# Butthurt **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 10, 2009, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052 "2009-11-10T15:48:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Wile\_E](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c37758/32.png) [@Wile\_E](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wile_E)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/21 "2009-11-10T18:44:39Z")
Perhaps if butthurt is too annoying we could use similar terms such as “hemorrhoidal” or “sphincter spasm” or “rectum! Damn near killed him”? Or not. ---
**Author:** ![mswas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e99b99/32.png) [@mswas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mswas)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/22 "2009-11-10T18:46:11Z")
> [@Lestrade](#): > > I always thought it was a reference to the experience of unpleasant anal sex. If so, it’s a powerful term that doesn’t sound excessively rude. There are precious few of these, a shame considering how often they can be useful. I like it and bite my thumb at the prescriptionists at stopsay.in. > > I suspect it originated at 4chan, so it may well have been created by a 12 year old. > > Also, butthurt over the term butthurt is too ironic. I don’t read that word without ever thinking of the recipient being fucked in the ass. To me it’s not any less rude than, “Hahaha you just got fucked in the ass faggot-bitch!”, as it essentially means the same thing. Or more specifically refers to someone being unhappy with having something shoved up their ass. I really loathe the idea that euphemisms are somehow less rude. f\*\*\* you means fuck you. ---
**Author:** ![BubbaDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bubbadog/32/333_2.png) [@BubbaDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BubbaDog)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/23 "2009-11-10T18:51:58Z")
I haven’t heard of butthurt before, But I have heard the term buttmunch as an insult which made it more perplexing to me as to why **Munch** was complaining. ---
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/24 "2009-11-10T18:55:44Z")
> [@BubbaDog](#): > > I haven’t heard of butthurt before, But I have heard the term buttmunch as an insult which made it more perplexing to me as to why **Munch** was complaining. LOL! I love it when someone uses that one to try to insult me. It says, “I only had a few seconds to think of something marginally insulting to say about you, and will use the most obvious thing I could have come up with.” ---
**Author:** ![fisha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/25 "2009-11-10T18:57:31Z")
Funny, I always thought it was originally **Q.E.D**., not **Sapo**. ---
**Author:** ![Todderbob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e47774/32.png) [@Todderbob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Todderbob)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/26 "2009-11-10T19:00:35Z")
@OP don’t be butthurt. ---
**Author:** ![Taber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ac91a4/32.png) [@Taber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taber)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/27 "2009-11-10T19:03:27Z")
> [@Bosstone](#): > > I hate the word with a violent, blinding passion. It’s one of my easily-pushable buttons; it can send me into a red rage. > > Basically, it’s a more snide version of “Gosh, can’t you take a joke? :rolleyes:” It is, at its heart, a dismissal of one’s feelings or opinions. It says that the person saying it has absolutely no regard for you as a person and does not empathize with you in any way. It’s one of the most effective ways I know to dehumanize someone in casual conversation online. > > Yeah, I realize I’m being more melodramatic than a stupid word deserves, probably to the point of being “butthurt” myself. But I don’t think I’m wrong and I think less of anyone who seriously uses it (knowing full well that people who use it don’t give two shits about my opinion). u mad? (seriously though, I basically agree with this post) ---
**Author:** ![tacoloco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7993a0/32.png) [@tacoloco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tacoloco)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/28 "2009-11-10T19:26:22Z")
OP appears to be suffering anally, painfully. ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/29 "2009-11-10T19:33:08Z")
> [@Fenris](#): > > Mod: (in other thread): Plus, “butthurt” is a knife-fight type insult > > . I can not stop laughing. ---
**Author:** ![fubbleskag](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c2a13f/32.png) [@fubbleskag](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fubbleskag)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/30 "2009-11-10T19:33:27Z")
> [@Taber](#): > > u mad? well played ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/31 "2009-11-10T19:39:57Z")
ass-injured? ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/32 "2009-11-10T19:44:45Z")
maybe butthurt is like “puta cap in your ass” except the hood you are in is soo poor nobody has a gun…but they do have knife to stab into one cheek or another… Just a theory. ---
**Author:** ![Bosstone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/22d042/32.png) [@Bosstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosstone)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/33 "2009-11-10T20:09:24Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > You do seem to be exaggerating its impact and intent, just a smidgen. It’s basically an abbreviated version of “aw, whassamatta. Baby gonna cwy?” Oh yeah, totally. It’s just one of those things that makes me want to shiv someone. ---
**Author:** ![phouka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c5a1d2/32.png) [@phouka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phouka)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/34 "2009-11-10T20:15:23Z")
See, I thought “butthurt” referred to the self-righteous owie feeling from being thoroughly spanked when you don’t think you deserved it. I hadn’t connected it to anal sex. Guess I have a weird brain. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/35 "2009-11-10T20:34:17Z")
> [@Bosstone](#): > > Oh yeah, totally. It’s just one of those things that makes me want to shiv someone. See post number 32 and the circle will be complete 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tacoloco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7993a0/32.png) [@tacoloco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tacoloco)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/36 "2009-11-10T20:42:03Z")
I’m wondering how the OP feels about the term buttmunch. ---
**Author:** ![ToeJam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dfb087/32.png) [@ToeJam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ToeJam)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/37 "2009-11-10T20:55:13Z")
Yep- I love seeing the word- as it reminds me of Knife Fights and why we can’t say the C-word around here. Butthurt is just one of the SDMB memes now I think, and whenever I see it, I just associate it with “I challenge you to a knife fight in Mexico!” which just adds hilarity to whatever point was trying to be made… ---
**Author:** ![Blaster\_Master](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/cab0a1/32.png) [@Blaster\_Master](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blaster_Master)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/38 "2009-11-10T21:05:18Z")
I think the people at stopsay.in are flat wrong about butthurt. I’ve seen it used a fair amount on some of the less moderated forums I read and it is generally used to refer to someone who just got beat got their butt kicked and is whining and complaining about it. Did you just lose an argument but refusing to concede? You’re butthurt. Were you playing an fps or pvp and just got “pwned” and now complaining about how what they did was cheating? You’re butthurt. As sort of natural evolution, I’ve seen it used just in cases where people are whining and complaining without good reason. I suppose I can understand people not liking that usage, like how it was apparently used in the paraphrased incident, since it takes a term that has a specific meaning and generalizes it to an arena where there’s plenty of other terms that fit. Now, I’m not a fan of the word and I’ve never used it, but I also don’t get why people get blindly enraged by it. It’s just silly internet jargon. Sometimes I find those terms amusing, sometimes I find them annoying. But really, getting upset at someone using those terms excessively or incorrectly is akin to getting upset when I remember people got all riled up when baby boomers started using terms like “bling”. If anything, it just makes them look like a moron, but it’s hardly worth getting upset over. ---
**Author:** ![Bosstone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/22d042/32.png) [@Bosstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosstone)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/39 "2009-11-10T21:13:30Z")
> [@Blaster\_Master](#): > > Now, I’m not a fan of the word and I’ve never used it, but I also don’t get why people get blindly enraged by it. Because in all the times it’s been used at me or my friends, it’s been to invalidate reasonable points of view. I’ve got an issue with someone’s behavior and I’ve got a responsibility to try to correct their behavior. “Oh, don’t get so butthurt, can’t you take a joke?” There’s no talking reasonably with that. It’s frustrating as all hell. Now, in a less serious venue, I wouldn’t care that much. If I see it being thrown around on 4chan or Something Awful, I’m not gonna care, because I expect immaturity in those places. But if someone can’t respect me enough when I’m trying to be serious with them, well, to hell with them. ---
**Author:** ![Agent\_Foxtrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9fc29f/32.png) [@Agent\_Foxtrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Agent_Foxtrot)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/40 "2009-11-10T21:15:56Z")
I have a love-hate relationship with the word. On one hand, it sounds like a passive-aggressive parting shot for which there really is no comeback. On the other hand, it describes some individuals so perfectly by the context of the word. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052.md?page=3)