# Can (and should) I get therapy to deal with my boyfriend's issues?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [February 17, 2017, 11:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-and-should-i-get-therapy-to-deal-with-my-boyfriends-issues/780035 "2017-02-17T11:58:16Z")\
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**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\
**Post date:** [February 20, 2017, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-and-should-i-get-therapy-to-deal-with-my-boyfriends-issues/780035/21 "2017-02-20T14:22:20Z")

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> [@Maastricht](#):
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> So, on a more practical note, expect to talk to at least 3 therapists before you “click” with one. A very practical way is to look up a few in the yellow pages and talk with them on the phone a few minutes while explaining your situation and asking them what sort of therapy they provide. Do they subscribe medicine? How much and how do they charge? Etcetera. The important thing (besides getting some practical information) is determining if you feel a “click” with that person. Is it easy to talk to him/her? Do you get a bit of positive energy from that talk? Does the talk make you feel a little bit better about yourself? Do you feel understood, accepted? If the answer to these questions is “no”, then thank them for their time and move on.

I checked webpages.

Some were more “professional”, some were more “touchy feely”, some were “where the bloody hell is the contact information”. One brought me back to several of my bad teachers; you know those who always seem to carry their own lectern so they can get on it and start lecturing all people present on everything that’s wrong with the world? She seriously sounded like that. I chose one whose posted “fluffy stuff” seemed like someone I’d like to meet. Someone who posts the serenity prayer and pics of kittens and puppies is more my line than someone who posts the lyrics to The International and pictures of very orderly things 🙂

All the ones I checked indicated rates, how they work (for example, some will do meetings via skype and others do not), their specialties…

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