# Busted: My Daughter Reveals My Family's Rampant Domestic Abuse **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 23, 2009, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852 "2009-10-23T13:43:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![SMullen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a587f6/32.png) [@SMullen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SMullen)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2009, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/61 "2009-10-23T20:06:56Z")
I’ve only seen one person speak up for the kid who gets hit (slugged, punched, etc.) by the kid whose family hits for fun. I’d like to second that. I was a very awkward kid. We played “Slug Bug” and I was always the one getting hit, and a certain angelic-looking person always enjoyed using her knuckles when doing the hitting. It hurt. There are many schools of thought about how kids learn to get along with others. I don’t see anything wrong with a little tap between friends. It just seems to me that anything harder than that little tap could end up being a difficult habit to break. There might come a time when the OP’s daughter wants to be friends with someone whose family never hits. Or the kids at school might start saying “don’t be friends with her – she hits.” ---
**Author:** ![otternell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecc23a/32.png) [@otternell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/otternell)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2009, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/62 "2009-10-23T20:58:29Z")
> [@salinqmind](#): > > 😕 > > You punch each other while driving? > > Have you ever considered, I don’t know…growing up and acting mature? ugh - what a complete and utter drag that would be. OTOH, that’s one of the many reasons why I chose not to have children. You can’t stay a child and raise one - kinda like the blind leading the blind. ---
**Author:** ![perfectparanoia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a5b964/32.png) [@perfectparanoia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/perfectparanoia)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2009, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/63 "2009-10-23T21:00:49Z")
> [@ENugent](#): > > No, you look around and ask, “Who stepped on a duck?” Aside: my dad has said this every time he farted for as long as I can remember. My mom did not notice this (and we had to explain) until last year. They have been married for 40 years. And they say men don’t listen to their wives.] Now, of course, we all say it when we fart in front of her and explain in great detail. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2009, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/64 "2009-10-23T21:01:30Z")
> [@NoClueBoy](#): > > Don’t forget “Bitch Slap Cadillac!” In polite company, that is known as a “Cadillac Whack” ---
**Author:** ![Fetchund](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b2d939/32.png) [@Fetchund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fetchund)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2009, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/65 "2009-10-24T01:38:45Z")
Did anyone else have "Punch Bug Save-it-up"s? You could collect all your slugs and use them all at once. Being the smallest in the family, I got VERY good at spotting bugs. ---
**Author:** ![bengangmo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/50afbb/32.png) [@bengangmo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bengangmo)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2009, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/66 "2009-10-24T02:24:27Z")
> [@SMullen](#): > > I’ve only seen one person speak up for the kid who gets hit (slugged, punched, etc.) by the kid whose family hits for fun. I’d like to second that. I was a very awkward kid. We played “Slug Bug” and I was always the one getting hit, and a certain angelic-looking person always enjoyed using her knuckles when doing the hitting. It hurt. > > There are many schools of thought about how kids learn to get along with others. I don’t see anything wrong with a little tap between friends. It just seems to me that anything harder than that little tap could end up being a difficult habit to break. There might come a time when the OP’s daughter wants to be friends with someone whose family never hits. Or the kids at school might start saying “don’t be friends with her – she hits.” Oh lord won’t someone please think of the childreeeeen ---
**Author:** ![Mama\_Zappa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/71e660/32.png) [@Mama\_Zappa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mama_Zappa)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2009, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/67 "2009-10-24T03:12:19Z")
Oops, Hal, you’re busted. Time to either quit the Punch Buggy game (doggonit), or if you think TLB is old enough to understand, maybe you can explain it to her. Not sure I’d encourage her to play along though - those kids don’t know their own strength and use full force! (we do NOT allow Moon Unit to high-five us, as she goes for blood :eek:). Maybe I should stop gently touching the kids on the head with whatever object I’m carrying, and loudly announcing “BONK!!!”? Fortunately they haven’t repeated this at school (helps that they’re 12 and 15 I guess). A friend’s daughter insisted that Daddy drinks while driving. Fortunately she only reported this to Mommy, and after some brief questioning, Mommy determined that the “drinking” consisted of coffee. I am to this day surprised that I didn’t get a call from the school asking me if I had a drinking problem… the day my then-9 year old daughter heard me telling **Typo Knig** that I would be sober that day. (context: I have occasionally used Good Drugs when having major dental work, and cannot drive myself. I had dental work scheduled, but **Typo Knig** asked me if I needed him to drive me. I replied that it was minor work and “I’ll be sober”. Moon Unit heard, and asked what “sober” meant. We explained but we were worried she’d explain). ---
**Author:** ![Jragon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e19b73/32.png) [@Jragon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jragon)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2009, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/68 "2009-10-24T03:43:52Z")
> [@Sigmagirl](#): > > I was thinking maybe you played Wet Willie when you saw a Willys. But they’re pretty uncommon. You could go years. > > And then, [when you least expect it . . . .](http://www.willys-mb.co.uk/images/world-war-2-jeep-s.jpg) Can’t be as uncommon as the “noogie nukes.” ---
**Author:** ![Hockey\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a183cd/32.png) [@Hockey\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hockey_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2009, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/69 "2009-10-24T06:14:47Z")
I’ve learned much from this thread. My sister (34) still Punch Bugs me(37). Hard! She get’s all whiney when I get her first. We don’t have any hard and fast rules concerning calling it, other than PUNCH FIRST, say your Slug Bug afterward. 😃 We also play with Jeeps. Pretend the fart didn’t happen and try to stifle the giggles. ---
**Author:** ![Maiira](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f04885/32.png) [@Maiira](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maiira)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2009, 8:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/70 "2009-10-24T08:30:44Z")
> [@Juliana](#): > > We’ve played Slug Bug for years with no ill effects: well, except for the bruised shoulders. Our son, however, changed the game to Hug Bug. Now our daughter refuses to play. 😃 I knew a girl who did the whole Hug Bug thing. Very, er, vigorously. Frankly, I’d rather she’d hit us. A bruised shoulder I can handle…near-strangulation? Not so much. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![FoieGrasIsEvil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foiegrasisevil/32/16638_2.png) [@FoieGrasIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FoieGrasIsEvil)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2009, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/71 "2009-10-24T13:46:04Z")
> [@Zsofia](#): > > Oh, god, please don’t say “excuse me”. It brings all this attention to the fact that you farted, and what are we supposed to say about it? You pretend it never happened. Alternately, you try to recreate the noise with your shoe. > > If you don’t _mind_ that they know you farted, then you laugh or perhaps give it a letter grade. But cut it out with “Excuse me!” That’s for burps! What’s that old joke? “It’s more polite to say ‘Look out!’ _before_ you fart, rather than ‘Excuse me’ _after_ you fart”? You know, give somebody a warning that chemical warfare is about to ensue… ---
**Author:** ![jasonh300](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/46a35a/32.png) [@jasonh300](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jasonh300)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2009, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/72 "2009-10-24T15:52:02Z")
> [@PunditLisa](#): > > No, no, no. This is America, not Mexico. You put the modifier BEFORE the noun. “Red punch buggy.” When I was a teenager (20 years ago), it was Punch Buggy(,) Red. Note the comma…there was no pause, but that’s how I justify putting the modifier afterwards. > [@](#): > > An old-fashioned bug is also worth double points, and if you’re lucky enough to spot an old-fashioned convertible buggy, you get quadruple punches. That’s a new one. Back then, there was no such thing as an old-fashioned bug…they were largely unchanged from the 1940s to the 1970s (and at the time had been out of production in the U.S. for 20 years). ---
**Author:** ![gonzomax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e8c25b/32.png) [@gonzomax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gonzomax)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2009, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/73 "2009-10-24T17:29:25Z")
> [@johnpost](#): > > things are more humorful when they happen only occasionally. you need to stop laughing at farts yourself and fart more otherwise the kid will be a fart-laugher for life. Well farts are funny. ---
**Author:** ![kittenblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ba8739/32.png) [@kittenblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kittenblue)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2009, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/74 "2009-10-24T18:20:50Z")
I had a sheltered childhood, and despite actually learning to drive in a Bug, and my family owning two, I’d never even heard of the game until 1985 when my friend’s son punched my daughter in the backseat of my car on the way to preschool one day. Since this kid outweighed both of mine put together, we changed the game to LoveBug and you had to give each person a smooch. The kids eventually gave in to peer pressure in their teens and went back to punching…sigh. ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2009, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/75 "2009-10-24T18:49:32Z")
My niece almost got her mother fired from her teaching job. It was a DARE thing, no drinking and driving, that sort of thing, when Ivyniece says, “Oh, my mommy drinks and drives all the time!” Concerned, the principal mentioned this to my SIL, who was shocked. Suffice to say, my SIL does NOT drink and drive. So, Ivyniece was asked…“What does your mommy drink when she’s driving?” “Oh, water, sometimes lemonade…” ---
**Author:** ![kidneyfailure](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9f8e36/32.png) [@kidneyfailure](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kidneyfailure)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2009, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/76 "2009-10-25T00:38:28Z")
> [@Textual\_Intercourse](#): > > Well farts are funny. This is a technical fact. As for the PC thing to do when you fart, I believe the proper course of action is to look around in a puzzled manner searching for the “real” culprit of said flatulence. In what must be one of the most bizarre coincidences of my whole life, I happened to cut an audible one in front of my class of about 25-30 students, all young children (the kind who would make a big spectacle out of it), the other day. Rather than fess up I said, “Who was that?” I didn’t expect anything to come from it, you know? I just assumed everyone would be silent and no one would come forward, but at least they wouldn’t think it was me. Strangely enough, one boy raised his hand and apologized, saying that his stomach had been hurting all day and it just slipped out. Hmmm…I spent a while after class trying to figure this out: did he really cut one at the exact same moment as I did? Or was he smart and kind enough to sacrifice his own “face” to protect mine? I pondered this for a long time before I realized that I’m a grown man and I shouldn’t be thinking about things like that. Then I said the hell with it and got a beer. ---
**Author:** ![kidneyfailure](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9f8e36/32.png) [@kidneyfailure](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kidneyfailure)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2009, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/77 "2009-10-25T00:44:50Z")
[quote=“Hampshire, post:11, topic:514852”] I know the PC thing to do when you fart is to say “excuse me” but my son instead laughs. Probably because that’s what I do. \*\*Does anyone see any bad future ramifications of this?[/\*\*QUOTE] Hampshire’s Son All Grown Up: Alright folks, so these are the newest figures we’ve received from our overseas markets. You can tell by the charts that we’re doing brisk business in Taiwan, but perhaps we could work a little harder on the Singapore numbers. In addition to that…PFFFFFFTTTTTTTT…Hhahahahahahaha… (nervous silence) In addition to that, maybe we could slash our production costs by… ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2009, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/78 "2009-10-25T01:25:10Z")
As an only child, I didn’t know about “SlugBug” until about 3 years ago when I heard a friend say it to her daughter. I’m 50 fricken years old…I must have been raised under a rock on Mars or something. ---
**Author:** ![ToeJam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dfb087/32.png) [@ToeJam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ToeJam)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2009, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/79 "2009-10-25T02:08:33Z")
Yeah, I had never heard of this when I was a child, but when my sister was in her schooling years she discovered this much to my surprise pretty much by punching the crap out of me on family outings. Needless, to say- I got right into the spirit of the game until she finally got the message- do NOT randomly punch your older and bigger brother who can hold vendettas and remember “rules” of silly games that can be used as a free hit. So a truce was called and we no longer play this silly game. And we called it “\_\_\_\_\_ punch buggy can’t punch back.” ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2009, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852/80 "2009-10-25T02:33:57Z")
> [@kittenblue](#): > > Since this kid outweighed both of mine put together, we changed the game to _ **LoveBug** _ and you had to give each person a _ **smooch** _. > > The kids eventually gave in to peer pressure in their _ **teens** _ and went back to punching…sigh. That’s a sigh of _relief_, right? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/busted-my-daughter-reveals-my-familys-rampant-domestic-abuse/514852.md?page=5)