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“…I’m stopped at a red light and see a young mother pushing her baby in a stroller into the path of a car about to pass in front of me?” and the OP does nothing?!
In my opinion, this is worse than someone who witnesses a crime and fails to call the police. In such a case, the crime has already taken place. The witness presumably could not stop the crime, only help the police as a witness.
In the cases the OP presents, the OP’s actions can actually prevent the accident.
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robby, a few people have jumped on you already but for Napier’s sake I think I ought to also. Your comparison of failing to honk with failing to call the police is beyond ridiculous. Even ignoring the central question of whether or not honking would help, this is still an issue of reaction time, not morality. Calling the police is not something that must be decided upon and done within seconds. I think it’s far too easy for you, sitting comfortably in front of a computer with your entire minutes of time to mull the issue over, to come to the conclusion that someone else should have made a different decision in a situation they weren’t prepared for and that you weren’t in.
[QUOTE=Bearflag70]
According to my driver’s ed. teacher, the message of honking a horn is, “LOOK AT ME!” Nothing else, and especially not, “Hurry up!” or “I’m outside your house now.”
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I completely agree with this position. To the naysayers, I would like to point out that the meaning of your car horn’s honk is contextual: whether you honk your horn at the driver in front of you who isn’t going forward at the green light, or you honk your horn at the pedestrian who doesn’t see you and steps out in front of your car, your horn makes the same sound. You may mean different things by it, but the signal sent is still the same. It’s up to the person who receives the signal to interpret it, and guess how they do that? They look at you! Then, they can try and figure out what you meant by it, by assessing the situation. But first they look. So other meanings of the horn are secondary.
Now, on to actually trying to resolve the issue Napier put forth:
[QUOTE=CookingWithGas]
I will honk the horn if I see someone doing something that clearly indicates they are not paying attention at all to what’s going on around them.
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[QUOTE=LSLGuy]
I would not honk except in the very rare circumstances where the likely reaction to me and me alone would also be the right reaction to avoid whatever other hazard I see developing.
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[QUOTE=Mishell]
So, in my opinion, you should honk the horn if looking in your direction will help the imperiled individual. If honking your horn would cause them to possibly look away from the danger, then don’t.
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These seem like three very good rules. I suggest the answer to the OP’s issue is to make a decision tree/chart/thing with them, and maybe a few other rules, and then make a mnemonic out of it that drivers can drill on.
For example: “I before E unless after C, unless pronounced as A, as in neighbor and weigh. And even then a few words will just be spelled weird.”
The decision thing (what do you call these?) could look something like:
IF looking at you will make the imperiled person more likely to see the danger THEN HONK
OR
IF the imperiled person is not reacting to something directly in front of them THEN HONK
OR
IF the imperiled person is a pedestrian who should freeze THEN HONK
I think that fits all the examples given. If anybody sees how this can give a wrong decision please tell me. Also, I think the decision thing works best if the default is NOT honking, and it starts with the situations in which honking is most likely to help and works down. My version reflects how I rate the situations.
Sophistry and Illusion, why couldn’t you see the mail truck to begin with? Was your vision obstructed by a wall or hedge? If that’s the case there needs to be a rule about not honking when it’s not possible for a driver to see the danger yet and what they really need is undistracted reaction time. Could the honker have been honking at the mail truck and not you?