# Casual use of the term "cock blocked" is fairly offensive **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 21, 2008, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562 "2008-09-21T17:53:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![lobotomyboy63](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobotomyboy63/32/2900_2.png) [@lobotomyboy63](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lobotomyboy63)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/41 "2008-09-22T01:42:41Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > Well, sure it’s vulgar. I’m confused–is the OP trying to say that this phrase should not be used, period, in casual conversation or what? I disagree with him there. In some contexts, it’s the right phrase. In others, it’s offensive. Like most language, really… I caught a bit somewhere about the word “fuck” in the workplace. Among people who know each other about a mutually hated situation, it bonds. That’s not to say it should be used among casual acquaintances but yeah, among familiars sometimes it would be best, calling a spade a spade. ---
**Author:** ![El\_Kabong](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/el_kabong/32/496_2.png) [@El\_Kabong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Kabong)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/42 "2008-09-22T01:57:08Z")
I honestly never even heard of this expression until yesterday, when I read it in the title of a Pit thread. I don’t really find it offensive, but jeepers, does it ever make the speaker sound like an oaf. If that’s the impression you’re shooting for, go for it. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/43 "2008-09-22T02:00:48Z")
[This](http://www.threepanelsoul.com/view.php?date=2008-04-28) seems apropos. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/44 "2008-09-22T02:07:31Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > [This](http://www.threepanelsoul.com/view.php?date=2008-04-28) seems apropos. Well, now, lookee here–cock blocking is one thing, but when you take the LAST cupcake, you have overreached in the worst way. That’s a killing matter, in this house. 🆒😉 ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/45 "2008-09-22T02:16:44Z")
> [@Happy\_Scrappy\_Hero\_Pup](#): > > The proper term is cribbed from basketball defense: > > “boxed out.” I thought it was _goaltending_. ---
**Author:** ![RandMcnally](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b782af/32.png) [@RandMcnally](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RandMcnally)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/46 "2008-09-22T03:14:28Z")
> [@Tuckerfan](#): > > The term’s _not_ offensive, actually cock blocking someone _is._ It depends on the reason. If it’s because you’re jealous that the girl is talking to the guy, then you’re an asshole for doing it. If it’s one of your friends it actually can be quite humorous. ---
**Author:** ![BlackKnight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/eb8c5e/32.png) [@BlackKnight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlackKnight)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/47 "2008-09-22T03:18:26Z")
> [@chacoguy420](#): > > If you wouldn’t say it to your Mom, it’s offensive. “Hi, dad” is offensive?😕 ---
**Author:** ![Student\_Driver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3da27b/32.png) [@Student\_Driver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Student_Driver)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/48 "2008-09-22T04:40:04Z")
I think the overuse of the term can be offensive (like, say, having a friend who, after being told she had not blocked one’s cock, continues telling people she had indeed blocked a cock), but the term is useful. Over the loud music of a club, or through the haze of alcohol, it can be difficult to get a friend (or even a stranger) to understand that their actions are disrupting my attempts to talk to and hit on someone. The rhyming, catchy term “cock block” expresses it well, even if my intentions aren’t to go home with the girl. I’m not one for casual vulgarity, but I’ve adopted the phrase. I’ve also heard a few women use the term “pussy block” over the years. Lacks the rhyme, but hey. Anyone use the term “mother hen?” My friends and I tend to discriminate in our terms-- cock blocking is done by one’s own friends and/or strangers, while mother henning is done by friends of the woman in question. The end goal of cock blocks and mother hens are the same, to disrupt flirting. ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/49 "2008-09-22T04:57:56Z")
> [@chacoguy420](#): > > If you wouldn’t say it to your Mom, it’s offensive. I mean, criminy, what’s next? > > Cunt Punt? My wife teaches high school. She came upon a boy and girl talking in the halls during class, and told the girl to get to class. When the girl was gone, the boy said, directly to my wife, his teacher, “Mrs. G., you’re totally cock-blocking me!” Seriously. Joe ---
**Author:** ![neutron\_star](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/51bf81/32.png) [@neutron\_star](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/neutron_star)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 5:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/50 "2008-09-22T05:48:48Z")
> [@Nicolas\_Bourbaki](#): > > That, on the other hand, I’ve never heard as metaphor. Isn’t that literally when you kick a lady in the gooch? The Gooch was Arnold Jackson’s bully on Diff’rent Strokes. I have no idea why I still remember that. ---
**Author:** ![Jragon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e19b73/32.png) [@Jragon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jragon)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 10:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/51 "2008-09-22T10:41:14Z")
So, out of wonder, does “cock block” refer specifically to sex like it seems to, or is it now applied across the board for any interference in any (potentially) non-platonic interpersonal relationship? I mean, if you’re trying to just talk to a girl you may be interested in having a steady “take-it-slow” relationship with (or what passes for one now at any rate) and not out for sex RIGHT NAO and someone “steps in” is it still cock-blocking? > [@Student\_Driver](#): > > I’ve also heard a few women use the term “pussy block” over the years. Lacks the rhyme, but hey. I like the sound of “pussy parry” myself, or is “parry” too sophisticated a word for such a concept? (Not that “parry” is that high on the vocab list or anything, but we’re talking sexual slang here) ---
**Author:** ![Student\_Driver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3da27b/32.png) [@Student\_Driver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Student_Driver)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/52 "2008-09-22T12:52:26Z")
> [@Jragon](#): > > So, out of wonder, does “cock block” refer specifically to sex like it seems to, or is it now applied across the board for any interference in any (potentially) non-platonic interpersonal relationship? I mean, if you’re trying to just talk to a girl you may be interested in having a steady “take-it-slow” relationship with (or what passes for one now at any rate) and not out for sex RIGHT NAO and someone “steps in” is it still cock-blocking? > I like the sound of “pussy parry” myself, or is “parry” too sophisticated a word for such a concept? (Not that “parry” is that high on the vocab list or anything, but we’re talking sexual slang here) The first probably depends on the people. I usually hear it in the sense that any attempt to flirt has been blocked, regardless of the reason for the flirtation. A guy at work who wants to ask a coworker out for lunch so he can see if she’s single, but management comes by and sends them off to opposite parts of the store? He’s cock-blocked, even though the immediate goal was simply lunch and finding out her status. Probably with lounge lizards or “seduction” guys, the term is more blatantly referring to an attempted sexual conquest getting stopped. I’m not sure if “parry” would work; it calls to my mind a one-on-one match, so implies that the failure is not due to a third party’s interference. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 1:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/53 "2008-09-22T13:05:34Z")
Another vote for vulgar, and when ladies use the word, for misplaced macha-ness. Besides, what is wrong with the traditional term “chaperon” ? > **[Urban Dictionary: chaperon](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=chaperon)** > > 1. A person, especially an older or married woman, who accompanies a young unmarried woman in public. An older person who attends and supervises a social gathering for young people. 2. A guide or companion whose purpose is to ensure propriety or... ---
**Author:** ![drastic\_quench](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e36b37/32.png) [@drastic\_quench](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drastic_quench)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 1:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/54 "2008-09-22T13:14:13Z")
I’m constantly losing sleep over phrases that are “fairly offensive”. Big deal; move on. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_Tightlips](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/57b2e6/32.png) [@Joey\_Tightlips](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_Tightlips)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/55 "2008-09-22T19:27:14Z")
Another vote for no big deal here. It’s a useful phrase for a specific situation that needs a way to describe it. When you hear it, you know exactly the point that is being made. It’s become so commonplace that I’ve even heard it used when a girl is trying to pick up another girl. (On TV I have to admit, I’m not cool enough to see that in person.) If you want to get offended about something, take it out on the phrase “he’s got no game”, as if every single guy thinks dating is a “game” with winners and losers and rules and fouls and 2-minute offense drills. Ok, maybe it’s just me who takes offense to that because I do, in fact, have no game. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![behr\_strat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@behr\_strat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/behr_strat)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 8:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/56 "2008-09-22T20:05:11Z")
> [@astro](#): > > Both men and women seem to be using this fairly crude term with increasingly frequency lately. I really didn’t pay much attention to it until it got slapped on me the other evening. > > I was the designated driver for a group of friends, and as we were leaving one venue I went to help a women carry her drunk friend to the car. The drunk friend was fairly attractive, but they were both strangers to me and I just wanted them to get to their car safely as the not so drunk one was having trouble keeping the drunk one on her feet. > > As I was doing this one of the ladies in my group started calling out my name in a panicked voice so I detached from the stumbling women to see what the commotion was about. She (the shouter) apparently just wanted to be sure I was not abandoning them as the DD. When I explained what i was doing she then said “Did I cock block you? Were you going to get lucky with them? I really didn’t mean to cock block you.” > > When we got in the car to go to the next bar she kept apologizing (in front of others at this point) for “cock blocking” me. I got the distinct impression she was saying it just because she liked using the term. > > In retrospect I should have replied “Yes you cock blocked me you silly woman. I was just about to squeeze my swollen meaty member into the mojito soaked vagina of that cute little drunk when you swooped down like a harpy, firmly grasping the head of my throbbing penis in your gnarled claws and yanking it out of her moist tunnel. I was _so_ close to sperminating her boozy little pussy. My cock was most surely blocked… _by you_!” > > Honestly “cock blocked” is kind of gross. Get another term. get over your self.:dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Nicolas\_Bourbaki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ecc23a/32.png) [@Nicolas\_Bourbaki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nicolas_Bourbaki)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/57 "2008-09-22T22:36:03Z")
> [@Cisco](#): > > . . . hence guy cooch or gooch. Oh. That makes a lot of sense. :smack: [QUOTE=appleciders] So it occurs to me- is there a feminine equivalent? When someone ruins a girl’s chances of hooking up with (or getting/giving phone number, or whatever), “cock block” just doesn’t make sense. What should the alternative term be? [/QUOTE] Clam-slammed? ---
**Author:** ![Charger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df788c/32.png) [@Charger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Charger)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2008, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/58 "2008-09-22T22:49:46Z")
I’m going to side with the OP on this one. It’s one thing if friends are joking around and the situation is clearly _not_ a “cock block,” as it were, but it’s another situation if people are seriously thinking that they have “blocked” one’s “cock.” It is another indication that many folks have fully accepted the belief that men simply follow their penises around and let it guide them. I, too, find it offensive when people make such assumptions about me. “Oh, you’re talking to a _girl_. You want to have sex with her, don’tcha?” ---
**Author:** ![SuntanTigerTamer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e5b9ba/32.png) [@SuntanTigerTamer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanTigerTamer)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2008, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/59 "2008-09-23T00:45:01Z")
> [@Rasa](#): > > I totally cock blocked **SuntanTigerTamer** this weekend. From like 2000 miles away even. > > (I really just wanted an excuse to say “cock block”. Though the above is true.) :mad: Anyone who doesn’t want to have to use the term “cock-block” needs to avoid Rasa like the damned plague. She’s a cock blocking sonofa bitch and makes no apologies for it. ---
**Author:** ![CaerieD](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@CaerieD](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CaerieD)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2008, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562/60 "2008-09-23T01:19:49Z")
> [@neutron\_star](#): > > The Gooch was Arnold Jackson’s bully on Diff’rent Strokes. I have no idea why I still remember that. And Boner was Mike Seaver’s friend on Growing Pains. There seems to be a trend. Back on topic, I don’t find it offensive and I never interpret it literally. Half the time I’ve heard it used, it was in reference to trying to get a phone number or simply chat somebody up, not achieve sex that very night. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/casual-use-of-the-term-cock-blocked-is-fairly-offensive/464562.md?page=4)