# Can you have sex and not tell anyone about it? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 19, 2005, 7:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510 "2005-01-19T07:10:14Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![ccwaterback](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@ccwaterback](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ccwaterback)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 7:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/1 "2005-01-19T07:10:14Z")
When I was younger I sure couldn’t keep it a secret. Now that I am older, I never tell anyone about sexual encounters I have, I figure it’s my private business. How about you? ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 7:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/2 "2005-01-19T07:19:47Z")
**Can you have sex and not tell anyone about it?** Yes, and so should you. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 7:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/3 "2005-01-19T07:20:48Z")
And please don’t tell us that you’re not telling anyone about it. ---
**Author:** ![zephyrine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/35a633/32.png) [@zephyrine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zephyrine)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 7:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/4 "2005-01-19T07:53:11Z")
I like to keep the other person involved informed. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 7:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/5 "2005-01-19T07:58:35Z")
I usually tell a close friend or two, though I usually just include the casual details (what positions we used, how many times, how long, choice of toys, etc). and leave out the really intimate material (the person’s name). ---
**Author:** ![threemae](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/5f9b8f/32.png) [@threemae](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/threemae)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 7:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/6 "2005-01-19T07:58:46Z")
I didn’t tell anyone when I lost my virginity except in non-specific terms. What is this, middle-school? ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 8:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/7 "2005-01-19T08:16:10Z")
I tell three specific close friends, because they can always tell by my expression that I’ve been up to something anyway. That’s it though. No general announcement. ---
**Author:** ![HMS\_Irruncible](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hms_irruncible/32/7394_2.png) [@HMS\_Irruncible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HMS_Irruncible)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 11:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/8 "2005-01-19T11:31:33Z")
90 year-old guy goes into a confession booth. … He says “Father, I need to tell you that I just picked up two hot women and had a lusty threesome at the corner hotel.” The priest says: “When was your last confession?” Old guy says: “I’ve never confessed. I’m Jewish.” Priest says: “So why did you come here to tell me this?” Old guy says: “I’m telling everybody!” 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Coil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bb73d2/32.png) [@Coil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coil)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 11:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/9 "2005-01-19T11:40:58Z")
> [@zephyrine](#): > > I like to keep the other person involved informed. That’s my policy as well. No one besides that person needs to know what we did yesterday. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 11:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/10 "2005-01-19T11:42:17Z")
I take out ads. ---
**Author:** ![duffer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/duffer/32/1026_2.png) [@duffer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/duffer)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 11:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/11 "2005-01-19T11:43:25Z")
Since I’m married, it depends on whom the sex is with. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![fishbicycle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aeb1de/32.png) [@fishbicycle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fishbicycle)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 11:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/12 "2005-01-19T11:44:51Z")
I’ve never, ever mentioned it to another person. I can’t think of a reason why I would need to. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 11:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/13 "2005-01-19T11:48:00Z")
I told a close friend when I lost my virginity. (Not in any detail.) Oh, and a friend asked me if I had slept with my boyfriend yet and I told her yes. That’s about it. ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 12:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/14 "2005-01-19T12:58:35Z")
I don’t intend to post in this thread, as that would amount to telling people about it. Damn. ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/15 "2005-01-19T13:52:33Z")
I never discuss my sex life with anyone other than the person I’m having it with. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/16 "2005-01-19T15:05:10Z")
No, of course not. Occasionally, I have wanted to talk about a certain…exploit, but it’s just not my style of thing to go around announcing it. This is the kind of thing you brag about, though. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/17 "2005-01-19T15:09:32Z")
I told my best friend when I got laid for the first time (old high school vow). Since then I’ve kept my mouth shut. ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/18 "2005-01-19T15:15:25Z")
> [@GingerOfTheNorth](#): > > I never discuss my sex life with anyone other than the person I’m having it with. Ewwww! You’ll be telling us you don’t turn the lights off next! [sub](Well, technically, you _won’t_ be telling us, but you get the general idea)[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Stonebow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Stonebow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stonebow)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/19 "2005-01-19T15:20:34Z")
Look, I’ve been married for almost 5 years now, and I still tell everyone about just virtually every time I have an encounter with my lady. And that’s a lot. It’s THAT exciting to me. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2005, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/20 "2005-01-19T15:23:48Z")
I would HATE it if you felt like you had to tell me all the time, **Stonebow**. It’s too damn personal, and I don’t want to know about your sex life. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510.md?page=2)