# Can you and your SO communicate? (Help needed) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 9, 2001, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-and-your-so-communicate-help-needed/64888 "2001-05-09T16:25:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Soda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cc9497/32.png) [@Soda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soda)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2001, 6:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-and-your-so-communicate-help-needed/64888/21 "2001-05-12T06:56:18Z")
**heembo** , I was asking for personal experiences of miscommunication between man and woman in a relationship, so your example was just what I was looking for. It is nice to see that not everyone fits the same mold though, and that will be very helpful in my work. And The Rules are horrid. Sure, many women might be helped by learning how to better communicate with men, but men need to do the same. The Rules doesn’t mention this and that’s what’s so abhorring about it. ---
**Author:** ![Zenster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/cdc98d/32.png) [@Zenster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zenster)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2001, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-and-your-so-communicate-help-needed/64888/22 "2001-05-13T04:50:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by TV time \* > **…so I jump out of bed, begin putting a shoe on, grab for a large object in case the emergency is a burgler and try to say reassuring things to my wife like “blurbfrost, cannolidred.”…** D@mn **TV** , time for you to join the round table with **Scylla** and **Fenris**. I like your style… ---
**Author:** ![Zenster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/cdc98d/32.png) [@Zenster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zenster)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2001, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-and-your-so-communicate-help-needed/64888/23 "2001-05-13T04:54:37Z")
You know perfectly well that all a man needs to know is how to say “Yes dear, it’s all my fault dear…” ---
**Author:** ![Snooooopy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ee7513/32.png) [@Snooooopy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snooooopy)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2001, 9:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-and-your-so-communicate-help-needed/64888/24 "2001-05-13T09:37:15Z")
I just tell **slackergirl** what I want, and she replies, “Oh, yes, Thor, Virile Master of All He Surveys! I will do whatever you ask!” Hah. No, actually, that only happens in the pretend world that exists inside my head. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2001, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-and-your-so-communicate-help-needed/64888/25 "2001-05-13T18:18:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Snooooopy \* > \*\*I just tell **slackergirl** what I want, and she replies, “Oh, yes, Thor, Virile Master of All He Surveys! I will do whatever you ask!” > > Hah. No, actually, that only happens in the pretend world that exists inside my head. \*\* That’s funny, I actually _do_ say that to my fiance, but for some reason, he doesn’t seem to believe me 😃 (He also calls me Insolena - I suspect he may have me figured out) ---
**Author:** ![Billy\_Rubin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/billy_rubin/32/3622_2.png) [@Billy\_Rubin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Billy_Rubin)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2001, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-and-your-so-communicate-help-needed/64888/26 "2001-05-13T18:46:48Z")
Long ago came to the conclusion that I live in a world inside my head which nobody else can see. Otherwise, when I have a problem, and attempt to discuss that problem with my S.O., we would talk, compromise where required, and move on with our lives. Rather than the way it works in the real world, I.E., when the wife leaves piles of mixed washed and dirty clothes on the floor until they spontaneously generate vermin, and I mention the possibility of moving the clothes to a more appropriate place, like not in front of the fireplace, and we end up having a battle where the entire collapse of western civilization becomes my fault. SO I keep my mouth shut and move the clothes myself. Gives me a peaceful, easy feeling. I have no need for any more confrontation in my life. I often long for a Tom Waits existence: > [@](#): > > “Frank’s wife was a spent piece of used jet trash made good bloody mary’s kept her mouth shut most of the time-had a little Chihuahua named Carlos had some kind of skin disease and was totally blind.”-Tom Waits, Frank’s Wild Years. OK, maybe I’m just a little jaded. b. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-and-your-so-communicate-help-needed/64888.md?page=1)