# Burying Both Parents Within 8 Days of Each Other **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 17, 2013, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116 "2013-11-17T14:09:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![atlantic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/46a35a/32.png) [@atlantic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/atlantic)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2013, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/1 "2013-11-17T14:09:55Z")
Well, the title sums it up. My dad died Wednesday, 11/6 from Parkinson’s - a disease that had, in six years, taken a perfectly healthy, active, hard-working man and reduced him to a total shell of himself - bedridden and unable to speak. We buried him last Saturday. He was 76. My mom in the previous three months has suffered from complications of congestive heart failure, including liver and kidney failure. Apparently, in the elderly, these things cause dementia which was sudden and difficult to handle. She was combative, agitated and didn’t understand what was happening to her. She was hospitalized eight times since mid August - for her kidneys, low blood sugar (she also had diabetes) and a couple of falls that she had. The last fall fractured her ankle and shifted her tibia from her knee implant. It was the final straw. We moved her into hospice care the day my dad died and she died a week later, this past Wednesday. We are burying her today. She was 71. This had already been a shit year for our family - two car accidents in January, losing both of our sweet Boxers within a month of each other during the spring, and now this. Hoping 2014 has something wonderful in store. My dad used to tell me not to worry about anything because the things you should be worrying about, you don’t even see coming. He was so right. ---
**Author:** ![Gagundathar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a183cd/32.png) [@Gagundathar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gagundathar)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2013, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/2 "2013-11-17T14:30:06Z")
I am so sorry that this happened to you. Everyone expects to eventually lose their parents, but both in a matter of days is hard to contemplate. I really hope that things go better for you in the coming year. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2013, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/3 "2013-11-17T14:36:57Z")
I’m lucky to still have both my parents (and in perfectly good health) but when I was married, between my (now ex) wife and I, we lost 5 grandparents inside of a year. I swear I was ready to punch the next person who said “When it rains, it pours”. ---
**Author:** ![atlantic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/46a35a/32.png) [@atlantic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/atlantic)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2013, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/4 "2013-11-17T14:45:13Z")
Yep, I’ve heard that a lot. Also “What doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger”. Not sure if I believe that … sometimes what doesn’t kill us just doesn’t kill us. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2013, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/5 "2013-11-17T15:09:52Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. We’re facing a similar situation. My husband’s parents are in their 90s. Mom has Parkinson’s and Pop has CHF with all the accompanying problems. He has just started to lose memory and has become agressive. I suspect they will lose their respective battles within days of each other too. It’s hard to face when you see it coming. Being blind-sided is worse. ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2013, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/6 "2013-11-17T17:44:08Z")
Sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2013, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/7 "2013-11-17T17:46:57Z")
I’m so very sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![ThisSpaceForRent](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thisspaceforrent/32/345_2.png) [@ThisSpaceForRent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThisSpaceForRent)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2013, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/8 "2013-11-17T18:39:10Z")
I am very sorry for your loss… I found two pictures of my Dad today going through some crap…these are the only two pics I have of him. He passed almost 22 yrs ago. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2013, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/9 "2013-11-17T19:15:18Z")
That sounds dreadful, lising both parents so close together. You know where to come to vent, or to ask for help, or with questions. One thing about the Dope I love, no matter how bitchy we get at each other sometimes, for things like this folks rally around if they can. I hope 2014 is better. ---
**Author:** ![TBG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c89c15/32.png) [@TBG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TBG)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2013, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/10 "2013-11-17T23:26:03Z")
Condolences. Hope the next year is better. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2013, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/11 "2013-11-17T23:29:50Z")
I am so sorry for your loss **atlantic**. May you find peace and comfort in the days to come. Here’s hoping for a better 2014. ---
**Author:** ![Cheez\_Whia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d26b3c/32.png) [@Cheez\_Whia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheez_Whia)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2013, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/12 "2013-11-18T00:00:14Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. My mother died 11 months to the day that my Dad died. It’s still hard sometimes. Keeping you in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2013, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/13 "2013-11-18T01:31:07Z")
That all really blows. I wish there was something one of us could say or do to make things better, or at least easier. ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2013, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/14 "2013-11-18T02:38:19Z")
I hope 2014 showers you with good fortune. I am so sorry that your holiday season is kicking off in this manner. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2013, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/15 "2013-11-18T02:48:00Z")
Jeez, what a fucked up month this has been for Dopers. My condolences, fellow griever. ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2013, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/16 "2013-11-18T03:26:09Z")
I am so sorry. I hope you have plenty of support IRL. Wishing you better times in 2014. ---
**Author:** ![Stendhal\_Syndrome](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/77aa72/32.png) [@Stendhal\_Syndrome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stendhal_Syndrome)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2013, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/17 "2013-11-18T03:28:14Z")
Sending warm hugs your way. I am hoping 2014 brings you calm and peace. ---
**Author:** ![sisu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@sisu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sisu)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2013, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/18 "2013-11-18T04:01:04Z")
That’s shit mate, hang in there. ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2013, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/19 "2013-11-18T05:10:34Z")
That is a lot to deal with. I definitely hope that 2014 brings better things. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2013, 11:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/burying-both-parents-within-8-days-of-each-other/674116/20 "2013-11-18T11:48:37Z")
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