# Blowjobs--Women who Don't and Women who Won't **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 15, 2009, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152 "2009-07-15T21:08:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2009, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/81 "2009-07-16T21:08:28Z")
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**Author:** ![MOIDALIZE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e274bd/32.png) [@MOIDALIZE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MOIDALIZE)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2009, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/82 "2009-07-16T21:12:13Z")
8========D :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2009, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/83 "2009-07-16T21:13:22Z")
It’s the Lone Ranger’s penis! Alternatively… 🆒 8========D ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2009, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/84 "2009-07-16T21:16:43Z")
> [@Jerseyman](#): > > Originally Posted by Jerseyman View Post > I must admit, I’d much rather do it for a woman than be done to. Some women let their teeth get in the way and I just don’t like the thought of losing control and ramming it down her throat. She can only spread it over my face, not choke me! > [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Simple fix- lie down while you’re getting it and put your hands behind your head. Pretty hard to do any ramming that way. Agreed. Also, most women aren’t going to let you choke them to death with your cock. Trust me, they’ll say something. Which also works well for teeth. You might try something like: “Whoa!!! Teeth!!!” 😉 Me, I love giving head. LOVE. I orgasm from it. I do it to completion in the absence of a request to stop and do something else. Lack of interest in giving or receiving oral sex would be a dealbreaker for me. ---
**Author:** ![Kobal2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kobal2/32/20_2.png) [@Kobal2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kobal2)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2009, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/85 "2009-07-16T22:07:54Z")
> [@Green\_Bean](#): > > Everybody: Have you ever met a man who wouldn’t let a woman perform oral sex on him? Why? Are you one? And was this a dealbreaker for you women who do like to do it? _sheepish_ Err… yup. I am, or rather, was one. I suppose I still am, to some extent. My current GF is very, very BJ happy so my natural “you really don’t have to do this if you don’t want to / it’s demeaning to you” reaction kind of softened over the years, and now while I still won’t ask for it, I’m okay with it and have learned to just relax and enjoy. But it used to make me very uncomfortable, and I’m quite convince it would again if I started a new relationship. As to the why… well, not 100% sure. Having been raised on porn probably has much to do with it, combined with the heavy dose of misandry cum self-loathing I carry. I must equate fellatio with the kind of routine misoginy that’s everywhere in porn, and am afraid I could turn into _that guy_ should I let myself slip, you know ? A part of the thought process could also be “you don’t get anything out of it and you get splooge in your mouth, so why oh why would you do it ? I don’t want you to “sacrifice” for an orgasm of mine” - very much a double standard, since I enjoy eating girls out very much. But hey, I never claimed to be consistent, or even coherent 😛 Ironically, none of the girls I’ve slept with had any problem with BJs,and all found it extremely odd of me not to want or ask for it. Nevermind stopping one midway through because it just feels too awkward… ---
**Author:** ![Love\_Rhombus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/love_rhombus/32/10694_2.png) [@Love\_Rhombus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Love_Rhombus)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2009, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/86 "2009-07-16T22:41:01Z")
I’ve always seen blowjobs as being a special feature, somehow more intimate than sex in some ways. My first serious GF would not do it, I never learned why. Sex-mad, but no blowjobs. I drunkenly broke up with her in college over this fact (and left an answering machine message to that account, something I’m still ashamed of). Second serious GF did do it after I half-seriously suggested it as a reprocity for her first oral orgasm. I unfortunatly enjoyed it too much and did not prepare her for my “happiness”, having gotten into it too much (Another embarrasing lapse. It was something I asked her to do again a few times, but she wouldn’t.) After that, she never finished one. I tried to teacher what I’d seen/heard about proper technique, but her beginner skills were still quite enough for me. (Especially while I was on the phone to my mother, which was very funny later.) Compliments are like blowjobs; if you have to ask for one they’re not as nice, IMHO. ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2009, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/87 "2009-07-16T23:05:37Z")
I just went into the kitchen to make myself some eggs benedict. Sadly, I’m no longer flexible enough. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/96bed5/32.png) [@Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Patty_O_Furniture)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/88 "2009-07-17T01:28:20Z")
> [@](#): > > A friend of mine didn’t used to give her husband (then fiance) blow jobs. She said she wasn’t very good at it and hurt him once. I hear this from time to time from several of my straight friends. Sometimes I feel just a bit sorry for the straight guys 😃 ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/89 "2009-07-17T01:37:07Z")
> [@Patty\_O\_Furniture](#): > > I hear this from time to time from several of my straight friends. Sometimes I feel just a bit sorry for the straight guys 😃 To your advantage, guys in general have bigger mouths. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/90 "2009-07-17T01:39:30Z")
Also, bigger teeth. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/91 "2009-07-17T01:51:39Z")
41-year old female, separated. It’s always been part of my repertoire. I love doing it if the guy loves getting it and it shows; however, unfortunately, it’s reciprocated disappointingly infrequently. I was married for five years and we were together 3 years before that. He went down on me maybe 3 or 4 times. That’s fucked up! In the past, I dated 2…ONLY 2 guys who did it well and willingly. Can someone explain this. It seems like way more women will give blowjobs, compared to the number of men who will go down on us. What’s up?:dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/92 "2009-07-17T01:55:10Z")
Obligatory [Chris Rock](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YIv4phFcAAs) link. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/93 "2009-07-17T02:24:34Z")
I’m 38, American, female and I do. In fact, it’s a regular part of foreplay, but not very often the featured attraction. However, neither of my two oldest female friends do. One finds it uncomfortable and awkward, the other thinks it’s “gross” and unnatural. ---
**Author:** ![MOIDALIZE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e274bd/32.png) [@MOIDALIZE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MOIDALIZE)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/94 "2009-07-17T02:32:22Z")
What about balls? Are you ladies giving enough attention to the balls? ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/95 "2009-07-17T02:37:21Z")
Can you _ever_ give enough attention to the balls? I submit that you cannot. ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/96 "2009-07-17T02:40:12Z")
> [@MOIDALIZE](#): > > What about balls? Are you ladies giving enough attention to the balls? I remember a talk with a friend, years ago. She liked giving head, and read a magazine article with “tips”, and decided to use some of them on her then fiance… Turns out the fiance didn’t like some of the tips, which included your suggestion. She brought up the article, and he said “well, they’re wrong!”… So I’m guessing it varies by guy?.. ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/97 "2009-07-17T02:41:41Z")
Don’t most things? If you’re giving every guy the \*same \*blowjob, then you really are doing it wrong, at least most of the time. ---
**Author:** ![PapSett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@PapSett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PapSett)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/98 "2009-07-17T02:41:47Z")
> [@MOIDALIZE](#): > > 8========D :eek: I gotta say… this made me laugh out loud! ---
**Author:** ![MOIDALIZE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e274bd/32.png) [@MOIDALIZE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MOIDALIZE)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/99 "2009-07-17T02:43:03Z")
> [@KarlGrenze](#): > > I remember a talk with a friend, years ago. She liked giving head, and read a magazine article with “tips”, and decided to use some of them on her then fiance… > > Turns out the fiance didn’t like some of the tips, which included your suggestion. She brought up the article, and he said “well, they’re wrong!”… > > So I’m guessing it varies by guy?.. Was she smacking his sack around like a speed bag or something? Those women magazines are pure evil. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2009, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152/100 "2009-07-17T02:45:21Z")
> [@KarlGrenze](#): > > I remember a talk with a friend, years ago. She liked giving head, and read a magazine article with “tips”, and decided to use some of them on her then fiance… > > Turns out the fiance didn’t like some of the tips, which included your suggestion. She brought up the article, and he said “well, they’re wrong!”… This is as good a time as any to ask why women buy multiple issues of _Cosmopolitan_ when the sex tips are the same in every issue\*. I mean, if it was just a one-page feature on the back page, that’d be one thing, but they’re invariably given top billing on the cover (or at least printed in the biggest font). Let’s face it, none of you really give a shit what this month’s [del]Randomly Selected Female Entertainer[/del] Fun Fearless Female likes best about ice cream, do you? \*some combination of “play dress-up”, “try rope/handcuffs”, “try new positions”, “run your fingers down his back when he’s making his O face”, “don’t forget his nipples”, etc. Actually, the thing about the nipples is good advice. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/blowjobs-women-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503152.md?page=6)