# Can you have sex and not tell anyone about it? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 19, 2005, 7:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510 "2005-01-19T07:10:14Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Merhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5a626/32.png) [@Merhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Merhouse)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2005, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/41 "2005-01-20T02:09:50Z")
Should it ever happen, I imagine my story would be in the National Enquirer :eek: ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2005, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/42 "2005-01-20T03:04:24Z")
I did. Once. In 1960. For about 20 minutes. * * * Yes, of cousre you can. Not everything about one’s privates needs to be publicized. Sometimes, tho, it’s hard to keep it down, like the first stayover of a new relationship, for instance. Tho there is still no need to rent a billboard, I can see little wrong with talking about it to one’s close friends. Balance, man, balance. ---
**Author:** ![commasense](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/commasense/32/3017_2.png) [@commasense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/commasense)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2005, 5:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/43 "2005-01-20T05:04:30Z")
> [@](#): > > Can you have sex and not tell anyone about it? Absolutely. What happens in my bedroom remains strictly between me and whichever hand I happened to use that night. ---
**Author:** ![FriarTed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/friarted/32/1052_2.png) [@FriarTed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FriarTed)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2005, 6:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/44 "2005-01-20T06:23:50Z")
Hell, if & when it finally happens (my wedding night, if I can live up to my ideas & I have so far), expect a TMI thread somewhere at SDMB (hopefully not in the Pit- tho perhaps in GD _G_). Seriously, a few close friends & my brother know the mild dirt. ---
**Author:** ![roger\_thornhill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/d9b06d/32.png) [@roger\_thornhill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/roger_thornhill)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2005, 6:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/45 "2005-01-20T06:29:06Z")
> [@matt\_mcl](#): > > I usually tell a close friend or two, though I usually just include the casual details (what positions we used, how many times, how long, choice of toys, etc). and leave out the really intimate material (the person’s name). You don’t fool us. You just never get around to asking them! ---
**Author:** ![Cisco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Cisco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cisco)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2005, 6:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/46 "2005-01-20T06:29:38Z")
> [@ccwaterback](#): > > When I was younger I sure couldn’t keep it a secret. Now that I am older, I never tell anyone about sexual encounters I have, I figure it’s my private business. How about you? Ditto > [@ccwaterback](#): > > In high school I learned to stop telling my buds about getting laid because they would follow the poor girl around for weeks. And of course, they would inform her how I bragged about it too. …and ditto… Did we grow up together? ---
**Author:** ![tomndebb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b9e5f3/32.png) [@tomndebb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tomndebb)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2005, 7:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/47 "2005-01-20T07:17:53Z")
I can’t imagine telling anyone that I’d had a sexual encounter or why (aside from bring a really immature teenager) anyone would talk about it. (Actually, I _did_ mention it once. My MIL called one Saturday morning, years ago, to announce that her son’s wife had just given birth to their first child. She then asked when \*we[/] were going to give her a grandchild, to which I replied that she had interrupted us working on just that.) ---
**Author:** ![roger\_thornhill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/d9b06d/32.png) [@roger\_thornhill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/roger_thornhill)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2005, 7:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/48 "2005-01-20T07:29:11Z")
> [@tomndebb](#): > > I can’t imagine telling anyone that I’d had a sexual encounter or why (aside from bring a really immature teenager) anyone would talk about it. > > (Actually, I _did_ mention it once. My MIL called one Saturday morning, years ago, to announce that her son’s wife had just given birth to their first child. She then asked when _we_ were going to give her a grandchild, to which I replied that she had interrupted us working on just that.) Can’t agree with you here. I think it’s quite natural, for men, at any rate - probably for women too - to share some of their stories about old flames with their friends. I certainly have done so from time to time. I even fixed your coding. There’s a role reversal! ---
**Author:** ![tomndebb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b9e5f3/32.png) [@tomndebb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tomndebb)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2005, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510/49 "2005-01-20T15:51:34Z")
> [@](#): > > to share some of their stories about old flames with their friends. I didn’t get the impression that the OP was talking about reminiscing about the old times so much as running out and yelling “I got laid, last night!”–the latter being (more) rare among adults in my experience. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-you-have-sex-and-not-tell-anyone-about-it/285510.md?page=2)