# ...Bring May Glowers (Monthly Mini-Rants) **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Tags:** monthly-mini-rant\ **Created:** [May 1, 2025, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737 "2025-05-01T05:11:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 13
**Author:** ![wolfpup](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wolfpup/32/10618_2.png) [@wolfpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolfpup)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/241 "2025-05-20T00:16:29Z")
> [@Maus\_Magill](#): > > Every time I open the garage, I am greeted by a ruined back end, and I am pissed off all over again. Amica was updating their system this weekend, so my claim hasn’t even been processed yet. I made sure to send them the dash cam videos and photos of the damage. I send you my sympathies and condolences. As much as I claim that I regard cars today merely as transportation, there is still enough testosterone in this pup that he appreciates them for their own virtues. I was just outside using a gentle abrasive to clean off some crap that somehow got scraped on my sideview mirror which pissed me off mightily. I truly can appreciate how you feel and I feel for you. For my part, many years ago in another city I had just bought a beautiful car that I dearly loved, and someone vandalized it by smashing one of the front headlight assemblies. The good news is that car was fixed up as good as new. The other good news is that my son got into an accident a few years ago that damaged the front end so badly that it seemed likely that the car was going to be a write-off. This would have been a PITA for various reasons so his mom, who has many contacts in the industry, pulled some strings and got the insurer to cover the repairs, and then sent it to a body shop she knew and trusted. It was a big job – they had to source a whole new front door – but the good news is the car came back as good as new. The shop owner showed me around when we went to pick up the car and was quite proud of the work they had done. So don’t despair – body repair is not the end of the world, and it often turns out great. My biggest worry would be not to let the insurance company screw you around and demand used parts from a wrecker or any crap like that – new parts only! And use your judgment as to the most reputable body shops, and if you trust your insurer, they may be able to guide you. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/242 "2025-05-20T00:18:19Z")
> [@Maus\_Magill](#): > > I am beyond livid. I would be too. That model is a gorgeous car. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/243 "2025-05-20T01:07:13Z")
> [@digs](#): > > And different schedules. And approaches to bedtime. My spouse likes to fall asleep with the TV on. If I turn it off she’ll turn it back on: “Hey, I was watching Seinfeld!” > “Uhh, hon? That ended an hour ago, it’s after midnight.” > “Leave it on!” Yeah, that would be a total dealbreaker. I can’t stand noise for noise’s sake. Plus all that blue light! Guess I should be happy with what I’ve got. ---
**Author:** ![Mollie\_Magill](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mollie_magill/32/20882_2.png) [@Mollie\_Magill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mollie_Magill)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/244 "2025-05-20T01:52:17Z")
> [@wolfpup](#): > > So don’t despair – body repair is not the end of the world, and it often turns out great. My biggest worry would be not to let the insurance company screw you around and demand used parts from a wrecker or any crap like that – new parts only! And use your judgment as to the most reputable body shops, and if you trust your insurer, they may be able to guide you We have Amica. They take very good care of their clients. The claim rep watched the dash cam videos and said they very clearly show fault. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/245 "2025-05-20T13:34:40Z")
If you have a loan on the car I hope you have gap insurance. And/or a replacement cost / replacement assistance rider on your policy. Good luck. It is certainly possible for a crash to come out net good for you. But it’s not the way to bet. ---
**Author:** ![Mollie\_Magill](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mollie_magill/32/20882_2.png) [@Mollie\_Magill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mollie_Magill)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/246 "2025-05-20T13:38:29Z")
We bought it outright. I received the title last week. I _have_ asked Amica for compensation for depreciation. My claim handler basically said, “Oh, hell yeah.” ---
**Author:** ![Mollie\_Magill](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mollie_magill/32/20882_2.png) [@Mollie\_Magill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mollie_Magill)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 1:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/247 "2025-05-20T13:49:09Z")
Accident is at about the 45 second mark. [![Imgur](https://live.staticflickr.com/31337/54532911609_e127389279_b.jpg "20250517134910\_002498B") ](https://www.flickr.com/photos/190534151@N04/54532911609/) ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/248 "2025-05-20T14:04:03Z")
Here’s an accident with a happy ending: > [@Positive Counterfactuals](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/positive-counterfactuals/1017131/2): > > I’ve sorta told this story before. Back last fall I bought a low mileage very new used car. But it couldn’t be delivered for a couple weeks so I was still driving my old one. Which I intended to sell back to the dealership for a pre-arranged price once I had my new one. Call it a “delayed trade-in.” It’s Friday afternoon. My new car should be delivered to my house on Monday. I’m on the freeway in thick but fast afternoon traffic when 70mph suddenly turns into stopped. I stop before whacking t… May yours come out as well. In the vid it seems like their front end was undamaged. I hope that implies that your rear end damage is relatively slight & cosmetic. I tried to see if I could tell whether the other driver was face-down in their phone. Couldn’t tell. Damn. I assume your cameras also recorded the front view. Which would be important to establish _why_ you stopped at what in the rear view appears to just be a random spot in the road. To be sure, the rule of thumb is that a rear-end crash is _always_ the fault of the following car. But there are exceptions. Not that this _is_ one of those situations, but it’s sure what the other side will claim. ---
**Author:** ![Mollie\_Magill](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mollie_magill/32/20882_2.png) [@Mollie\_Magill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mollie_Magill)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 2:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/249 "2025-05-20T14:17:38Z")
> [@LSLGuy](#): > > I assume your cameras also recorded the front view. Which would be important to establish _why_ you stopped at what in the rear view appears to just be a random spot in the road. The front camera shows the line of stopped cars at the traffic light. I’d upload it, but it’s 4K and a very big file. The moral of the story is: Invest the $100 and 30 minutes to install a dash cam. > [@LSLGuy](#): > > In the vid it seems like their front end was undamaged. I hope that implies that your rear end damage is relatively slight & cosmetic. I’m hoping so. The expensive thing will be recalibrating the parking sensors. ---
**Author:** ![WalterBishop](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/aeb1de/32.png) [@WalterBishop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WalterBishop)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/250 "2025-05-20T15:19:13Z")
I work in a company with about 40,000 employees. Not one of them seems to know that the expression is “Bear with me” and _not_ “Bare with me”. Fucking morons. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/251 "2025-05-20T15:22:50Z")
> [@LSLGuy](#): > > Here’s an accident with a happy ending: That’s very similar to an experience I had. Almost everything was the same. Driving on a freeway, fast traffic suddenly stops, I safely stop but the guy behind me hits me. In my case, though, my car wasn’t totaled. The damage was pretty much cosmetic. (Though I’m sure the other guy’s car was totaled.) The insurance he gave me was basically a sham. I could never reach anyone on the phone, they had no web site, and looking up the business online just had a bunch of complaints about how it’s more-or-less a fake company. I ended up trading in that car less than a year later and buying a new one. I’m sure the dented rear of the car hurt the trade-in value a bit. So I didn’t have a happy ending. Well, it wasn’t a _bad_ ending because my car was basically fine until it was time to trade it in, but it sucks to be hit by someone who basically has no insurance. > [@WalterBishop](#): > > Not one of them seems to know that the expression is “Bear with me” and _not_ “Bare with me”. Do they walk around the office naked or something? ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Drake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Dr.Drake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Drake)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/252 "2025-05-20T15:31:01Z")
That sounds like a fun company after work on a Friday! ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/253 "2025-05-20T15:34:08Z")
> [@Maus\_Magill](#): > > The moral of the story is: Invest the $100 and 30 minutes to install a dash cam. I’ve participated in very few accidents over the decades and caused almost zero. I’m already worried that, given the way I drive, the “black box” recorder built into my car is not my friend. The only thing a dashcam(s) system would do for me is incriminate me. I’ll pass. Probably on the right. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/254 "2025-05-20T15:44:43Z")
> [@WalterBishop](#): > > Not one of them seems to know that the expression is “Bear with me” and _not_ “Bare with me”. I would complain to HR. Workplace nekkidness is not appropriate. ---
**Author:** ![Spiderman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiderman/32/230_2.png) [@Spiderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiderman)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/255 "2025-05-20T16:06:54Z")
> [@LSLGuy](#): > > I’m already worried that, given the way I drive, the “black box” recorder built into my car is not my friend. The only thing a dashcam(s) system would do for me is incriminate me. That’s why I go for the ones that do **not** have GPS data in them. Let them try to extrapolate my speed by measuring the distance between trees / poles & then try to calculate my speed rather than give it to them, printed on top/bottom of the video. > [@Thudlow\_Boink](#): > > I would complain to HR. Workplace nekkidness is not appropriate. I wouldn’t complain to HR if we could get just the hot ones, & _only my definition_ of hot ones to do it. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Mollie\_Magill](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mollie_magill/32/20882_2.png) [@Mollie\_Magill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mollie_Magill)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/256 "2025-05-20T16:48:34Z")
> [@Spiderman](#): > > rather than give it to them, printed on top/bottom of the video. I find that useful to check up on reports of my kids speeding in the neighborhood. ---
**Author:** ![Spiderman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiderman/32/230_2.png) [@Spiderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiderman)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/257 "2025-05-20T16:58:36Z")
11 of us went to Red Robin this weekend for a bit of a celebration. They have a cool system for splitting checks ($300-some, between everyone’s entree’s, some table apps, & drinks) in that they give you a tablet with the entire table’s order on it, you pick your items & then tap/insert your card to pay before handing it off to the next person. She specifically told us to not press {print receipt} as it would close it out & she’d have to come over to reset it. One person had to leave early so he paid for his meal + the food (but not drinks) of two others at the table. The guy to my left (“J”) was one of those who had his food paid for. He borked something all the heck up because when it was passed to me, nothing I had ordered was left on the short list, nor for another person but one of J’s drinks was still there. We call her over to help out, she goes & prints out receipts for everyone who has paid so far to help us figure it out. When she passes out the receipts, she’s left with one in her hand, it was for the guy who had left already; apparently, he didn’t leave a tip. She then makes a real snot-nosed comment, w/ a 'tude in her voice about she thought her service was good & she wished we would have told her if it was inadequate as she huffs out of the room we were in. Now here’s the thing. - 10 of us were still _sitting_ there. - It’s not that uncommon for people to tip in cash. - I knew that early leaver was paying for J because of a comment that was made about, “I got you because you got me last time” but I didn’t know he was also paying for someone else. I didn’t know the details of their arrangements (maybe I’ll pay for food if you leave the tip) & I _know_ these people & was _sitting_ there with them; the waitress wasn’t there for the majority of the time. - We hadn’t finished paying yet. - One of the people who had his food bill picked up screwed something up & paid for things he shouldn’t have & didn’t pay for things he should have; it’s quite possible he borked the tip - We were still trying to figure out the bill, let alone the tip. Therefore, we all kind of individually & therefore, collectively decided that she shouldn’t get as much of a tip as she otherwise would have gotten for the service because she scolded us because one person didn’t put a tip on their receipt. Talk about shooting yourself in the foot! ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/258 "2025-05-20T17:22:56Z")
> [@Spiderman](#): > > Therefore, we all kind of individually & therefore, collectively decided that she shouldn’t get as much of a tip as she otherwise would have gotten for the service because she scolded us because one person didn’t put a tip on their receipt. Talk about shooting yourself in the foot! Yeah, a very poor decision on her part. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/259 "2025-05-20T20:19:03Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > > [@digs](#): > > > > And different schedules. And approaches to bedtime. My spouse likes to fall asleep with the TV on. If I turn it off she’ll turn it back on: “Hey, I was watching Seinfeld!” > > “Uhh, hon? That ended an hour ago, it’s after midnight.” > > “Leave it on!” > > Yeah, that would be a total dealbreaker. “Honey, I’ve got some bad news. Well, maybe bad for _you.._. You know I love you, but I’ve never gone against **Spice Weasel** ’s advice…” ---
**Author:** ![Spiderman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiderman/32/230_2.png) [@Spiderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiderman)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737/260 "2025-05-20T20:27:00Z")
I _don’t_ need to go to the polls today (primary day) because we live in a stoopit closed primary state, which I believe gives us worser (is too a word!) candidates. If you’re registered R you can go & vote for only R candidates. If you’re registered D you can go & vote for only D candidates. This means both parties end up with candidates closer to the extreme ends as opposed to anyone near the middle. Since I’m registered I, I can only vote on ballot initiatives today (none this year) or on whoever the Ds & Rs select today come Nov. Disenfranchising I tells ya. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737.md?page=12) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-may-glowers-monthly-mini-rants/1017737.md?page=14)