# Calling your lover/spouse mommy, daddy, mother, father? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 29, 2012, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/calling-your-lover-spouse-mommy-daddy-mother-father/620302 "2012-04-29T05:55:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Machine\_Elf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/82dd89/32.png) [@Machine\_Elf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Machine_Elf)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2015, 12:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/calling-your-lover-spouse-mommy-daddy-mother-father/620302/41 "2015-06-04T12:28:31Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Can’t answer for \*\*AClockworkMelon \*\*, only for myself. It’s a form of submission. Which, I suspect, is why a lot of guys like it. This. It’s an important thing for some ABDL folks. [sub]Google it.[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2015, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/calling-your-lover-spouse-mommy-daddy-mother-father/620302/42 "2015-06-04T12:33:48Z")
I think it’s icky. I could never be attracted to a man that thought it was okay to call me mommy. Blech, it completely turns me off. ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2015, 12:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/calling-your-lover-spouse-mommy-daddy-mother-father/620302/43 "2015-06-04T12:56:50Z")
I’ve taken to calling him Papi every so often because I just like the way it sounds, but no, I do not call my husband Daddy\* That name is for my own father. (Yep. one of those, and no, don’t care what you think 🙂 ) - Unless we are talking about the cat. “Leo, go find your Daddy & tell him your box needs scooped” ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2015, 1:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/calling-your-lover-spouse-mommy-daddy-mother-father/620302/44 "2015-06-04T13:11:34Z")
Well, there’s mommy, and there’s mami. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been called mami. Hell, the moving guys called me mami. It means sweetie, dear, honey. _shrug_ Mommy would feel weird, though. I don’t have kids. ---
**Author:** ![Chris\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/46a35a/32.png) [@Chris\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chris_R)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2016, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/calling-your-lover-spouse-mommy-daddy-mother-father/620302/45 "2016-05-31T20:01:31Z")
Hi everyone. Just wanted to add my 2 cents. My wife is 15 years younger than me and she routinely calls me Daddy. It starts as something kinky in bed, but now she calls me Daddy Chris around the house. On one level it’s just naighty, on another it’s a sign of the extra trust she has in me. It’s very sexy yet also makes me want to be the best husband/daffy I can be to keep her safe and loved. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2016, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/calling-your-lover-spouse-mommy-daddy-mother-father/620302/46 "2016-05-31T22:36:39Z")
> [@Chris\_R](#): > > It’s very sexy yet also makes me want to be the best husband/daffy I can be to keep her safe and loved. I’ve gotta ask . . . are you a duck? ---
**Author:** ![Omar\_Little](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omar_little/32/269_2.png) [@Omar\_Little](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omar_Little)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2016, 10:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/calling-your-lover-spouse-mommy-daddy-mother-father/620302/47 "2016-05-31T22:42:05Z")
Zombies don’t give a shit about parents. This is one weird topic to google, find, join the message board and post about. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2016, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/calling-your-lover-spouse-mommy-daddy-mother-father/620302/48 "2016-05-31T22:48:45Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > Can’t answer for \*\*AClockworkMelon \*\*, only for myself. It’s a form of submission. Which, I suspect, is why a lot of guys like it. I read this wicked BDSM erotica once where the guy was super dominant, and I was into it exactly until the moment she started calling him ‘Daddy.’’ Submission is hot as hell, but associating sex in any way with parenting is not. I get it’s a personal preference. My personal preference is just to run like hell. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2016, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/calling-your-lover-spouse-mommy-daddy-mother-father/620302/49 "2016-05-31T22:49:47Z")
Given that the OP is no longer with us, it’s probably time to shut this one down. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/calling-your-lover-spouse-mommy-daddy-mother-father/620302.md?page=2)