If this were my daughter, and she was of age to do so; and if the school said there would be no prom for her because she had been smoking, then the school, and the school board, would be hearing from my lawyer.
First of all, what she does or doesn’t do at school is the business of the school. At the same time, what she does outside of school is my business. Not the school’s. They dictate what happens in her life between the hours of 9:00 a.m. and 3:15 (or whatever the school’s teaching hours are); I and my wife look after the rest. If she is smoking at 5:00 p.m., that is not the school’s problem; it is ours. The school doesn’t enter into it.
Assuming my daughter was legally old enough to smoke, and this happened to her, then no matter how much I disapprove of teen smoking, I’d buy her a pack of cigarettes and tell her to light up on the sidewalk (that is, public property) in front of the school in view of the school administrators. What could they do? Call a cop and arrest her? They couldn’t, and they know this full well.
They might be able to do something at the prom itself, being a school-sponsored event, but if she attended without cigarettes, they would be unable to do anything. Even if she did take cigarettes (would they search her purse on entry?), and chose to smoke outside on a public sidewalk, could they do anything? I am not a lawyer, but I feel that there is a case here somewhere. An adult of legal age cannot be prosecuted for possessing tobacco, can she?
I am not a lawyer, but this sounds way out of line for a school board. Does this school board do the same for students who have drug or alcohol offenses while driving?
My senior prom had ashtrays on every table and a cash bar (drinking age was 18 in those days). Have we forgotten that we are challenging and preparing young people for adulthood, or has this policy changed to one of keeping them children, never letting them experiment and grow? This policy seems to provide the latter as the answer, and thus, I wonder. If our children are not allowed to experiment, and are encouraged to accept only one answer, then I am afraid for the future.