# Blow Job Technique (TMI) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 8, 2003, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952 "2003-07-08T06:45:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2003, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/21 "2003-07-09T16:11:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Bongmaster \* > \*\*Just FYI on using the hand thing, you may think you’re being clever but believe me the guy knows it. The hand should be considered a supplement, not a replacement, for ideal oral sex. \*\* Depends upon how long he takes. Sometimes if it’s been a really long session you get “blowlock” (the combination of lockjaw, and blowjob that occurs when your lips go numb and your jaws no longer function properly:D). And we don’t do it because we “think we’re being clever” SHEESH. You honestly think that we DON’T know that the man can tell the difference between our hands and our mouth? How condescending! Hopefully the man has enough of a brain to REALIZE that if we’ve been going down on him for a half an hour and he’s not done, that our mouths are going to be tired, especially if he’s somewhat well-endowed. Though to tell the truth, I’ve had boyfriends say that they had a difficult time telling the difference (I have an interesting stroking technique, when I DO bring my hands into play for that “last stretch”). ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2003, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/22 "2003-07-09T16:51:25Z")
Whether giving or receiving, for me hands are a distraction, and you might say “cheating.” They just don’t feel the same as a warm wet mouth. But I realize other people feel differrently - “not that there’s anything wrong with that.” ---
**Author:** ![badmana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@badmana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badmana)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2003, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/23 "2003-07-09T17:00:44Z")
My GF uses both mouth and hands but for the last several dozen BJs she’s had me use my hands while she uses her mouth. She’s complained about how long it takes me to finish so after a little solo BJ on her part, she’ll grab my hand and have me “help out”. Works for me! ---
**Author:** ![ouisey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9fc29f/32.png) [@ouisey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ouisey)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2003, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/24 "2003-07-09T21:17:41Z")
one hand tickling the balls one finger tickling the prostate and a full deep throat with plenty of tonguing action. Occasionally, he likes little fluttering movements on the shaft with my fingers. He says its like little tongues all over it. ---
**Author:** ![X\_Slayer\_ALE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/bbe5ce/32.png) [@X\_Slayer\_ALE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/X_Slayer_ALE)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2003, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/25 "2003-07-09T21:41:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Mikie \* > \*\*I cannot believe you just asked this. > > Yknow, there are a few _guys_ around here that give blowjobs, too. > > Homophobe. \*\* Homophobe speaking out here. I ws blissfull in my ignorance here, thank you very much. ☹ now bad visuals are flooding in my head… need distraction! must look …at… nude …women! AAAUUGHH!! ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2003, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/26 "2003-07-09T22:16:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Otto \* > \*\*So let me see if I understand. You want to know how straight guys prefer blow jobs but not gay ones? Dude, you’re messed up. > > Giving: Mouth. Hands. Cheeks. Chin. A few times, in my enthusiam, nose. Hands on shaft, on scrotum, on taint, up the chest to nipples, slightly penetrating, fully penetrating and so on. Hands and mouth in constant motion. > > Receiving: All of the above, please and thank you! \*\* Otto not only speaks for the trees, that also speaks for me. And… the thing I do that most people seem to forget is to USE YOUR TONGUE! Geez. Your tongue can be doing things while the mouth provides suction. Ok, my tongue piercing augments this effect. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2003, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/27 "2003-07-09T22:27:41Z")
The tongue is absolutely the most important thing. My next boyfriend’s gonna be a giraffe. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/28 "2003-07-10T00:06:31Z")
Sorry, I’m taken. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Cosmopolitan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/94ad74/32.png) [@Cosmopolitan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cosmopolitan)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/29 "2003-07-10T00:56:25Z")
_chuckle_ I use both, but I use the hands more as an addition to than in place of my mouth. And yeah, sometimes I’ll let up with my suction for a little bit if my jaw’s starting to ache, but I still use tongue & at least one hand, while the other hand’s exploring. ---
**Author:** ![\_etalhea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/779978/32.png) [@\_etalhea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_etalhea)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/30 "2003-07-10T04:16:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > \*\*Depends on what’s in their mouth. If they got braces with rubber bands, ah, oh my. \*\* My GF has braces. Two words: Lotsa Wax ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/31 "2003-07-10T04:35:11Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by //\etalhea|) \* > \*\*Two words: Lotsa Wax \*\* hunh? What wax? :o The official SDMB Blowjob Smilie! ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/32 "2003-07-10T04:44:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Major Kong \* > \*\*However, I don’t think I am a homophobe for forgetting to include gays. \*\* You’re not. And Mikie’s wrong. You’re no more obligated to include gay guys in your thread about oral sex than a gay guy would be obligated to include straights in one of his threads. Your orientation is your own, just as much as Mikie’s is. In my opinion, Mikie was more than a little fast on the draw with the “homophobe” card and wrong on tghe issue besides. In any event, you don’t have any control over who posts here or what they post. ---
**Author:** ![dnooman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/839c29/32.png) [@dnooman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dnooman)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 6:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/33 "2003-07-10T06:29:58Z")
What, no “mouth only” fans? My GF had the prowess to use her tongue in the right way, i.e. on the glans, and alternate head work with deep-throating. No hand needed at all. The trick is in the sincerity, that’s the hard part to come by (both puns intended). ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 11:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/34 "2003-07-10T11:42:16Z")
I’m a mouth only fan, but it’s only because I prefer her hands tied behind her back. ---
**Author:** ![OESGal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecae2f/32.png) [@OESGal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OESGal)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/35 "2003-07-10T16:26:42Z")
My husband likes it when I give him a blow job and hum at the same time. He says it feels cool. I also use my hands with my mouth, cause I can’t fit him all in, along with the other hand on his scrotum. He says I give the best blow jobs 🙂 Course, I wouldn’t know not having given them to anyone else 😉 ---
**Author:** ![mipiace](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb9ed0/32.png) [@mipiace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mipiace)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/36 "2003-07-10T17:02:04Z")
Okay are you guys going to hate me if I brag a little and tell you I gave a fabulous one last night in the gazebo on the lawn of the State Capital building? My bf has totally gotten into this risque outdoor thing lately…sigh. Crazy man - I love his spontenaity though… so in addition to technique, maybe other things come into play as well like venue and sponenaity and chemestry…you think? ---
**Author:** ![Uncommon\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Uncommon\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uncommon_Sense)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/37 "2003-07-10T17:17:42Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Otto \* > \*\*So let me see if I understand. You want to know how straight guys prefer blow jobs but not gay ones? Dude, you’re messed up. > > Giving: Mouth. Hands. Cheeks. Chin. A few times, in my enthusiam, nose. Hands on shaft, on scrotum, on taint, up the chest to nipples, slightly penetrating, fully penetrating and so on. Hands and mouth in constant motion. > > Receiving: All of the above, please and thank you! \*\* Is this an example of a homosexual \* forcing\* his/her views or lifestyles on others? Or am I reading too much into that. I personally don`t have an issue with it. I just thought it was common courtesy among gays to not do this. (Well, since it isn`t exactly mainstream yet). If the OP wanted gay input he would`ve asked. **Otto** you could have answered without playing the gay card. **Mikie** too. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/38 "2003-07-10T17:42:20Z")
What’s with all the gay shit? The man asked how guys prefer to get blowjobs. Not straight guys, just guys. And he asked how women prefer to give them. He didn’t ask how men prefer to give them because, well, he’s straight and doesn’t automatically think of men when he thinks of somone giving a blowjob. So sue him. Besides, he was asking about something _as it relates to **his** sex life_. Presumably, his sex life doesn’t include blowjobs from men, so discussion of how men give them is pretty irrelevant. Not bad or dirty or wrong or frightening, just not the information he was looking for. This is quite possibly the most ridiculous example of manufactured offense I’ve ever seen. ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/39 "2003-07-10T17:42:45Z")
Dude, I think they’re just giving the OP a hard time… ---
**Author:** ![pizzabrat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e9c0ed/32.png) [@pizzabrat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pizzabrat)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952/40 "2003-07-10T18:04:44Z")
X~Slayer(ALE): > [@](#): > > now bad visuals are flooding in my head… need distraction! must look …at… nude …women! AAAUUGHH!! Ha-ha! You’re thinking about boys doing it! Nanny nanny boo-boo! mipiace: > [@](#): > > Okay are you guys going to hate me if I brag a little and tell you I gave a fabulous one last night in the gazebo on the lawn of the State Capital building? Oh my God! I _hate_ you! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blow-job-technique-tmi/186952.md?page=3)