# Break up etiquette in the age of Facebook. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 12, 2010, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886 "2010-06-12T04:44:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Bosstone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/22d042/32.png) [@Bosstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosstone)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/101 "2010-06-17T16:39:18Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > You may not, however, touch, unless you’d like to lose said hand at the wrist A worthwhile trade, I think. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/102 "2010-06-17T18:36:41Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > My buns do not blaze. They radiate a gentle warmth and invite the hand to touch. You may not, however, touch, unless you’d like to lose said hand at the wrist or provide me with a sizeable sum of cashy monies first. I meant to say all buns glazing. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/103 "2010-06-17T18:50:23Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > I meant to say all buns glazing. I don’t glaze buns. I bake cookies. The kind with chips in, so there’s no frosting of any kind required. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/104 "2010-06-17T19:06:29Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > I don’t glaze buns. I bake cookies. The kind with chips in, so there’s no frosting of any kind required. Lazy. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/105 "2010-06-17T20:03:39Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > Lazy. You wouldn’t say that if you saw the mountainous hoard of cookies I ended up with after the last time. Baked a dozen at a time. It took _forever_. ---
**Author:** ![Bosstone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/22d042/32.png) [@Bosstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosstone)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/106 "2010-06-17T20:08:11Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > You wouldn’t say that if you saw the mountainous hoard of cookies I ended up with after the last time. Baked a dozen at a time. It took _forever_. Jesus, woman. Enough with the dirty talk. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/107 "2010-06-17T20:27:04Z")
> [@Bosstone](#): > > Jesus, woman. Enough with the dirty talk. So I guess I shouldn’t tell you that they had chocolate chips… \*and \*butterscotch chips… \*and \*walnuts? ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/108 "2010-06-17T20:34:44Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > When, a month after I dumped the girl, my roomie and I updated our statuses to “married” as an April Fool’s joke, it apparently upset my ex very badly. I don’t check my FB sometimes for weeks or months, I was told by one lady about a year ago that I sounded so nice she wanted to meet me even though she could never date me because she knew I had a g/f because of my FB status. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/109 "2010-06-17T21:37:26Z")
> [@drachillix](#): > > I don’t check my FB sometimes for weeks or months, I was told by one lady about a year ago that I sounded so nice she wanted to meet me even though she could never date me because she knew I had a g/f because of my FB status. > > 😕 Whoa. Stage three clinger. Back away. Back away. Fast! ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/110 "2010-06-17T22:18:40Z")
> [@drachillix](#): > > I don’t check my FB sometimes for weeks or months, I was told by one lady about a year ago that I sounded so nice she wanted to meet me even though she could never date me because she knew I had a g/f because of my FB status. > > 😕 ur doin it rong ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/111 "2010-06-17T22:35:48Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > True. Like I said, in the Facebook Etiquette Book of WhyNot, profile pics would never be couple pics, so it’s a moot point. And why on earth should that be? ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/112 "2010-06-17T22:38:53Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > And why on earth should that be? Mine too. Coz it makes me puke. ---
**Author:** ![Bosstone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/22d042/32.png) [@Bosstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosstone)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/113 "2010-06-17T22:41:42Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > And why on earth should that be? Just at a guess, the profile picture should be a straight-up picture of the person the profile is profiling. ---
**Author:** ![SoulFrost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f07891/32.png) [@SoulFrost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SoulFrost)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/114 "2010-06-17T23:06:30Z")
> [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](#): > > Sweet baby jesus, that should \*never \*happen. So, so wrong. Yeah. A guy I know found out about his young daughter’s death on the radio. The car radio. While he was driving. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/115 "2010-06-17T23:22:01Z")
> [@Bosstone](#): > > Just at a guess, the profile picture should be a straight-up picture of the person the profile is profiling. Didn’t someone earlier in this thread say that’s why their profile pic is one of a cat or something? My point is that you’ll simply never please everyone. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/116 "2010-06-17T23:48:12Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > Didn’t someone earlier in this thread say that’s why their profile pic is one of a cat or something? My point is that you’ll simply never please everyone. No, that was me, who said, “(I will admit, I have a bias against pictures of cats, couples, children and celebrities as a person’s profile pic. I just feel like it should be a picture of you there, that’s all.)” And, just to re-iterate, I also think the OP should put on his big girl panties and block her, and I’ve said that from the start. I’ve long since moved on to speculating on the question as a generalization, and a prediction/preference of what the etiquette will be once we have it. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/117 "2010-06-17T23:51:05Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > No, that was me, who said, “(I will admit, I have a bias against pictures of cats, couples, children and celebrities as a person’s profile pic. I just feel like it should be a picture of you there, that’s all.)” Oh, oops! My b. I was just vaguely remembering. Carry on 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Jolly\_Roger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/91b2a8/32.png) [@Jolly\_Roger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jolly_Roger)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/118 "2010-06-18T00:33:28Z")
> [@Blue\_Mood](#): > > No, but it insensitive to say the least. For everybody saying to move on, they were together SIX YEARS. Of course we don’t know the story, etc. etc., but to IMMEDIATELY put the new guy’s picture on her profile pic (not just album) is Not Nice. How immediate is immediately? Does the OP refer to minutes after the breakup or days or weeks? The jilted can see time in a different way, and I speak from experience. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/119 "2010-06-18T15:45:23Z")
> [@DianaG](#): > > Can we pinpoint exactly how long she’s supposed to not change her profile picture? Because “until he feels okay about it” seems vague. Exactly. What an odd, odd thread. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2010, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886/120 "2010-06-19T04:18:17Z")
> [@spark240](#): > > :eek:!!! What is the sister doing _posting_ anything before the immediate family has even been notified? And who thinks leaving a voicemail is an acceptable attempt at notification? Somebody I know was in bed with a woman who picked up his phone when it rang, replied “OK, I’ll tell him”, turned to him and said “You’re an orphan.” (Well, it wasn’t _that_ bad. It was my mom telling my dad that it was the call they were expecting from the nursing home. And they were both in their sixties, with his dad in his eighties) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/break-up-etiquette-in-the-age-of-facebook/542886.md?page=7)