# Broken Heart **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 20, 2009, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/broken-heart/514471 "2009-10-20T12:34:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2009, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/broken-heart/514471/41 "2009-10-21T19:34:15Z")
> [@even\_sven](#): > > Well, I’m a little drunk now. Texted Mr. Heartache all night, even while I know he is out with teenage sluts. Hence my advice upthread about getting rid of the means to contact him. If you’re hurting about him, and about his behaviour, then friends is probably a bad move. ---
**Author:** ![Sarahfeena](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sarahfeena/32/519_2.png) [@Sarahfeena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sarahfeena)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2009, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/broken-heart/514471/42 "2009-10-21T19:57:28Z")
> [@Bricker](#): > > **even sven** I’ve alluded to my admiration of you before, so hopefully I’m not sounding too much like either a broken record or a creepy stalker when I say: you’re awesome. I know you’re awesome, your friends know you’re awesome, and although it might not be obvious to you right this very second, I suspect you know you’re awesome as well. > > So. A relationship didn’t work, and right at this second the usual cliche about how many fish there are in the sea isn’t exactly operative. But four motnhs isn’t forever, things will change, and you’ll still be awesome. > > Focus on your future. Tell yourself how much you rock, because you do. Things that hurt now simply won’t hurt later on, and the only way to get from here to there is to let time pass. You have accomplished great things, and I am certain you have many great things along the path you have yet to travel. This is basically what I was going to say. You are young, sven, and you really are an awesome person who is doing stuff with her life that most of us would never have the courage and convictions to do. You will meet somebody just as awesome one of these days, believe me, and this guy will become a faint memory. ---
**Author:** ![Surly\_Chick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@Surly\_Chick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Surly_Chick)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2009, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/broken-heart/514471/43 "2009-10-21T20:12:40Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > I’m in the same club as you right now. Second time 18 months, but I’m coping OK. Last year was _bad_ bad though.[/size] I’m sorry to hear that **jjimm** - I remember your last breakup and how painful it was for you. Hang in there. You too, **Sven**. Did I ever mention I have a Doper crush on you, **jjimm**? Now that you’re single and emotionally vulnerable…😛 ---
**Author:** ![black\_rabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f19dbf/32.png) [@black\_rabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/black_rabbit)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2009, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/broken-heart/514471/44 "2009-10-21T23:13:57Z")
> [@even\_sven](#): > > He started the texting. I’m not being delusional in believing that he does/is going to miss me. He may date local girls, but they are never going to be like me, and he knows it. He missed out on a good thing here. He gave up the best girl he’s gonna have, unless he sobers up and finds a job. Wait, didn’t you dump him first? Why do you want him back, if he’s such a loser? > [@](#): > > And is there any possibility of being friends? Right now I’d love to see him suffer like I suffer, but these feelings can’t last, right? I need every friend I can get, and honestly our friendship was always stronger than our love anyway, though I hate to admit it. Never underestimate male pride over this kind of thing. His self esteem probably took a beating when you broke up with him, so he’s following the timeworn advice given to every other guy who’s been through the same thing - go out and do something (or somebody) fun. If you can’t accept him running around with teenage sluts, then you probably won’t be able to be friends with him. He’s doing what he needs to do right now, and it’s up to you to do the same for yourself. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2009, 10:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/broken-heart/514471/45 "2009-10-22T10:42:38Z")
> [@Surly\_Chick](#): > > I’m sorry to hear that **jjimm** - I remember your last breakup and how painful it was for you. Hang in there. You too, **Sven**. > > Did I ever mention I have a Doper crush on you, **jjimm**? Now that you’re single and emotionally vulnerable…😛 Thanks, **Surly Chick** , and thanks for remembering the pain I went through. That makes me feel a little better. ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2009, 12:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/broken-heart/514471/46 "2009-10-22T12:06:42Z")
I’m an organized wallower. I give myself certain times to talk long sad walks, listen to heartwrenching love songs, cry my eyes out soaking in the tub. But then, you shake it off and really let it go so that you can enjoy your day, or your work, or your dinner or whatever. And the next night, I may wallow a little more. Eventually I’m ok. Because, really; if you are a great person with a great outlook on life, there is no way you are not going to find happiness in life…including the romance area. It will be ok. ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2009, 12:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/broken-heart/514471/47 "2009-10-22T12:23:59Z")
Today went a bit better- probably because we haven’t been in touch. I just feel a bit deflated, is all. We got a new foreigner in town (not my type, unfortunately!) and so new friends should distract me. We’re both stuck here together all weekend. Hopefully it goes okay. Sigh. Really, again, thanks for the support. The hardest part of this is that I don’t have anyone to really talk to about this. You guys are lifesavers! ---
**Author:** ![Surly\_Chick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@Surly\_Chick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Surly_Chick)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2009, 12:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/broken-heart/514471/48 "2009-10-22T12:32:14Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > Thanks, **Surly Chick** , and thanks for remembering the pain I went through. That makes me feel a little better. Happy to help. If you weren’t so far away, I’d be happy to, ummm, comfort you! 😃 Frankly, I’m tired of having my heart ripped out and stomped to little pieces so I’ve put myself on the shelf. I just moved to a new area and don’t know a soul so it wasn’t so hard to do. I’m just hanging with my dog who loves me unconditionally and doesn’t leave the toilet seat up. But if he dumps me, I’m not sure what I’m going to do… ---
**Author:** ![Barrett\_Bonden](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/5e9695/32.png) [@Barrett\_Bonden](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Barrett_Bonden)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2009, 12:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/broken-heart/514471/49 "2009-10-22T12:51:46Z")
> [@even\_sven](#): > > Really, again, thanks for the support. The hardest part of this is that I don’t have anyone to really talk to about this. You guys are lifesavers! Hope today is a better day also. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/broken-heart/514471.md?page=2)