# Can they really invite me separate from my wife?? (Help! Miss Manners!)

**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-they-really-invite-me-separate-from-my-wife-help-miss-manners/133159
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [October 21, 2002, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-they-really-invite-me-separate-from-my-wife-help-miss-manners/133159 "2002-10-21T01:39:53Z")
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### Author: ![Johanna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johanna/32/8318_2.png) [@Johanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johanna)
#### Post date: [October 21, 2002, 11:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-they-really-invite-me-separate-from-my-wife-help-miss-manners/133159/8 "2002-10-21T11:26:00Z")

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Thanks for the clear analysis, **tlw**. The exact scenario was—

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> \*Originally posted by tlw \ ***Bride doesn’t know wife + no written response to invitation + only contraction “we’ll” as indication of wife’s attendance during follow up call = Less Of a Problem**

This is why I can’t get _too_ indignant at them. Why it isn’t a clear-cut case of whose fault the screwup was.

Now I’m wondering what to say about it if they ask me the next time I see them.

Odd that another one of my friends, who saw me while I was briefly there, said, “When I saw you, at first I wondered what you were doing here, and then I remembered.” Odd.

We forgot to take back the gift before leaving. Oh well.

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