# CajunMan, an apology. Flamsterette\_X, I wish I could say the same. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [March 4, 2003, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071 "2003-03-04T19:46:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Legomancer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/779978/32.png) [@Legomancer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Legomancer)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2003, 1:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/81 "2003-03-05T13:37:29Z")
Would it be wrong to say that actually, I _do_ think what airdisc did (giving several different birthdays) was kind of funny? ---
**Author:** ![TheLoadedDog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@TheLoadedDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheLoadedDog)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2003, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/82 "2003-03-05T13:39:07Z")
Seconding **kambuckta** here in saying "Thank you, **Flam** for being thoughtful. I’ve had a birthdayflamthread [sup]TM[/sup]. It’s cool. 🙂 **airdisc** … uh… actually, nevermind. I think I’m pretty much on the way to forgetting you exist. ---
**Author:** ![Ice\_Wolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/dfb087/32.png) [@Ice\_Wolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ice_Wolf)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2003, 2:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/83 "2003-03-05T14:17:26Z")
In times to come, we may ponder the wonders by which some posters may be known into posterity. **airdisc** may well have won his piece of acclaim here tonight as th’ Whiney Multi-Birthday Shithead of 2003. Tell me, **airdisc** , ol’ cheesebrain – does th’ stick up _your_ arse have a stick up its arse, too? ---
**Author:** ![TheLoadedDog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@TheLoadedDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheLoadedDog)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2003, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/84 "2003-03-05T14:21:10Z")
Actually **Wolfie** , it’s “ass”. In this case, I’ll go with the US spelling. The ambiguity isn’t a problem with this bozo. ---
**Author:** ![Ice\_Wolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/dfb087/32.png) [@Ice\_Wolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ice_Wolf)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2003, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/85 "2003-03-05T14:23:22Z")
I’m not into cruelty to donkeys, not even for this pissant OP, cuz. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2003, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/86 "2003-03-05T14:34:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by White Lightning \* > \*\*This glut of posters in the 2700-2750 post count ranges has just got to stop. \*\* What are you talking about? oh… ---
**Author:** ![elf6c](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c57346/32.png) [@elf6c](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elf6c)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2003, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/87 "2003-03-05T14:48:30Z")
Ah the sweet irony of a bogus Pitting blowing up in an idiot’s face, truly there is no better way to start the day (other then going back to sleep for an extra hour). 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Berkut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a88e57/32.png) [@Berkut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Berkut)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2003, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/88 "2003-03-05T15:16:33Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Legomancer \* > \*\*Would it be wrong to say that actually, I _do_ think what airdisc did (giving several different birthdays) was kind of funny? \*\* I thought it was funny myself. However, all the poo flinging kinda sucks. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2003, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/89 "2003-03-05T18:30:23Z")
**Geo** I don’t think anyone is claiming serious injury (certainly not me). what I saw was some one intentionally ‘pissing in some bodys’ cheerios’, making a joke of something that she was doing as a nice gesture. So, his ‘joke’ was a bit mean spirited (I mean what the fuck does he care if folks want to celebrate the b’days? So if I’d said 'happy b’day airdisc, I’d get to feel taken? ). Then, when she initially called him on it, she asked for an explanation, and he replied that it was a joke, she replied that she didn’t find it amusing, please stop, and he asked about the stick up her ass. Was it the biggest deal here? nope. had he dropped it or appologized after getting caught, it could have died. instead, he decided that she over-reacted to his over-reaction. seriously - you play a joke on some one, they catch you at it and tell you they didn’t find it funny and please stop, and your reaction is to ask about the stick up their ass? It could have been water under the bridge had he not escalated it more by opening a pit thread specifically saying that she didn’t deserve an apology ---
**Author:** ![White\_Lightning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@White\_Lightning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/White_Lightning)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2003, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/90 "2003-03-05T19:57:15Z")
I think it’s funny, too. I even think it’s funny the second time when **Jack Batty** ’s doing it in this thread. I’ve giggled each time. But that’s not really the issue, is it? **wring** knows what the issue is. ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2003, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/91 "2003-03-05T22:53:06Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by **Kat** _ > > Today is my unbirthday. [singing] A very merry unbirthday to-oooooooooooooo yooooooooooou! [/singing] [sub](“To me?” “To you!”)[/sub] Esprix ---
**Author:** ![Jack\_Batty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jack_batty/32/3201_2.png) [@Jack\_Batty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jack_Batty)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/92 "2003-03-06T00:24:27Z")
Oh yay. I just got around to actually reading the thread linked in the OP. What a clusterfuck. My humble opinion. **airdisc** was over the top with his “stick up the ass” comment, but come on … nobody thought **Flamsterette** was being just a tad melodramatic? > [@](#): > > _Said by Flamsterette_ > \*\*… we are not amused. Not funny. Don’t try to play me for a fool… > > * * * > > Let me assure you that I normally have a very fine and wacky sense of humor. However, when it comes to these things, that is NOT humorous in the least. \*\* Was she hosting an MPSIMS thread or composing a UN resolution? I half-way agree with **airdisc** , a little sense of humor can go a long way. My birthday isn’t yesterday or today either, just in case anyone was preparing an injunction against me. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/93 "2003-03-06T00:37:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Jack Batty \* > \*\*Oh yay. I just got around to actually reading the thread linked in the OP. > > What a clusterfuck. > > My humble opinion. **airdisc** was over the top with his “stick up the ass” comment, but come on … nobody thought **Flamsterette** was being just a tad melodramatic? > Was she hosting an MPSIMS thread or composing a UN resolution? > > I half-way agree with **airdisc** , a little sense of humor can go a long way. > > \*\* And I agree that a ‘little sense of humor’ can go a long way etc. and that the ‘we are not amused’ was a tad pretensious. however. what I saw was **airdisc** decided to have some fun at **Flam’s** expense. She does these b’day threads, obviously gets some measure of pleasure out of it. I’m personally not into it at all, but ya know what? I wouldn’t make it a point to step in and make fun of the people who were. and that’s what he did. a joke at their expense ‘look, I can lie about this and get people to wish me b’day greetings over and over and no one noticed for months and months.’ (this of course assumes that other posters remember his postings from time to time). so her first thing to him was ‘splain it please’. and he simply stated it was a joke. not, ‘sorry’, but ‘it’s a joke’. so she got peeved that some one went to those lengths to poke fun at her trying to be nice. and got all huffy about it. I think she was entitled to a little huffiness myself, but even if you didn’t agree w/that, if some one’s **not laughing at your joke** , getting aggressively in their face about it isn’t likely to charm anyone either. and that’s what he did. and then he goes to the length of posting this thread, specifically saying she doesn’t deserve an apology? what a schmuck. again - I don’t get into the b’day threads, post count parties etc for the most part (won’t claim that I’ve never posted in 'em but they would be less than 1% of my posting history I’d bet) but why the fuck go out of your way to be snide to folks who are? where was his damage 'cause somebody took it upon herself to be the ‘birthday mom’ here? ---
**Author:** ![Jack\_Batty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jack_batty/32/3201_2.png) [@Jack\_Batty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jack_Batty)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/94 "2003-03-06T00:59:51Z")
Chee-rist, I don’t think **airdisc** was poking fun at **Flamster** at all … he was just poking general fun. Same thing I did in this thread, only condensed. “Oh look, Jack said it was his birthday two days in a row. What a dick.” Who was _I_ poking fun at? Who was _I_ taking advantage of? No one! It’s a friggin’ joke, just like **airdisc** said. It’s not his fault **Flamster** got mortally offended by it. I kinda get the feeling that a lot of people just don’t like **airdisc**. I can’t remember if he’s been particularly offensive, or has presented unpopular opinions anywhere, but right up to the “stick up your ass” crack (heh, “ass-crack”), he wasn’t being all that rude or offensive at all. Maybe a bit obnoxious, but not offensive. All that being said, I must agree that creating this particular thread probably wasn’t the wisest move either. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/95 "2003-03-06T01:04:02Z")
**Jack** can you see that at the least, it could be seen as a slam against her harmless fun? and if he didn’t **intend** it as a slam against her, when it was obvious that she took it that way (or at least was really bugged by it), if his true intent was just harmless fun, wouldn’t the _best_ response to that have been “oops, my bad, I meant it as just fun, sorry you didn’t take it that way” or words to that effect? vs. “does the stick up your ass have a stick up its’ ass?” I guess that’s why I"m more inclined to see it as his way of needling at her for her b’day threads. ---
**Author:** ![Jack\_Batty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jack_batty/32/3201_2.png) [@Jack\_Batty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jack_Batty)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/96 "2003-03-06T01:05:10Z")
Yes. The “stick up your ass” was uncalled for. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/97 "2003-03-06T01:07:48Z")
ok, **Jack** we’re on the same page. and really, isn’t that what’s important here? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![LolaBaby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d2c977/32.png) [@LolaBaby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LolaBaby)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/98 "2003-03-06T01:13:57Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Legomancer \* > \*\*Would it be wrong to say that actually, I _do_ think what airdisc did (giving several different birthdays) was kind of funny? \*\* No, it’s sort of funny, but this thread isn’t. He never apologized to her in that thread. …and I don’t think she’s being overly melodramatic, I’ve read her posts, and that’s just how she posts. Melodramatic would have been “YOU STUPID FUCK!!!11 WHY DID YOU LIE??!!11 I DON’T FIND IT FUNNY AT ALL!!!11” …and I guess he’ll never apologize seeing as he hasn’t returned and he clearly thinks anyone who thinks he is a nimrod for posting this Pit thread has no sense of humor. _goes out to buy a sense of humor–I heard they’re on sale at Macy’s_ ---
**Author:** ![Legomancer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/779978/32.png) [@Legomancer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Legomancer)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/99 "2003-03-06T02:04:33Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Jack Batty \* > \*\*Yes. The “stick up your ass” was uncalled for. \*\* Is it ever called for? I’ve never heard anyone shout, “Hey! Table four needs a stick up the ass, pronto!” ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cajunman-an-apology-flamsterette_x-i-wish-i-could-say-the-same/159071/100 "2003-03-06T02:10:52Z")
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