# BJs...are they really worth it? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 27, 2000, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828 "2000-11-27T04:54:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![evilbeth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/evilbeth/32/2268_2.png) [@evilbeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/evilbeth)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/41 "2000-11-28T05:23:14Z")
People are giving some good related advice [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=48347). ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/42 "2000-11-28T17:06:36Z")
When a woman get’s mad, BJ’s seem to be the first thing to go. “I mean I’ve talked to a lot of my guy friends and some say that it’s a whole lot better to give than to recieve.” So do your guy friends give each other BJ’s? ---
**Author:** ![Broken\_Doll](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bbce88/32.png) [@Broken\_Doll](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broken_Doll)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 5:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/43 "2000-11-28T17:20:15Z")
I’ve also got an oral fixation, so no, you aren’t alone Kitty. ---
**Author:** ![SoMoMom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/41988e/32.png) [@SoMoMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SoMoMom)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/44 "2000-11-28T17:46:29Z")
I agree with evilbeth. Also I think there might be more even. Pheromones maybe? And that control thing too. That’s a big turn-on. (Pst, I don’t think you have to wait until you’re married. Just until you are in a committed monogamous relationship. I can’t even imagine doing that with a prophylactic in place.) ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/45 "2000-11-28T17:55:57Z")
My two cents - I find it a turn-on but more because I know what it is doing for him. So, I am getting excited because he is. Next thing - always nice if he is freshly showered too, but not necessary. ---
**Author:** ![Rebo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rebo/32/13005_2.png) [@Rebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rebo)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/46 "2000-11-28T19:32:31Z")
Well, to be honest, I think it’s better to receive than to give, in this instance! 🙂 I don’t mind giving head, but it’s not my favorite. Besides, with my husband, it takes _forever_. He never makes any noise, except just breathing a little hard. I have learned after 12 years to look for other clues as to the imminence of his - er - eruption. Tightening of the balls, and even more rigidity. But I wish he would moan or something, to give me a clue as to when I shouldn’t change a thing. Moans and heavy breathing are a definite turn-on. And we’ve learned that he shouldn’t “do me” first, or I won’t be as passionate with him. ---
**Author:** ![Welfy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e56c9b/32.png) [@Welfy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Welfy)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/47 "2000-11-28T21:49:52Z")
Thanks for all the information, guys! This will help me in my…studies. Yes, that’s it. Studies. 😃 Actually, to tell you the truth, just because I talk about something doesn’t mean I’ll go out and do it. I don’t intend on giving anyone a blowjob anytime soon. I just tend to harbor curiosity at times. Why the double standard though? Hypergirl talks about giving head quite often and (I’m pretty sure; correct me if I’m wrong) she is younger than me, while people’s replies to me are, “Bad! You shouldn’t do that!” etc. Must be welf discrimination… Homer, I’m up for your offer, but only if you marry me. 🙂 Then again, after reading the TMI thread, I’m not so sure if I’d want to do that… _ducks & runs_ ---
**Author:** ![Surgoshan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@Surgoshan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Surgoshan)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/48 "2000-11-28T22:25:51Z")
Welf, honey, 1. you long ago established that you are a waif as well as a welf 2. you said you’d marry ME! (If it’s not true, then I made it up and it’s still true) 3. Wanna visit cornell? ---
**Author:** ![Silo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ac91a4/32.png) [@Silo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silo)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2000, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/49 "2000-11-28T22:49:16Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Welfy \* > \*\*I don’t intend on giving anyone a blowjob anytime soon. > \*\* If you happen to change your mind… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![lolagranola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ea5d25/32.png) [@lolagranola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lolagranola)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2000, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/50 "2000-11-29T02:52:18Z")
I enjoy it. The whole act of doing it is a turn on. I’ve known a few women who think it’s disgusting, and I don’t really understand that point of view. ---
**Author:** ![tubagirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b77776/32.png) [@tubagirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tubagirl)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2000, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828/51 "2000-11-29T04:38:00Z")
I enjoy giving oral sex to my husband, especially when used as forepla and I don’t bring him to climax. What I don’t like is the ejaculation in my mouth. It triggers my gag reflex, and you know how sexy it is to have someone heaving on top of you during a orgasm. When he “plays” games with me, “making” me give him oral sex, I get soooooo horny it isn’t funny. I dunno… (maybe that was too graphic?) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bjs-are-they-really-worth-it/42828.md?page=2)