# But will she say yes? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 8, 2007, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135 "2007-03-08T18:44:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2007, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135/41 "2007-03-09T17:59:52Z")
That’s a very sweet engagement story. Here’s to many happy years together! ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2007, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135/42 "2007-03-09T18:01:27Z")
Congrats! May I offer the suggestion of eloping to Vegas? Let the families and friends throw you lots of parties, but eloping saves so much hassle it’s unbelievable. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2007, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135/43 "2007-03-09T18:01:29Z")
[QUOTE=sciguy] [the ring](http://home.comcast.net/~sciguyco/images/TheRing.jpg) And apparently I hadn’t been quite as sneaky as I thought. She told me that for the past week or so she’s been focusing on not biting her nails so her hands look their best for ring presentation. 🙂 [/QUOTE] Gorgeous! And it sounds like you surprised her even though she had some suspicions (maybe she thought it would happen at the restaurant?)! Well done, and congratulations. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2007, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135/44 "2007-03-09T18:03:25Z")
[QUOTE=silenus] Congrats! May I offer the suggestion of eloping to Vegas? Let the families and friends throw you lots of parties, but eloping saves so much hassle it’s unbelievable. [/QUOTE] I second that! ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2007, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135/45 "2007-03-09T19:33:04Z")
No, no, no. Have a real wedding, please. You’ll have fun and be able to share your happy day with others, too. Just keep a sense of proportion and a sense of humor about it all, and you’ll be in good shape. Insist on having the wedding you _both_ want to have, not the one a busybody relative/overbearing wedding planner/moneygrubbing caterer/etc. wants you to have. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2007, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135/46 "2007-03-09T21:32:30Z")
Congratulations, **sciguy**. May I suggest a quick search on wedding threads for some really solid advice? There was one a couple of months ago on all the things that people truly hate about weddings; it should be linked to and posted on all bridal sites. Most of the things were universal. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2007, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135/47 "2007-03-10T02:52:38Z")
Mazel tov! And what a beautiful ring. May you have many happy years together. Again-congrats you two! ---
**Author:** ![sturmhauke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e47c2d/32.png) [@sturmhauke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sturmhauke)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2007, 9:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135/48 "2007-03-10T09:02:12Z")
//00+! Your choice of ring is similar to my wife’s, except with the sapphire and diamonds reversed. She worked with a jeweler to do a custom design. (I didn’t exactly propose, we more just sort of both decided to get married.) ---
**Author:** ![Frylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@Frylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frylock)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2007, 9:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135/49 "2007-03-10T09:32:52Z")
I hope you two have been discussing this. And I hope you will not demand an immediate answer from her. I’ve got… opinions… about the whole “popping the question” thing… Oh, don’t mind me. -FrL- ---
**Author:** ![Cyberhwk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7993a0/32.png) [@Cyberhwk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyberhwk)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2007, 10:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135/50 "2007-03-10T10:11:09Z")
[QUOTE=silenus] Congrats! May I offer the suggestion of eloping to Vegas? Let the families and friends throw you lots of parties, but eloping saves so much hassle it’s unbelievable. [/QUOTE] As a future BIL, let me second this. My sister’s wedding is still a year and a half away and we’re ALREADY getting to-do lists. Meanwhile my mother, who should be saving for retirement, and paying off debt, and paying off our new $12K floor that’s on a 22% credit card if it’s not paid off within a year, has volunteered $5,000 for the damn thing. Not sure where she thinks she’s going to GET the money, but… ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2007, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135/51 "2007-03-12T20:47:32Z")
Pretty cool! Sorry I missed out wishing you luck earlier, but let me wish you a lifetime of joy and love together now. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/but-will-she-say-yes/395135.md?page=2)