Z")
Welfy, you can use a BJ in your favor: by telling him to return the favorā€“if you know what I mean. ---
**Author:** ![Rich\_G7subs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/85e7bf/32.png) [@Rich\_G7subs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rich_G7subs)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/31 "2000-11-28T02:48:39Z")
posted by evilbeth \>\>\>\>\>Itā€™s just like doing anything elseā€“you get out of it what you put into it. If you are just sucking to get him off, he will get off and that will be that. However, if you are massaging with your tongue, caressing other parts of his nether regions with your fingers, paying attention to his moans and responding to them, then he (and you) will enjoy a thoroughly fulfilling experience. \<\<\<\< ::adjusts shirt collar:: Whoaā€¦Did it get hot in here,or is it Beth? ---
**Author:** ![Welfy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e56c9b/32.png) [@Welfy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Welfy)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/32 "2000-11-28T02:48:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Silo \* > \*\*Welfy, you can use a BJ in your favor: by telling him to return the favorā€“if you know what I mean. > > \*\* Oh, but of course. :^) ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/33 "2000-11-28T02:54:52Z")
ā€¦somehow I think I would rather that you had posted something along the lines of **Convincing Him to Give You Head ā€“ is it Worth It?** Have fun, do things just because you feel like it, and be playful. But donā€™t forget to be selfish sometimes when it comes to how you play with the boy-people, OK? ---
**Author:** ![Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df705f/32.png) [@Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fairy_Princess_Kitty)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 3:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/34 "2000-11-28T03:30:36Z")
Well! that was certainlyā€¦ ummā€¦ interesting _idly looks around for a certasin doper then pouts_ So evilbeth, any other useful little tips about the subject? Or anyone else willing to give advice? Kitty Iā€™m an angel really ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/35 "2000-11-28T03:43:32Z")
Personally, Iā€™m finding this whole thread a little hard to swallow. ---
**Author:** ![nashiitashii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7c8e57/32.png) [@nashiitashii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nashiitashii)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/36 "2000-11-28T03:59:59Z")
I enjoy givng people pleasure of all kinds. Why shouldnā€™t I enjoy watching someone and hearing them while I do something they enjoy me doing? Plus, if Iā€™m with a guy who makes noise while I do it, it makes me that much hotter to make him come. Just hearing how you affect someone is arousing. I agree with hypergirl. ā€œI also love the feeling of having something in my mouth.ā€ ---
**Author:** ![Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df705f/32.png) [@Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fairy_Princess_Kitty)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/37 "2000-11-28T04:06:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by ssskuggiii \* > \*\*I agree with hypergirl. ā€œI also love the feeling of having something in my mouth.ā€ \*\* Yay! Iā€™m not the only one with an oral fixation, and here I thought I was a freak. Kitty ---
**Author:** ![malkavia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malkavia/32/5621_2.png) [@malkavia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/malkavia)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/38 "2000-11-28T04:11:05Z")
Its funny, I was just considering starting a thread concerning this very topicā€¦ I still might, as my question itself is completely unrelatedā€¦ ā€¦But a girl can get ALOT more from it than just a mouthful of jizz. I personally love the feeling of my boyfriends hands in my hairā€¦ I like knowing he feels good because of me. I love the sounds he makes and the cute curling of his toes that Im sure he doesnt think I noticeā€¦ (Heā€™s probably totally unaware that heā€™s doing it, but its cute) I rarely swallow but its not a personal thing, I get a really bad sore throat whenever I do, so I try to avoid it unless Ive got Pepsi or cigarettes on hand. However, sometimes the mood strikes and the situation is just so damned intense that you -want- to swallow it all and then some. It really is something to be taken on an individual basis. Peoples tastes differ from time to time. (har har) Iā€™d much rather give than receive, but Im slowly learning to appreciate being on both ends as Ive got a beau with the same problem. =) Its a very giving relationship (har har part II) I think giving is alot easier because you know what to do. I feel incredibly out of place and unsure what to do with myself when Im on the receiving end. Does anyone else have that issue? ---
**Author:** ![malkavia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malkavia/32/5621_2.png) [@malkavia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/malkavia)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/39 "2000-11-28T04:13:04Z")
**Yay! Iā€™m not the only one with an oral fixation, and here I thought I was a freak.** Its pretty common, Ive got it to. Its lead to the beheading of many pens, and the consumption of an ungodly amount of cigarettes. And probably the ingestion of too much food. _cough_ ---
**Author:** ![Kyberneticist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dc4da7/32.png) [@Kyberneticist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kyberneticist)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/40 "2000-11-28T04:36:01Z")
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