# Boyfriend doesn't trust any men out there. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 27, 2012, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boyfriend-doesnt-trust-any-men-out-there/614099 "2012-02-27T00:56:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Engineer\_Dude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9fc29f/32.png) [@Engineer\_Dude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Engineer_Dude)\ **Post date:** [February 29, 2012, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boyfriend-doesnt-trust-any-men-out-there/614099/61 "2012-02-29T19:57:20Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > [QUOTE=Kataskopo] > I’m not sure about him or his past relationships, barely know him. > But know that I remember, the girl told me went she went to a trip abroad she got drunk and almost has sex with someone, and apparently that made a big dent on them.\ Well, that changes things. He still isn’t acting right, but it sounds like he has a reason to be insecure and jealous. Yeah, your girlfriend going off and getting drunk and almost having sex with someone WILL make a big dent in your relationship! [/QUOTE] I’m surprised more people aren’t commenting on this. She almost had the drunken sex with the guy WHILE the two of them were in a relationship together, right? If it weren’t for this one little detail I’d be 100% on board with all the “Dump him, he’s an asshole!” people. ---
**Author:** ![Kataskopo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/aca169/32.png) [@Kataskopo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kataskopo)\ **Post date:** [February 29, 2012, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boyfriend-doesnt-trust-any-men-out-there/614099/62 "2012-02-29T21:42:00Z")
> [@Engineer\_Dude](#): > > I’m surprised more people aren’t commenting on this. She almost had the drunken sex with the guy WHILE the two of them were in a relationship together, right? If it weren’t for this one little detail I’d be 100% on board with all the “Dump him, he’s an asshole!” people. Well, I’m not sure about the details of the event, and she didn’t exactly said that they were going to have sex, more like she was drunk and the guy tried to coerce her into having sex. That made a dent on their relationship. I am not sure he’s as crazy as he seems, now that I think about it. I don’t talk to them very much, so it’s not like I have a “feeling” of the dynamics of their relationship. So, yeah, I’m gonna wait and see what happens next. ---
**Author:** ![Rich\_G7subs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/85e7bf/32.png) [@Rich\_G7subs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rich_G7subs)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2012, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boyfriend-doesnt-trust-any-men-out-there/614099/63 "2012-03-02T17:18:51Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > Well I don’t know, but isn’t it possible he’s been cheated on? Maybe he has trust issues that can be resolved. x2! I had this problem with my wife for the first 5 years we were married. Her Ex was a compulsive liar AND a cheat. Took a long time before she got over that. Also, her Mom and dad had that kind of relationship and she kinda thought it was normal. ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2012, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boyfriend-doesnt-trust-any-men-out-there/614099/64 "2012-03-02T18:18:22Z")
> [@Rich\_G7subs](#): > > x2! I had this problem with my wife for the first 5 years we were married. Her Ex was a compulsive liar AND a cheat. Took a long time before she got over that. Also, her Mom and dad had that kind of relationship and she kinda thought it was normal. So you followed her to any place where she might be dealing with men? ---
**Author:** ![Rich\_G7subs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/85e7bf/32.png) [@Rich\_G7subs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rich_G7subs)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2012, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boyfriend-doesnt-trust-any-men-out-there/614099/65 "2012-03-02T19:02:05Z")
> [@Illuminatiprimus](#): > > So you followed her to any place where she might be dealing with men? She had the trust issues, not me… How did you know!? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![gurujulp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ba9def/32.png) [@gurujulp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gurujulp)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2012, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boyfriend-doesnt-trust-any-men-out-there/614099/66 "2012-03-02T19:13:54Z")
> [@Kataskopo](#): > > I’m not sure about him or his past relationships, barely know him. > But know that I remember, the girl told me went she went to a trip abroad she got drunk and almost has sex with someone, and apparently that made a big dent on them. > > The thing that really worries me is that she clearly said to me, she can go with her lady friends and family without him, but whenever there’s another guy involved, he is coming over, because he feels so bad that she is going out with other guys that may harm her. > > She literally told me: > “no matter that i know you and I know you won’t do anything, he mistrusts you just because you are guys, and that makes me realize that she is afraid to lose me” > > And she says that I cannot understand because I don’t have a girlfriend, and maybe no one will ever want to understand her (yeah sure, because relationships are something so new that you are breaking new ground). > > I mean, really? I hate it when people says that I don’t understand because I don’t have a girlfriend. > [@Kataskopo](#): > > I said to her the same thing, but she said the boyfriend is afraid that we might physically force her to do something, and that’s why he feels better when coming over with her. > And then she goes saying that there’s a lot of insecurity in the streets and he would want to be there if something happens. There are several times that the pronouns have changed. I don’t recognize the OP, so I don’t know if this is a linguistic issue, or if the story is radically different and changed for a reason, but some of it seems a bit contrived. If someone told me that their boyfriend thought I might rape them if he wasn’t along to stop me, I would laugh my way right out of that relationship. I wouldn’t call that enough trust to be even acquaintances any longer. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boyfriend-doesnt-trust-any-men-out-there/614099.md?page=3)