# Bondage - Romantic Comedy - Movie **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [March 28, 2007, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782 "2007-03-28T02:44:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![WarmNPrickly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/d78d45/32.png) [@WarmNPrickly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WarmNPrickly)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/1 "2007-03-28T02:44:36Z")
I’m trying really hard to think of the name of this movie, but i have nothing. The most obvious thing was that it was a romantic comedy about bondage. this girl cuts herself alot, then her boss figures it out and he starts having sex with her. It’s not normal sex, it always involves some type of bondage. It ends when she stays at her desk for days without eating because he tells her to. It really is a good romantic comedy about weird love though. What is the name of this movie? ---
**Author:** ![Idlewild](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8491ac/32.png) [@Idlewild](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idlewild)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/2 "2007-03-28T02:46:21Z")
That’d be Secretary! ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/3 "2007-03-28T02:48:56Z")
Sounds like [Secretary](http://imdb.com/title/tt0274812/) (2002), which I haven’t seen myself but have heard of. James Spader and Maggie Gyllenhaal. ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 3:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/4 "2007-03-28T03:16:02Z")
Well, there’s so MANY maInstream bondage romantic comedies out there! But scanning ALL the titles out there, I’m gonna guess … Secretary! Call it a crazy hunch! ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/5 "2007-03-28T03:25:37Z")
Everybody beat me to it. Very weird movie. ---
**Author:** ![Flutterby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Flutterby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flutterby)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/6 "2007-03-28T03:32:49Z")
That would definitely be Secretary, though I didn’t get the vibe that actual sex was involved (at least until the very end during the honeymoon…). The reason he tells her to sit at his desk without moving, is to prove his point that they can’t live like that 24/7 (she just told him she loved him) and she does so to prove that they can, and that she loves him. I really love this movie. ---
**Author:** ![cmkeller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmkeller/32/118_2.png) [@cmkeller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmkeller)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/7 "2007-03-28T03:42:57Z")
Or perhaps it was Rio, by Duran Duran. ---
**Author:** ![WarmNPrickly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/d78d45/32.png) [@WarmNPrickly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WarmNPrickly)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 4:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/8 "2007-03-28T04:15:51Z")
I figured there could only be one. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/9 "2007-03-28T04:44:17Z")
Reading the title, I was thinking maybe _Bound and Gagged: A Love Story_ but that doesn’t fit the description in the OP. There was no cutting and the two lovers were both women. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 1:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/10 "2007-03-28T13:40:20Z")
[QUOTE=Flutterby] That would definitely be Secretary, though I didn’t get the vibe that actual sex was involved (at least until the very end during the honeymoon..). The reason he tells her to sit at his desk without moving, is to prove his point that they can’t live like that 24/7 (she just told him she loved him) and she does so to prove that they can, and that she loves him. I really love this movie. [/QUOTE] I love it too. It seems weird but they are perfect for one another! ---
**Author:** ![Beaucarnea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c0e974/32.png) [@Beaucarnea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beaucarnea)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/11 "2007-03-28T13:50:19Z")
I loves this movie, too. I found it to be the most romantic movie ever- and I’m not much into sub/dom stuff. But I loved them both and wanted them together. Lid for every pot and all. ---
**Author:** ![Wee\_Bairn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/90db22/32.png) [@Wee\_Bairn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wee_Bairn)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/12 "2007-03-28T13:57:30Z")
Great movie- the best part is I think the first time Spader has her bent over his desk, pants off, and then leaves for a few minutes I think…the bemused look on her face, and not knowing what, if anything, is coming next, is great- that, and the full frontal scene of course. 🙂 Spader starred in the two most bizarre sex movies of the last 15 years- this and Crash (the real Crash, not that bullshit that won the Oscar). ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 2:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/13 "2007-03-28T14:07:28Z")
Except for the bondage, I thought it pretty much followed the romantic-movie formula, to its detriment. ---
**Author:** ![Flutterby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Flutterby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flutterby)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/14 "2007-03-28T14:36:49Z")
[QUOTE=Wee Bairn] Great movie- the best part is I think the first time Spader has her bent over his desk, pants off, and then leaves for a few minutes I think…the bemused look on her face, and not knowing what, if anything, is coming next, is great- that, and the full frontal scene of course. 🙂 [/QUOTE] They both have quite expressive faces. You can just see the moment he realizes she’s wearing a wedding dress and the panic as she declares her love. ---
**Author:** ![Raguleader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/258eb7/32.png) [@Raguleader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Raguleader)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/15 "2007-03-28T15:59:08Z")
[QUOTE=Evil Captor] Well, there’s so MANY maInstream bondage romantic comedies out there! But scanning ALL the titles out there, I’m gonna guess … Secretary! Call it a crazy hunch! [/QUOTE] Well, we know it’s not the answer now, but wouldn’t Exit to Eden count as a mainstream bondage romantic comedy? _thinks_ Wait, was there any bondage, or was it just a mainstream S&M romantic comedy? ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/16 "2007-03-28T15:59:43Z")
[QUOTE=Christopher] It’s not normal sex, it always involves some type of bondage. [/QUOTE] I think this is actually _The Emperor’s New Groove._ ---
**Author:** ![Unauthorized\_Cinnamon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/bc8723/32.png) [@Unauthorized\_Cinnamon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unauthorized_Cinnamon)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/17 "2007-03-28T20:11:23Z")
[QUOTE=Raguleader] Well, we know it’s not the answer now, but wouldn’t Exit to Eden count as a mainstream bondage romantic comedy? _thinks_ Wait, was there any bondage, or was it just a mainstream S&M romantic comedy? [/QUOTE] That’s the movie I thought of when I read the thread title. And yes, Paul Mercurio definitely gets tied up spreadeagle (standing) at one point, and, well . . . I’ll be in my bunk. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/18 "2007-03-28T20:31:40Z")
[QUOTE=Raguleader] Well, we know it’s not the answer now, but wouldn’t Exit to Eden count as a mainstream bondage romantic comedy? [/QUOTE] Except that it was neither funny, nor romantic. ---
**Author:** ![Moe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moe/32/2972_2.png) [@Moe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moe)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2007, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/19 "2007-03-28T20:35:19Z")
[QUOTE=Wee Bairn] Great movie- the best part is I think the first time Spader has her bent over his desk, pants off, and then leaves for a few minutes I think…the bemused look on her face, and not knowing what, if anything, is coming next, is great- that, and the full frontal scene of course. 🙂 Spader starred in the two most bizarre sex movies of the last 15 years- this and Crash (the real Crash, not that bullshit that won the Oscar). [/QUOTE] And don’t forget “Sex, Lies, and Videotape” (which is probably older than 15 years, but an interesting Spader alternative sex movie nonetheless). ---
**Author:** ![Raguleader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/258eb7/32.png) [@Raguleader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Raguleader)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2007, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782/20 "2007-03-29T00:01:18Z")
[QUOTE=Miller] Except that it was neither funny, nor romantic. [/QUOTE] Oh comon, I can’t be the only one who laughed at the “French Horns” line or the part where Dan Akroyd is fixing the gong? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bondage-romantic-comedy-movie/397782.md?page=2)