I actually returned to this thread because I had the opportunity to discuss the matter with a retired insurance guy this weekend. (He started as a claims adjuster, and then moved into the litigation side, mostly defending his company and their insureds from claims real and otherwise.) He says the company absolutely wants to know. They’ve seen plenty of bogus claims through the years, they have experience and protocols for dealing with 'em, and trying to keep them out of it does them no favors. If they end up being dragged into it later, getting in late makes it harder for them to investigate and determine what really happened, and if it does end up in court, “I thought it was bogus but turned it over to the experts at my insurers” plays much better than “I tried to keep it secret from the experts.” [Juries sometimes conclude that “I’m going to keep them out of this as long as possible (hoping that it blows over)” means “I’m guilty, I know I’m guilty, but I’m going to cover it up and hope it blows over” (because sometimes that really is what it means) and reach a corresponding verdict.]
He also says that specific policy language varies from company to company and state to state, but it is pretty typical to require that any POTENTIAL claims be reported. If you know of somebody who claims your vehicle damaged theirs, the company may regard it as your contractual obligation to report it to them regardless of whether you think the claimed incident ever happened, and failure to do so once you are on notice of the potential claim may be grounds to drop you at your next policy renewal. Check the language of your policy, or discuss it with your agent.
No, it’s not the end of it. Michigan is the only state that has mandatory no-fault rules covering property damage; in all of the others, the owner of the other vehicle (and/or his insurer) has the right to pursue you, through either your insurance company or the small claims process. If they don’t have full coverage on their vehicle, or they have a very high deductible, pursuing you may be the only way they recover.
Even if they do file the claim with their own insurer, if they name you in the claim then their insurer is going to want to know whether you/your insurance can be compelled to pay. If they pursue you, sooner or later your insurance company is going to hear about it, and they’d much rather hear about it from you.
From what my insurance friend says, a lot of the time it’s NOT a scam, in the sense of somebody deliberately lying or attempting to put one over on the company or the courts. It’s somebody who has convinced himself, sometimes in the very face of reason, that you are the guilty party, that you are the one who should pay. Insurance companies have plenty of experience dealing with these sorts of claimants too.
It’s not about making it easier on the other guy; it’s about making it easier on you. Jake at State Farm knows a heck of lot more about defending you from bogus claims than you do.
According to the insurance guy I mention above, no, as a claims adjuster and litigation specialist, it absolutely does not mean that to him or to his company. His advice to me, if I ever find myself in that situation, was to turn everything over to my insurer, including telling the would-be claimant to talk to my insurer, not to me.
They’re going to be antagonized at your insurance company, which is usually better than having them antagonized at you.
It’s also for protecting you from bogus claims. You are paying them, in part, to defend you against unreasonable claims, so let them do their job.
As I recall, pkbites, you are ex-law enforcement. If somebody is being harassed, would you suggest that they try to handle it entirely by themselves, or would you recommend they involve the appropriate authorities (which might be LEOs, HR for workplace issues, the school administration for K-12, etc.)? From my experience, most LEOs would rather know about potential issues sooner rather than later; in my workplace, HR definitely likes to know early on. In the OP’s case, their own insurer is the appropriate authority to handle the matter.
(I realize you have no particular reason to trust me about what “my insurance friend” has to say, so I strongly suggest you discuss the issue with your insurance agent, or any claims adjusters or insurance lawyers of your acquaintance.)