# Boys **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [April 9, 2003, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665 "2003-04-09T23:48:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![elfje](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e19b73/32.png) [@elfje](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfje)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 12:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/21 "2003-04-10T12:32:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by flight \* > \*\*How often do girls really think about sex? > > My girlfriend is never horny and so I figured it must be every like 2.3 years. How do you hornify a girl? \*\* suggestions (suggestive talks, erotic stories) and seduction might be your best bet there! Take your time turing a woman on, if she knows there’s going to be at least 20 minutes foreplay, she’ll definitely be more willing (gives her time to warm up, see, most women are Diesels in bed, keep that in mind ) ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/22 "2003-04-10T13:20:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by mangeorge \* > \*\*When men _do_ lose interest in sex (around age 36) they rarely admit it. > Peace, > mangeorge \*\* Then he’s been doing a _really_ good job of faking interest. ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/23 "2003-04-10T13:38:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Doux elle \* > \*\*How often do guys really think about sex? > > My boyfriend is always horny and so I figured it must be every like 2.3 seconds. How do you de-hornify a guy? > > Sometimes I try to gross him out by mentioning my period to get him out of the mood, but what if that doesnt work either??? > \*\* You could leave him. Seriously. If he consistently does something that you can’t stand, it may be the only real option. Dump him and shack up with someone a little nearer the edge of the bell-curve. At least that is what I’m sure Dan Savage ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/24 "2003-04-10T13:39:38Z")
…would say ---
**Author:** ![Doux\_elle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Doux\_elle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doux_elle)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/25 "2003-04-10T14:00:34Z")
Wow, okay. Umm where to start? I dohe is a sweet cute guy. How to hornify a chick on the other hand, try subtle ways of getting her interest… like sucking on her ear or rubbing her back or something… I dont know, be creative ;o) I wish there was just somehting I could say to him that would totally turn him off, or better yet, a SWITCH! ---
**Author:** ![Doux\_elle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Doux\_elle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doux_elle)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 2:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/26 "2003-04-10T14:02:29Z")
I dont want to break up with him\*\*\* Sorry about that, I am in an English Lab right now and Im not sposed to be doing this so I am trying to type fast and not get caught! School Blows! ---
**Author:** ![Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c77e96/32.png) [@Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Speaker_for_the_Dead)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/27 "2003-04-10T14:09:25Z")
Well, from my point of view as a very hornified teenage male, there isn’t really a way to get him unhorny… actually, one of the funniest ways was when I was on a stint to see how long I could go without choking a certain member of the clergy, and my best friend (also male) decided to try to beat me. After about a week, your libido starts getting wonky, but I would say that I was less horny on average when I wasn’t than when I was. ---
**Author:** ![Ludovic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ab992/32.png) [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/28 "2003-04-10T14:29:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Speaker for the Dead \* > **I was on a stint to see how long I could go without choking a certain member of the clergy, and my best friend (also male) decided to try to beat me.** I what way? 😃 :smack: :wally ---
**Author:** ![Saintly\_Loser](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saintly_loser/32/4045_2.png) [@Saintly\_Loser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saintly_Loser)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/29 "2003-04-10T14:34:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Sock Munkey \* > \*\*Just wait untill you both hit 35 and your sex drive goes through the roof while his is long gone. \*\* Speak for yourself. I’m 43 and just as horny as I was when I was 19. Fortunately, I’m getting a lot more now than I was then. ---
**Author:** ![Jammers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jammers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jammers)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/30 "2003-04-10T14:42:15Z")
> [@](#): > > I wish there was just somehting I could say to him that would totally turn him off, or better yet, a SWITCH! There is a switch, you just need to grab it, and flick it up and down a hundred times or so. Bang, off he goes. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Dogface](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9d8465/32.png) [@Dogface](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogface)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/31 "2003-04-10T15:15:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Doux elle \* > \*\*How often do guys really think about sex? > My boyfriend is always horny and so I figured it must be every like 2.3 seconds. How do you de-hornify a guy? \*\* In general, young men think about sex a great deal primarily because nothing else in their lives is really all that interesting. They usually have lousy jobs, lousy cars, and insensitive, castrating girlfriends. As they get older, their jobs improve, their conditions improve, and many of them find romantic companions who don’t try to rule their lives. Then they have other things to occupy their minds. ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/32 "2003-04-10T15:40:54Z")
All these replies and no one’s mentioned having a two-year old in the house? ---
**Author:** ![Gorgon\_Heap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f475e1/32.png) [@Gorgon\_Heap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgon_Heap)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/33 "2003-04-10T15:42:50Z")
**Dogface** it certainly sounds likeyou are speaking from experience. And it really depends on the person, too. My wife has always had a much higher sex drive than I. For her I think 2.3 seconds is conservative. ---
**Author:** ![Gorgon\_Heap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f475e1/32.png) [@Gorgon\_Heap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgon_Heap)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/34 "2003-04-10T15:45:14Z")
**JC** , why bother? She’s just a kid looking for some advice, we don’t want to scare her into celibecy. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![flight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbce88/32.png) [@flight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flight)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/35 "2003-04-10T15:46:06Z")
To all those who replied to my hornifying women comment, that was an exact reversal of the OP to suggest that perhaps it wasn’t the BF who needed to change his mind. To all those women suggesting ways to unhornify a guy, I hope that someday there is a spider sitting on your toilet (for those deathly afraid of spiders) when you absolutely have to go, and the BF says he isn’t really interested in getting rid of spiders now, could you just take care of things yourself? Or maybe you could just sit on the couch and hold each other until you don’t have to go anymore? As to how to hornify women **elfje** , I have made that my life’s work and you would be surprised how many of them actually aren’t too fond of foreplay (I love it). ---
**Author:** ![flight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbce88/32.png) [@flight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flight)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/36 "2003-04-10T15:48:13Z")
To all those who replied to my hornifying women comment, that was an exact reversal of the OP to suggest that perhaps it wasn’t the BF who needed to change his mind. To all those women suggesting ways to unhornify a guy, I hope that someday there is a spider sitting on your toilet (for those deathly afraid of spiders) when you absolutely have to go, and the BF says he isn’t really interested in getting rid of spiders now, could you just take care of things yourself? Or maybe you could just sit on the couch and hold each other until you don’t have to go anymore? As to how to hornify women **elfje** , I have made that my life’s work and you would be surprised how many of them actually aren’t too fond of foreplay (I love it). I heard a report on this topic on NPR recently (odd the stuff you can find there) and the expert suggested to women to suck it up (ahem) and go for it much more than you would naturally like to. Consider it a deposit into building a lasting relationship, not to mention once things get rolling you will often be glad you did. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/37 "2003-04-10T16:11:24Z")
Actually, I thought about sex a LOT while I was having it, more than I ever had. And now that I’m not having it, I think about it a lot because I MISS it! ---
**Author:** ![Amethyst](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/919ad9/32.png) [@Amethyst](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amethyst)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/38 "2003-04-10T16:21:34Z")
All I know is that I’m at my peak fertile days in my cycle right now and I can’t keep my mind from wandering … I can’t wait to get home from work today!!! ---
**Author:** ![elfje](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e19b73/32.png) [@elfje](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfje)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/39 "2003-04-10T16:31:16Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by flight \* > \*\*To all those who replied to my hornifying women comment, that was an exact reversal of the OP to suggest that perhaps it wasn’t the BF who needed to change his mind. To all those women suggesting ways to unhornify a guy, I hope that someday there is a spider sitting on your toilet (for those deathly afraid of spiders) when you absolutely have to go, and the BF says he isn’t really interested in getting rid of spiders now, could you just take care of things yourself? Or maybe you could just sit on the couch and hold each other until you don’t have to go anymore? > > As to how to hornify women **elfje** , I have made that my life’s work and you would be surprised how many of them actually aren’t too fond of foreplay (I love it). > > I heard a report on this topic on NPR recently (odd the stuff you can find there) and the expert suggested to women to suck it up (ahem) and go for it much more than you would naturally like to. Consider it a deposit into building a lasting relationship, not to mention once things get rolling you will often be glad you did. \*\* flight, come on, it’s not a women’s duty anymore to please her man. If we say no, it’s no. If i’m not in the mood, then i’m not in the mood. Women do have (in general) lower sex drives than men, and it’s not up to women to solve that problem. As you pointed out, they can help themselves, can’t they? I do agree that physical contact is essential in a relationship. Regular sex helps to keep the same level of intimacy. I’m all for that. But I used to have a boyfriend that wanted to hum every day, and if i wasn’t in the mood, He’d blame me for not loving him anymore (or not enough). Women need to know that if they refuse, their boyfriends won’t mind. I buckled under that demand of “sex every day or we’ll have a major fight/argument”. I did feel as if it was my fault that I didn’t want to have more sex. So, please be considerate to your partner, they might do it out of “love” but they’ll still feel pressured into it, and that’s NOT a nice feeling, believe you me. It makes you feel very cheap. ---
**Author:** ![elfje](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e19b73/32.png) [@elfje](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfje)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665/40 "2003-04-10T16:35:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by flight \* > \*\*To all those who replied to my hornifying women comment, that was an exact reversal of the OP to suggest that perhaps it wasn’t the BF who needed to change his mind. To all those women suggesting ways to unhornify a guy, I hope that someday there is a spider sitting on your toilet (for those deathly afraid of spiders) when you absolutely have to go, and the BF says he isn’t really interested in getting rid of spiders now, could you just take care of things yourself? Or maybe you could just sit on the couch and hold each other until you don’t have to go anymore? > > As to how to hornify women **elfje** , I have made that my life’s work and you would be surprised how many of them actually aren’t too fond of foreplay (I love it). > > I heard a report on this topic on NPR recently (odd the stuff you can find there) and the expert suggested to women to suck it up (ahem) and go for it much more than you would naturally like to. Consider it a deposit into building a lasting relationship, not to mention once things get rolling you will often be glad you did. \*\* flight, come on, it’s not a women’s duty anymore to please her man. If we say no, it’s no. If i’m not in the mood, then i’m not in the mood. Women do have (in general) lower sex drives than men, and it’s not up to women to solve that problem. As you pointed out, they can help themselves, can’t they? I do agree that physical contact is essential in a relationship. Regular sex helps to keep the same level of intimacy. I’m all for that. But I used to have a boyfriend that wanted to hum every day, and if i wasn’t in the mood, He’d blame me for not loving him anymore (or not enough). Women need to know that if they refuse, their boyfriends won’t mind. I buckled under that demand of “sex every day or we’ll have a major fight/argument”. I did feel as if it was my fault that I didn’t want to have more sex. So, please be considerate to your partner, they might do it out of “love” but they’ll still feel pressured into it, and that’s NOT a nice feeling, believe you me. It makes you feel very cheap. And your last comment i find very condescending: we’ll be glad we did, will we? We’ll change out mind, cos we’re only feeble minded women, is that it? As if we don’t know our own bodies and minds! We don’t need men to tell us what we like and what we don’t like, we can make up our own minds, thanks very much. How come men can’t restrain themselves and like that help to “build a lasting relationship”? To actually respect their partners wishes? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/boys/167665.md?page=3)