The situation I presented in the OP is a real one. I have interacted with Muslim people since I was young, but I started approaching the issue of Muslim terrorism only in university, where I had quite a few Arab school mates. My native town has a growing population of Turks and Tartars. I met Muslim Bosnians in former Yugoslavia before, during and after their war. I spend a month a year in Turkey. I work with both Muslim and Christian Arabs from the Middle East, as well as with other people, such as Germans or Indians for example. My brother is an American citizen and has lived in the US for over a decade. I have a master degree in American studies. I hold conflicting ideas, such as considering human beings essentially aggressive and ultimately cannibalistic as a species, but at the same time being astounded by individual human creativity and superb collective efforts. Therefore, I preach against war and condemn terrorism unconditionally.
Now, how to react when someone condones terrorist attacks? How can I make these people empathize with the victims? How can I make them see that human life is sacred? The feeling of the Muslim interlocutor is sometimes that the Christian/Jewish/Hindu etc. victims may deserve this treatment based on previous Christian/Jewish/Hindu etc. instances of great injustice and suffering caused to Muslim citizens. The feeling of the interlocutor is sometimes that terrorist attacks are not gratuitous acts of cruelty, but part of a guerrilla war, justified by previous attacks on Muslim citizens. In this context, I can see that collateral damage is sometimes regretted (that is, those people could be mourned over, even if they’re Christian/Jewish/Hindu etc. citizens, based on the fact that they’re civilians) but accepted. Yet, sometimes civilian victims are not considered collateral damage, but part of the main target, based on the fact that, supposedly, the governments oppressing Muslim citizens have come to power and are supported by the very victims of the attacks. My question is sometimes, for example, what do you do with the atheist people who haven’t voted for Bush and haven’t supported his military campaign? And that’s when I sometimes face the idea that we shouldn’t worry about the death of atheists since they themselves don’t regard their lives as sacred.
Both my interlocutors and I know that atheists don’t believe life has an a priori meaning, or that many of them don’t believe human beings have free will. My interlocutors disparage people holding such views, which I never do. I find atheists as respectable as believers and I’m really annoyed by this interminable quarrel, but I accept it as I accept bad weather.
How do I respond to someone’s attitude of considering the deaths of atheist citizens not worth worrying about? I usually refer to the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, because I know my interlocutors are as interested in Muslim citizens receiving a fair treatment as are atheists entitled to be acknowledged and respected as citizens with equal rights. Sometimes this argument works, sometimes it doesn’t. There are believers who regard an atheist as a rotten apple that may bring suffering and destruction to the whole group, and in certain occasions, although not as a rule, I feel they might be right.
Well, yes, I guess the problem lies, to a some extent, in me. I genuinely respect atheists as much I respect believers, and I think that, in order to accomplish a stronger social respectability (which they may claim they don’t need, but which I think they deserve) they should endeavor to accomplish more than just trying to curtail religious tendencies or excesses. More as in addressing the urgent problems of mankind more actively if they really regard human life and dignity praiseworthy. The atheist community seems quite quiet when it comes to helping people in need and their little international visibility makes one suspect that atheists may actually not care about it, which in turn may confirm a believer’s prejudice that an atheist is invariably selfish and cynical about everything.