# Butthurt **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 10, 2009, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052 "2009-11-10T15:48:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/41 "2009-11-10T21:58:07Z")
> [@tacoloco](#): > > I’m wondering how the OP feels about the term buttmunch. Seriously? Is this a whoosh? ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/42 "2009-11-10T22:07:09Z")
> [@Fenris](#): > > Mod (as…MOD? Maybe?) : "In my country, “butthurt” means “I want to fight you in a knife fight.” I am sorry. I swear I am not 12. But I can not stop laughing. It is not just the knife fight thing. It is that he said in _some cultures_. I think it was the Mexican culture? ‘butthurt = Mexican knife fight’. Well, it wasn’t that exactly, but that is how I remember it. Funnier that way. ---
**Author:** ![Blaster\_Master](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/cab0a1/32.png) [@Blaster\_Master](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blaster_Master)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/43 "2009-11-10T22:16:46Z")
> [@Bosstone](#): > > Because in all the times it’s been used at me or my friends, it’s been to invalidate reasonable points of view. I’ve got an issue with someone’s behavior and I’ve got a responsibility to try to correct their behavior. “Oh, don’t get so butthurt, can’t you take a joke?” There’s no talking reasonably with that. It’s frustrating as all hell. Do people you know actually use butthurt in everyday situations? While I’ve seen it on various forums, I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone actually call someone butthurt in a normal conversation. I think there’s a whole set of terms that work on the internet but just don’t work in real life unless in the context of the internet or gaming. For instance, if I’m having a political discussion, I think it would be obnoxious to call a particular policy “fail” or “noob”, but if I’m discussing WoW with a friend, I think the terms “fail” and “noob” are appropriate and I have used them in that context. So, I can kind of see using butthurt on the Dope, though I do think it lowers the level of discourse, but if you’re having an argument with some friends and they call you butthurt, unless they just fragged and you’re whining about it, they’re an idiot. And to me, I don’t see responses of “don’t get all butthurt” and much different than “L2Spell noob”. More times than not, it seems to me that when someone calls their opposition butthurt, ironically it’s because they’re out of actual points to continue their argument and it’s just another form of ad hominem. So at that point, why really bother? > [@](#): > > Now, in a less serious venue, I wouldn’t care that much. If I see it being thrown around on 4chan or Something Awful, I’m not gonna care, because I expect immaturity in those places. But if someone can’t respect me enough when I’m trying to be serious with them, well, to hell with them. Those sites are along the lines of the places I’ve seen butthurt used the most. I completely agree that it really has little place on the Dope simply because we should be striving to have more meaningful debate. I can just imagine now… “obama is teh suxxor” “omg ur just butthurt cuz u lost teh electshun”. When people use that term in a serious context then, like you said, I’d just realize that they can’t have a serious discussion about that topic and move on. ---
**Author:** ![SiXSwordS](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/49beb7/32.png) [@SiXSwordS](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SiXSwordS)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/44 "2009-11-10T22:22:31Z")
> [@Fenris](#): > > [Here’s the thread where Big Ed Zotti goes insane and starts tossing around warnings for a poster saying he’d win a debate.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=502463&page=2) This may well be on my end since this is the second time this has happened, but I get nothing useful from your link. Or, specifically: > [@](#): > > The webpage “http” cannot be found > DNS error occurred. Server cannot be found. The link may be broken. > Suggestion - search the Web: ---
**Author:** ![Bosstone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/22d042/32.png) [@Bosstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosstone)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/45 "2009-11-10T22:58:02Z")
> [@Blaster\_Master](#): > > Do people you know actually use butthurt in everyday situations? No. It was an online community much like the Dope, just more real-time. I had a position very much like the mods here. Like the Dope, there were a lot of members that weren’t exactly friends, and while we had no reason to kick them out, we did have some responsibility to make sure everyone played together nicely. Some of the more aggressive members tended to throw around butthurt a lot when we tried raising issues as politely as we could. It’s where I first starting hating the word. You can’t argue reasonably when someone blows you off with it, because they’re not interested in being reasonable. I don’t have any friends who use it. I don’t associate with pricks. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/46 "2009-11-10T22:58:04Z")
Butthurt, Munch? ---
**Author:** ![Blaster\_Master](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/cab0a1/32.png) [@Blaster\_Master](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blaster_Master)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/47 "2009-11-10T23:07:27Z")
> [@Bosstone](#): > > No. It was an online community much like the Dope, just more real-time. I had a position very much like the mods here. Like the Dope, there were a lot of members that weren’t exactly friends, and while we had no reason to kick them out, we did have some responsibility to make sure everyone played together nicely. Some of the more aggressive members tended to throw around butthurt a lot when we tried raising issues as politely as we could. It’s where I first starting hating the word. You can’t argue reasonably when someone blows you off with it, because they’re not interested in being reasonable. > > I don’t have any friends who use it. I don’t associate with pricks. Fair enough, I can understand finding the word annoying in that context. Calling a mod butthurt because they’re telling you to cut something off is obnoxious. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/48 "2009-11-10T23:12:56Z")
> [@Fenris](#): > > [Fixed link](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=502463&page=2). > [@tacoloco](#): > > I’m wondering how the OP feels about the term buttmunch. > [@Munch](#): > > Seriously? Is this a whoosh? Shut up, bunghole. ---
**Author:** ![Fenris](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fenris/32/498_2.png) [@Fenris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fenris)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/49 "2009-11-10T23:15:49Z")
> [@SiXSwordS](#): > > This may well be on my end since this is the second time this has happened, but I get nothing useful from your link. Or, specifically: [http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=502463&page=2](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=502463&page=2) I fuXXored up the coding and now I’m butthurt. I’ll have to challenge the coding to a knife fight. ---
**Author:** ![Annie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/858c86/32.png) [@Annie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/50 "2009-11-10T23:23:50Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > You do seem to be exaggerating its impact and intent, just a smidgen. It’s basically an abbreviated version of “aw, whassamatta. Baby gonna cwy?” “No, not cry; but I am developing an Eric Kleibold-like festering level of resentment towards your petty attempts to bully. Well, never mind-we’ll meet again soon- Hey, where’r you running off to?” > [@Lestrade](#): > > I always thought it was a reference to the experience of unpleasant anal sex. More likely, unsolicited anal sex. It comes across as faux mocking of molestation victims. Although it is such a fabulous term to describe Glen Beck when he whines about people being poopyheads to him on the net. So, I’m conflicted. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 11:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/51 "2009-11-10T23:34:12Z")
> [@Bosstone](#): > > I don’t have any friends who use it. I don’t associate with pricks. I dont understand. By definition wouldnt that make your zone a butthurt free zone ? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/52 "2009-11-10T23:38:13Z")
> [@Nzinga\_Seated](#): > > I am sorry. I swear I am not 12. But I can not stop laughing. It is not just the knife fight thing. It is that he said in _some cultures_. I think it was the Mexican culture? ‘butthurt = Mexican knife fight’. Now you’ve got me giggling out loud too. I’m picturing it like a spaghetti western, some snoozing guy in a sleepy town raising the brim of his sombrero to view a stranger, who spits and calls him _that word_, and suddenly a dagger is whisked out from beneath his poncho… ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/53 "2009-11-10T23:43:05Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > Now you’ve got me giggling out loud too. I’m picturing it like a spaghetti western, some snoozing guy in a sleepy town raising the brim of his sombrero to view a stranger, who spits and calls him _that word_, and suddenly a dagger is whisked out from beneath his poncho… I envision either one of the two main characters from Fantasy Island making the challenge/statement. In their normal attire. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/54 "2009-11-10T23:55:23Z")
All I know is, next time I’m putting away the dishes, I’m going to be thinking about how my wife always complains that we don’t have enough butthurt knives. ---
**Author:** ![Fenris](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fenris/32/498_2.png) [@Fenris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fenris)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/55 "2009-11-11T00:01:52Z")
Watch it Kaylasdad–she might stab you. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/56 "2009-11-11T00:02:58Z")
FWIW, I always figured the adolescent overtones of the phrase to be intentional. The implication being that the person who is complaining doesn’t have a real grievance, but instead the sort of petty complaint typified by immature whining. It’s an intentionally childish term because it describes childish behavior. ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/57 "2009-11-11T00:09:53Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > FWIW, I always figured the adolescent overtones of the phrase to be intentional. The implication being that the person who is complaining doesn’t have a real grievance, but instead the sort of petty complaint typified by immature whining. It’s an intentionally childish term because it describes childish behavior. Thus the [Butthurt Report Form](http://spubba.com/extras/butthurt.pdf)! ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/58 "2009-11-11T01:02:40Z")
> [@Annie](#): > > Eric Kleibold Being an unholy Brundlefly-like monstrosity comprising Eric Harris, Dylan Klebold, and a Diebold machine, I presume. ---
**Author:** ![mswas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e99b99/32.png) [@mswas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mswas)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/59 "2009-11-11T01:11:13Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Being an unholy Brundlefly-like monstrosity comprising Eric Harris, Dylan Klebold, and a Diebold machine, I presume. Are you listening to KMFDM again? You know what that music leads to? Wearing a trenchcoat! ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052/60 "2009-11-11T01:16:38Z")
It’s a _Beavis and Butthead_ type insult. Who doesn’t like a good B&B term? (Speaking of, would you need TP for your bunghole if you’re butthurt?) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/butthurt/517052.md?page=4)