# Can women consent to having small sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 22, 2017, 5:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587 "2017-06-22T05:51:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Dr.Crap](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dr.crap/32/3131_2.png) [@Dr.Crap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Crap)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 8:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/21 "2017-06-22T08:40:01Z")
I have asked dozens of women; the answer is no. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 8:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/22 "2017-06-22T08:46:08Z")
In all seriousness. it seems that most women do not care for anal sex, but many women do, and it seems those that do absolutely fucking love it. ---
**Author:** ![eschereal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eschereal/32/18939_2.png) [@eschereal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eschereal)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 8:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/23 "2017-06-22T08:55:41Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > I can’t deal with these comments. That is some seriously batty shit, **Velocity**. I knew Friedan (I think? I’m a terrible feminist wrt knowing my stuff) pushed this theory with early feminism, but I had no idea there were people alive today who bought into it. > [@"\[Betty](#): > > ([https://www.popsugar.com/love/Betty-Friedan-Feminine-Mystique-Quotes-28158627](https://www.popsugar.com/love/Betty-Friedan-Feminine-Mystique-Quotes-28158627))"]Instead of fulfilling the promise of infinite orgastic bliss, sex in the America of the feminine mystique is becoming a strangely joyless national compulsion, if not a contemptuous mockery. From what I can tell, she – a major influence on modern feminism – was nowhere near the sex-is-rape camp. My mother has been a quintessential feminist, so I got _a lot_ of exposure to the ideology. There may have been a small number of feminists who made sex-is-rape type assertions, but the majority of feminists (of that era) were women who felt crapped-upon by men and wanted to stand up against that (my mother being one of those). You get one or two adamant feminists saying that sex is rape into a mic and before you blink, the patriarchal establishment has slapped that sticker all the hell over feminism. ---
**Author:** ![marshmallow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@marshmallow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/marshmallow)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 9:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/24 "2017-06-22T09:06:56Z")
They can, but only on the man’s birthday. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 9:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/25 "2017-06-22T09:21:11Z")
> [@eschereal](#): > > You get one or two adamant feminists saying that sex is rape into a mic and before you blink, the patriarchal establishment has slapped that sticker all the hell over feminism. Well, not much changed in that regard, I’m afraid. ---
**Author:** ![Crazyhorse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crazyhorse/32/31_2.png) [@Crazyhorse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crazyhorse)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 9:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/26 "2017-06-22T09:33:13Z")
Sex is still big, it’s the jeeps that got small. ---
**Author:** ![Cyros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@Cyros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyros)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 10:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/27 "2017-06-22T10:31:16Z")
> [@Dr.Crap](#): > > I have asked dozens of women; the answer is no. I’m sure that if you keep asking then one will say yes. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 10:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/28 "2017-06-22T10:52:25Z")
Psychological projection, or "Freudian projection: a defense mechanism in which one attributes to others one’s own unacceptable or unwanted attributes, thoughts, or emotions ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 11:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/29 "2017-06-22T11:51:15Z")
> [@Starving\_Artist](#): > > Sex with a jeep is never small, rapist or no! So, that’s where Swee’ Pea came from! ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 11:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/30 "2017-06-22T11:53:17Z")
> [@dude\_robert](#): > > That’s just because the “small” is a typo; I corrected it after it had been posted; which was too late for it to change the actual title. You can ask a mod to fix the title. Just self-report your OP. Click the little triangle icon in the top right. ---
**Author:** ![steronz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steronz/32/11765_2.png) [@steronz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/steronz)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/31 "2017-06-22T12:34:12Z")
> [@dude\_robert](#): > > I think I read it on the comments section of a movie review website where the ending shows a woman asking a hero for anal sex, and the people were then saying the jeep was a rapist. That was _Kingsman: The Secret Service_, and I’ll cop to not really “getting” the movie. Clearly it was an amped-up, over-the-top 007 homage, but it seemed aimed at some juvenile view of Bond that just didn’t click with me. The scene(s) in question involved a kidnapped princess, literally locked in a cell, offering up her asshole if the hero “saves the world.” At the end of the movie, we see her roll over and present the hero his prize. In a movie chock full of gratuitous violence and over-the-top dialog, this didn’t rate much more than a groan from me. It ended a movie I already wasn’t enjoying on an especially dumb note, but whatever, not my cup of tea. I think a lot of the ire at this scene involves stripping it of its context, so I don’t necessarily agree with the analysis, but it makes some sense – she’s not “asking” for anal sex because she likes it, she’s offering it up _for his benefit_; she’s in the middle of a traumatic experience and is under immediate duress due to being imprisoned, which may affect her ability to give rational consent; the “hero” doesn’t turn down his reward like we’d expect a gentlemen to do (tips fedora). Long story short, the scene has problems that probably don’t have anything to do with whether or not women can consent to anal sex. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/32 "2017-06-22T12:38:18Z")
Yes. Cite: I am not a virgin. ---
**Author:** ![Emiliana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f0a364/32.png) [@Emiliana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emiliana)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 12:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/33 "2017-06-22T12:49:06Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > I can’t deal with these comments. That is some seriously batty shit, **Velocity**. I knew Friedan (I think? I’m a terrible feminist wrt knowing my stuff) pushed this theory with early feminism, but I had no idea there were people alive today who bought into it. Andrea Dworkin. Friedman wasn’t a radical feminist, not that all radical feminist think intercourse is rape. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_other_waldo_pepper/32/12370_2.png) [@The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Other_Waldo_Pepper)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 12:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/34 "2017-06-22T12:49:52Z")
A woman once requested anal sex from me, and I politely refused. I still can’t tell whether that’s a story about me being a jerk, or me being awesome, or me being clueless; or, possibly, all three; or something else entirely. (I wonder what a radfem type would say I should’ve done?) ---
**Author:** ![steronz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steronz/32/11765_2.png) [@steronz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/steronz)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 12:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/35 "2017-06-22T12:53:37Z")
> [@The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](#): > > A woman once requested anal sex from me, and I politely refused. I still can’t tell whether that’s a story about me being a jerk, or me being awesome, or me being clueless; or, possibly, all three; or something else entirely. > > (I wonder what a radfem type would say I should’ve done?) Depends, how big was the strap-on? ---
**Author:** ![The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_other_waldo_pepper/32/12370_2.png) [@The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Other_Waldo_Pepper)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/36 "2017-06-22T13:19:00Z")
Huh. Well, now I’m _twice_ as glad that I refused. ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/37 "2017-06-22T13:32:53Z")
> [@Starving\_Artist](#): > > Sex with a jeep is never small, rapist or no! And it finally explains the term “all terrain vehicle”. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2017, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587/38 "2017-06-22T13:36:19Z")
I appreciate those of you who have attempted to provide serious answers and reasoned discussion. However, I’m having a hard time believing the premise of the thread— particularly given the claimed source of the OP’s information—is genuine. As such, I’m shutting this one down. **dude robert** , this thread and some of your other topics (and your limited participation in them once you’ve started them) look a lot like trolling behavior. Curiosity is fine, but posting a random question with a nonsensical explanation and then walking away from it isn’t. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-women-consent-to-having-small-sex/789587.md?page=1)