# Can young women (18-24) find young guys the same age with a bald (shaved to skin) head attractive? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 24, 2015, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891 "2015-03-24T20:54:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Oged](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/3ab097/32.png) [@Oged](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oged)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/1 "2015-03-24T20:54:15Z")
I’m a 19 year old guy who about a year ago developed a condition where I lost hair diffusely on my scalp. No treatment for it and it looked sickly so I opted to shave it to the skin. People say it looks good on me, (surprising as I’m a skinny paler guy) that I have a good face and head shape. And people who don’t know my age have told me I look 21-22 so it didn’t age me really either thankfully. Truthfully I don’t mind it, it’s just hair and doesn’t make or break me personally. However I really am worried about what girls my age will think. I’ve never had a legitimate girlfriend and I can admit looks are a first step to attraction and something real and know it’s the same for girls. I have decent standards and I can respect them having the same. That being said I’ve read so many posts about guys who lost hair young saying they used to get all the ladies and lost hair young and don’t get any attention from a woman under 30. ( nothing wrong with that age but at 19 I’m sure you see my issue) so I want to know, will this make dating or attracting girls my age that I’d be interested in much more difficult now? Like I said I have decently high standards but I’m serious about it , in the end you only need one I’m not like some guys who do one night stands from girls they meet at clubs etc. And women, preferable young women but all opinions are welcome, is a guy with a shaved head less attractive or a turnoff? Is it a deal breaker for dating/attraction to you? I appreciate honesty even if it’s not what I want to hear. Thanks for your time. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/2 "2015-03-24T20:59:44Z")
Reported for forum change. ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/3 "2015-03-24T21:04:18Z")
**Moderator Action** Welcome to the SDMB, **Oged**. Please note that the General Questions forum is for questions with factual answers (i.e. things that can be factually cited). Since this is more of an advice and opinion question, it belongs in our IMHO forum. Moving thread from General Questions to In My Humble Opinion. ---
**Author:** ![gracefulfatsheba](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a3d4f5/32.png) [@gracefulfatsheba](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gracefulfatsheba)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/4 "2015-03-24T21:06:26Z")
Of course they can. A shaved head is perfectly normal, even on a younger man, and not super distracting like having shaved eyebrows. ---
**Author:** ![get\_lives](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecb155/32.png) [@get\_lives](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/get_lives)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/5 "2015-03-24T21:19:17Z")
I had no problem finding women before and after shaving my head, when I was in that age range. AFAICT, shaved heads are still in style enough to make it a non-issue. ---
**Author:** ![DataX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@DataX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DataX)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/6 "2015-03-24T21:35:29Z")
I have two fairly friends that went bald pretty early. One around your age - one hid it with a toupee until a little older than you - late 20s I think. Neither had trouble finding women - and are both married now. Bothe are married to women I think are pretty darn attractive. One thing that may have helped them the one guy who was always bald since I knew him - never seemed insecure about it - or wore a hat (that I can recall). And once the other guy made the change - he seemed totally ok with it. Plenty of women have commented they like the fact I have a nice head of hair, but more than one have also told me they find my one friend very hot. Not every woman is going to be into that look, but for those that are - you’ll have your pick at this age. I say don’t hide it and just make it part of who you are. ---
**Author:** ![Oged](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/3ab097/32.png) [@Oged](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oged)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/7 "2015-03-24T21:49:52Z")
> [@engineer\_comp\_geek](#): > > **Moderator Action** > > Welcome to the SDMB, **Oged**. > > Please note that the General Questions forum is for questions with factual answers (i.e. things that can be factually cited). Since this is more of an advice and opinion question, it belongs in our IMHO forum. > > Moving thread from General Questions to In My Humble Opinion. Oh I’m sorry, I never really used a forum site before. ---
**Author:** ![Oged](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/3ab097/32.png) [@Oged](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oged)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/8 "2015-03-24T21:54:48Z")
> [@DataX](#): > > I have two fairly friends that went bald pretty early. One around your age - one hid it with a toupee until a little older than you - late 20s I think. Neither had trouble finding women - and are both married now. Bothe are married to women I think are pretty darn attractive. > > One thing that may have helped them the one guy who was always bald since I knew him - never seemed insecure about it - or wore a hat (that I can recall). And once the other guy made the change - he seemed totally ok with it. > > Plenty of women have commented they like the fact I have a nice head of hair, but more than one have also told me they find my one friend very hot. > > Not every woman is going to be into that look, but for those that are - you’ll have your pick at this age. I say don’t hide it and just make it part of who you are. Thank you! Like i said to me it was just hair, I came from a military family so I as raised to know what mattered and what didn’t, and when I seen on other forums I figured all the guys saying hairloss was the end of dating for them I figured they were placing too much blame on it or hiding because of it, until I realized all the posts said it was the end of dating, in which case I hoped that the successful shaved guys were too busy living than posting on some negative hairloss forum. So thank you for proving that hope right that plenty still are successful. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/9 "2015-03-24T22:12:49Z")
If you are a white guy, you will need some facial hair. Bald white guys can look like giant thumbs or cancer victims. A goatee or a soul patch will be fine. if you’re a black guy…you’re probably good to go. When I first shaved my head, I was around 35. The most noticeable thing was the number of women who asked if they could feel my head. 🙂 Been shaving ever since. ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/10 "2015-03-24T22:20:55Z")
> [@](#): > > The most noticeable thing was the number of women who asked if they could feel my head. I have observed this behavior from high schoolers, as well, on multiple occasions. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/11 "2015-03-24T22:27:21Z")
> [@Typo\_Negative](#): > > If you are a white guy, you will need some facial hair. In your opinion. Not universal. Like others, I’ve also seen no average difference in my attractiveness to the ladies based on whether or not my head is shaved. And I can’t grow any facial hair to save my life. Well, sorta no difference. Now I’m balding, so it’s higher with my head shaved. Of course, my personality brings the actual value right down again. But that’s another story. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Oged](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/3ab097/32.png) [@Oged](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oged)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 10:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/12 "2015-03-24T22:32:25Z")
> [@Typo\_Negative](#): > > If you are a white guy, you will need some facial hair. Bald white guys can look like giant thumbs or cancer victims. A goatee or a soul patch will be fine. > > if you’re a black guy…you’re probably good to go. > > When I first shaved my head, I was around 35. The most noticeable thing was the number of women who asked if they could feel my head. 🙂 > > Been shaving ever since. I’m white but taking courses for skydiving and we are not allowed to have facial hair with the agency I jump for, that and the condition makes my facial hair patchy almost too, most all my hair is affected except thankfully eyebrows. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/13 "2015-03-24T22:45:56Z")
> [@Oged](#): > > Truthfully I don’t mind it, it’s just hair and doesn’t make or break me personally. This is good. If you personally don’t give it much thought, or care one way or the other, chances are that the girls won’t either. Girls are sensitive to insecurity. Hair, probably not so much. In my experience, anyway. I first shaved my head when I was about 20. Not because I had to, but just because I thought it looked cool. And because I was sick and tired of hair. I always had trouble keeping the stuff looking right, it would always end up a scruffy mess. Impact on my dating life? None one way or the other, really. My girlfriend liked it. But she liked me with hair, too. Much the same thing for later partners. These days, as I said, I’m balding, so shaving is the way to go. My guess is that you’ll be just fine. And the less you worry, the more fine you will be. It’s not a big deal. ---
**Author:** ![Mangosteen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Mangosteen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangosteen)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/14 "2015-03-24T23:15:24Z")
Good looks can be helpful, but there are very few Brad Pitts out there. _Personality_ is what really matters. And what girls are looking for more than anything is self confidence. If girls see that you are kinda shy about the fact that you are balding, they will be turned off big time. If they see you are hiding yourself under a wig or a hat, they are not going to find you attractive. Forget what you look like and focus on exuding self confidence. If you do this, girls aren’t even going to care if you are bald or not. (But do wash your face and wear clean clothes.) ---
**Author:** ![dude77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce73a5/32.png) [@dude77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dude77)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/15 "2015-03-24T23:47:27Z")
> [@DataX](#): > > I say don’t hide it and just make it part of who you are. this is it right here … It’s not a good look at all if you’re constantly hiding under baseball caps … and eventually that insecurity becomes you if you’re not careful … it’s best to just completely own it and not a give a @$# … how you carry yourself is ultimately what will make or break you, not the hair ---
**Author:** ![typoink](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecb155/32.png) [@typoink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/typoink)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/16 "2015-03-24T23:56:36Z")
Absolutely; you’ll be fine. I had my head shaved for a while in my mid 20s (partly because I got annoyed at paying for haircuts), and I still had attention. And it wasn’t even a great look on me. It’s a distinct look, though, so it gets noticed. That isn’t a bad thing. I also found one advantage of having a shaved head was that hats fit better. If you can pull off wearing a decent hat, it can be worth trying. ---
**Author:** ![Octarine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/22d042/32.png) [@Octarine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Octarine)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2015, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/17 "2015-03-24T23:59:53Z")
I’m a girl, and I’ve always been jealous of bald guys. It must be so easy to just be able to wash your head like you’d wash your cheeks. Oh, and IMO, soul patches are _awful_. It looks like you didn’t quite get everything with your napkin. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2015, 12:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/18 "2015-03-25T00:08:15Z")
> [@Octarine](#): > > I’m a girl, and I’ve always been jealous of bald guys. It must be so easy to just be able to wash your head like you’d wash your cheeks. The main issue with shaving your head is, well, actually having to shave your head. It’s a bit of a chore sometimes. These days, whenever I let what hair I have left grow out some, it’s because of laziness. And then I look terrible. If I could zap it all and never have any of it grow back at all, I’d do that in a heartbeat. Actually, maybe I could do that. Does the technology exist? ---
**Author:** ![Octarine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/22d042/32.png) [@Octarine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Octarine)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2015, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/19 "2015-03-25T00:28:35Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > The main issue with shaving your head is, well, actually having to shave your head. It’s a bit of a chore sometimes. These days, whenever I let what hair I have left grow out some, it’s because of laziness. And then I look terrible. > > If I could zap it all and never have any of it grow back at all, I’d do that in a heartbeat. Actually, maybe I could do that. Does the technology exist? True, I hadn’t considered the constant shaving annoyance. Laser hair removal is fairly common among women, and I imagine some places would do it on the head. I remember someone telling me about it a while back, and apparently you go in a few times and they basically shine really, really strong light into the follicles. After a while, hair doesn’t grow back. ---
**Author:** ![Marlonius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@Marlonius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marlonius)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2015, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891/20 "2015-03-25T01:21:36Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > The main issue with shaving your head is, well, actually having to shave your head. It’s a bit of a chore sometimes. These days, whenever I let what hair I have left grow out some, it’s because of laziness. And then I look terrible. Another balding head shaver here and I must agree. It’s much harder to do a good job on my head than one might imagine. I buzz it “to the wood” once a week, and sometimes even this seems like a giant pain in the ass. I guess being bald and loving it has made me extra lazy in this department - I now resent the 10 minutes per week I spend on my “hair”. To the OP, my experience has been that a bald head worn proudly is seen as confident, and confidence is attractive to the opposite sex. So buzz that skull and stand proud. You’ll always be the first to know when it’s starting to rain. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-young-women-18-24-find-young-guys-the-same-age-with-a-bald-shaved-to-skin-head-attractive/715891.md?page=2)