# brightpenny, you're a loathesome bitch **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [January 12, 2006, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670 "2006-01-12T15:52:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 14
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/261 "2006-01-15T20:50:25Z")
> [@lissener](#): > > You people have thrown this blanket party for brightpenny for one reason only: because she exposed a weakness. She came here expecting the same kind of civil behavior you’d expect from strangers in the real world, commented on it, and before she could adjust her expectations you ganged up on her for no better reason than to indulge you own petty malice. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with the behavior she experienced. If she was randomly ganged up on with insults by strangers in REAL LIFE maybe that’d be cause for feeling threatened or abused. This is a message board. I’ll probably never meet her, and she will probably never meet me in her entire life. And if by some chance accident of fate we do meet we won’t recognize each other as fellow Straight Dopers. > [@](#): > > The fact is that her wide-eyed-innocence and expectation of considerate behavior provided you people with an excuse for a feeding frenzy. God forfuckingbid a new visitor to the Dope should expect civil behavior. > > What a bunch of assholes you people are. Then I suppose every single one of us who frequent The Pit should be banned because this message board has a policy against “being a jerk”. In fact, the entire BBQ pit should be abolished since this forum is filled with feeding frenzy threads like this. ---
**Author:** ![lissener](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lissener/32/6139_2.png) [@lissener](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lissener)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/262 "2006-01-15T20:52:37Z")
> [@Blalron](#): > > Then I suppose every single one of us who frequent The Pit should be banned because this message board has a policy against “being a jerk”. In fact, the entire BBQ pit should be abolished since this forum is filled with feeding frenzy threads like this. Did you really not read my post at all? ---
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/263 "2006-01-15T21:00:02Z")
> [@lissener](#): > > Did you really not read my post at all? I read it. For the standards of this message board, we are civil. If she was in a town meeting or some other real life gathering and she experienced the same behavior as here it would be a completely different story. Here it’s ok to metaphorically descend upon a poster like a pack of ferocious wolves. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/264 "2006-01-15T21:05:11Z")
> [@wolf\_meister](#): > > **gommsn** > > Shucks thanks. 🙂 > And as I said in a previous posting **jrfranchi, John Carter of Mars** and many others deserve props too. Thank you, I am now **What Exit?** , and old NJ joke. **Blalron** You’re a little late to the pile on. Do you need to reopen a barely scabbed over wound? Jim ---
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/265 "2006-01-15T21:10:37Z")
> [@What Exit?](#): > > Thank you, I am now **What Exit?** , and old NJ joke. > > **Blalron** You’re a little late to the pile on. Do you need to reopen a barely scabbed over wound? > > Jim Now that I think about it, it’s not neccesary. The point has already been made in spades. This thread probably will die a quiet death real soon as it sinks to the bottom of the page and finally into the graveyard of old bygone threads. ---
**Author:** ![lissener](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lissener/32/6139_2.png) [@lissener](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lissener)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/266 "2006-01-15T21:11:16Z")
> [@Blalron](#): > > I read it. For the standards of this message board, we are civil. If she was in a town meeting or some other real life gathering and she experienced the same behavior as here it would be a completely different story. Here it’s ok to metaphorically descend upon a poster like a pack of ferocious wolves. Apparently you did NOT read my post, if your argument was that such behavior is OK in the Pit. ---
**Author:** ![Starving\_Artist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@Starving\_Artist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Starving_Artist)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/267 "2006-01-15T21:11:50Z")
> [@Blalron](#): > > Then I suppose every single one of us who frequent The Pit should be banned because this message board has a policy against “being a jerk”. In fact, the entire BBQ pit should be abolished since this forum is filled with feeding frenzy threads like this. Not to speak for **lissener** , but the expectation of considerate behavior he referred to was when she was still in the GQ thread. People began to give her a hard time then, and once she showed that such treatment bothered her this Pit thread and its concomitant feeding frenzy began. You are taking one comment **lissener** made about conduct in the GQ thread and another he made regarding behavior in the Pit thread and treating them both as though they occurred here. Besides, you’re a little late with all this; it’s all all been said before. Don’t you think it’s about time to let this thing die? ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/268 "2006-01-15T21:14:08Z")
> [@Blalron](#): > > Now that I think about it, it’s not neccesary. The point has already been made in spades. This thread probably will die a quiet death real soon as it sinks to the bottom of the page and finally into the graveyard of old bygone threads. Excellent attitude and sentiments. We don’t all have to agree on something, but we all need the ability to let it go. Jim ---
**Author:** ![Starving\_Artist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@Starving\_Artist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Starving_Artist)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/269 "2006-01-15T21:14:59Z")
Sorry for the redundancy. When I started composing my post there were none after **Blalron’s**. ---
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/270 "2006-01-15T21:27:48Z")
> [@Starving Artist](#): > > Not to speak for **lissener** , but the expectation of considerate behavior he referred to was when she was still in the GQ thread. People began to give her a hard time then, and once she showed that such treatment bothered her this Pit thread and its concomitant feeding frenzy began. You are taking one comment **lissener** made about conduct in the GQ thread and another he made regarding behavior in the Pit thread and treating them both as though they occurred here. I saw nothing wrong with the GQ thread either. They were attacking her attitudes (from an objective viewpoint, her fears were unreasonable) and not her personally. And yes, it is time to let this thread die a quiet death. ---
**Author:** ![spinky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/59ef9b/32.png) [@spinky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spinky)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/271 "2006-01-15T21:37:05Z")
The problem with shaming people for participating in a pile-on is that it skews the thread in the other direction. This thread started out with an overwhelming number of people flaming **brightpenny** for her actions in the other thread. By now, it’s gotten to the point where agreeing with this makes you a piler-on, so the thread is reduced to hugs for **brightpenny** and people who are increasingly being cast as gang-raping jerks. At what point are you people to be shamed for piling on **Excalibre**? For the record, I think **brightpenny** behaved ridiculously in the GQ thread and was not piled-on in **any** way until _after_ she grossly exaggerated her treatment in that GQ thread, at which point she enjoyed a well-deserved pitting where she **was** beaten to a pulp but survived to laugh it off. Great jarb, **brightpenny**. My opinion regarding your question is that you should stick around and keep the name. Few (if any) others will drag this history to other threads, and those that do will be thumped by the mods for being jerks. Enjoy the SDMB. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/272 "2006-01-15T21:40:09Z")
> [@ntucker](#): > > The problem with shaming people for participating in a pile-on is that it skews the thread in the other direction. This thread started out with an overwhelming number of people flaming **brightpenny** for her actions in the other thread. By now, it’s gotten to the point where agreeing with this makes you a piler-on, so the thread is reduced to hugs for **brightpenny** and people who are increasingly being cast as gang-raping jerks. At what point are you people to be shamed for piling on **Excalibre**? > > For the record, I think **brightpenny** behaved ridiculously in the GQ thread and was not piled-on in **any** way until _after_ she grossly exaggerated her treatment in that GQ thread, at which point she enjoyed a well-deserved pitting where she **was** beaten to a pulp but survived to laugh it off. Great jarb, **brightpenny**. My opinion regarding your question is that you should stick around and keep the name. Few (if any) others will drag this history to other threads, and those that do will be thumped by the mods for being jerks. Enjoy the SDMB. Nobody has piled on \*\*Excalibre \*\* for a while now. Let it die mon. let it die. Jim ---
**Author:** ![Polerius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d78d45/32.png) [@Polerius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polerius)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/273 "2006-01-15T22:41:14Z")
> [@Left Hand of Dorkness](#): > > Rape metaphors are one of my personal triggers: \*\* I dislike comparing anything to rape unless it’s factually, rationally as bad as rape\*\*. The Rape of Nanking? Acceptable comparison. “Dude, don’t even challenge me to Doom II, I’ll rape you”? Totally unacceptable. Oh [really](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=4973018&highlight=rape#post4973018) ? > [@Left Hand of Dorkness](#): > > > [@Mr. Moto](#): > > > > The rape of the rubber trees must stop NOW! VEGETABLE RIGHTS NOW! > > Ahahahahahahaha! I’d never thought of that joke before–and neither has anyone else! Brilliant, sir! Ahahahahaahahahaha! > > Daniel ---
**Author:** ![Polerius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d78d45/32.png) [@Polerius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polerius)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2006, 10:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/274 "2006-01-15T22:42:27Z")
> [@Polerius](#): > > Oh [really](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=4973018&highlight=rape#post4973018) ? I forgot to add: Ahahahahaahahahaha! ---
**Author:** ![wonderlust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonderlust/32/7237_2.png) [@wonderlust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonderlust)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2006, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/275 "2006-01-16T00:04:27Z")
We might get less newcomers who might not have read **the entire frickin’ week’s worth of posts in all 4 threads** , if people would stop making references to it such as [in this thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=354014) ! (beginning with post #31 in this example). There, they’re calling the abhorrent term gang-rape the “new catchphrase” and it even derails that thread. ---
**Author:** ![wonderlust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonderlust/32/7237_2.png) [@wonderlust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonderlust)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2006, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/276 "2006-01-16T00:05:42Z")
- I meant newcomers to this thread ---
**Author:** ![Jimmy\_Chitwood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f475e1/32.png) [@Jimmy\_Chitwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jimmy_Chitwood)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2006, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/277 "2006-01-16T00:11:31Z")
> [@Polerius](#): > > I forgot to add: Ahahahahaahahahaha! I’m pretty sure you just dug up a year-and-a-half-old example of **Left Hand of Dorkness** taking offense to a rape comparison. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2006, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/278 "2006-01-16T00:19:27Z")
**bright penny** if you were bothered by the references in the other thread, I’d have suggested using the report this post, vs. bumping this thread. of course, since you’ve changed your location in your profile to make a reference to this thread, I suspect you’re not all that bothered. ---
**Author:** ![wonderlust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonderlust/32/7237_2.png) [@wonderlust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonderlust)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2006, 12:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/279 "2006-01-16T00:26:00Z")
Thank you for the suggestion. I’ll do that. I’m soooo not used to tattling. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2006, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670/280 "2006-01-16T00:52:36Z")
> [@Polerius](#): > > Oh [really](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=4973018&highlight=rape#post4973018) ? Yes, really. Please tell me that you were able to notice the sarcasm in that post you dug up. I’m also interested in the process by which you discovered that post, but the latter is something I find a little bit disturbing. Daniel [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670.md?page=13) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/brightpenny-youre-a-loathesome-bitch/339670.md?page=15)