Welp, I saw the doc this morning. Eye pressure is much lower, so the new drops are working well.
At one point she looked at the eye through some gadget and said “Yeah, you have a cataract”. I looked affronted and said “really? And you’re just NOW telling me this???”. We both laughed.
Unfortunately it went downhill from there and I think I need to find a new doctor because I am PISSED.
The tl/dr version is “she couldn’t / wouln’t take the time to answer questions, and booted me without scheduling anything”.
Lens discussion: she does more work with Restor than Symfony (which I specifically asked about because of Enipla’s experience). She has done Symfony - and basically said “I’ll put in whatever you want me to”. I kept asking “Are there reasons why one would be better for me than the other?”. The most she would say was that with any “accommodating” IOL (where all the websits say “multifocal”) there’s a loss in sharpness / contrast, and halos. Fair enough (though she didn’t comment on the Symfony having a reputation for less of that). She made the point that if she had it done, she would NOT be able to use a multifocal for that reason. Valid point. I’m not a surgeon, I work with computers, and ultra-sharp vision is not an issue for me.
I tried getting her to say why one type was better or worse than another (not multifocal vs monovision, I’ve got a good handle on that - but the two brands) and she wouldn’t give me an answer.
The exam was worse than usual. I had to be dilated (OK), and then the bright light torture started. Worse than I remember from other visits - looking longer at various places than usual, and she kept snapping at me because I’d jerk my head away in pain. “You can’t do that when you’re in surgery!”. Well duh. But guess what: I’m very sensitive to bright lights -always have been, and this was unusually painful. I reminded her that I’d need to be sedated anyway.
Then she said I might not be a good candidate for multifocals since I had a hard time getting used to progressives. I pointed out that the ones I had issues with were the full on “correct everything” sort, likely because my prescriptions were so different, and I did fine with room distance progressives. It’s a valid concern, though.
And when I kept trying to get a feel for what the options were to get the best overall vision, she wouldn’t even let me try to explain what I was hoping for = maybe good distance and intermediate, and reading glasses for computer / closeup. I didn’t want to have a setting so rigid that I couldn’t, say, go to the bathroom at night without finding my glasses.
She wouldn’t hear me out and spend another 5 minutes answering questions (she did say “You’ve had some great questions”… then why not ANSWER the last few!!). She basically said “I want you to get a second opinion. You want better refraction. Here’s a guy who does cataracts and Lasik. Go see him. You may have him do the Lasik and the cataract, or have him do the Lasik and me the cataract”, When I tried pointing out that I didn’t have the budget for Lasik she basically blew me off “might as well get everything just right while you’re at it”.
And she refused to answer any more questions, just sent me on my way with notes to take to the other doctor.
Whom I called… and he’s in Washington DC and the Maryland suburbs (we’re in Virginia), an hour or more drive unless traffic is insanely good (i.e. at 2 AM)… and they can’t see me for another month.
I’d hoped to have the surgery DONE by then.
Bear in mind, I’ve known about the cataract for over a year. I met the criteria for surgery even then but she kept putting it off because at that point, she could get me to 20-20 ( the criteria are: can’t get to 20-20, or 2+ diopters part in the two eyes). I lost another diopter in 4 months, and she STILL wouldn’t push on with it.
So it’s been going on for over a year, I’m losing function (I won’t drive unfamiliar roads at night), and I’d hoped to have a surgery date.
So - I’m going to find someone new. I won’t go to my husband’s ophthalmologist because HE’s the one who refused to answer questions about something he saw when my daughter visited him.
I can’t ask my internist for a referral because a) she sent my daughter to a neurologist who turned out to not even be board-certified, and b) she’s moved out of state anyway.
I guess I’ll ask the optometrists’s office for some names; they ought to know who’s good.
Oooh - and when I asked where my doc would do the surgery - thinking “the hospital 2 blocks away from your office”, she said “such and such location”… across the street from the hospital where my son was born… where I had a nightmarishly bad time and 24 years later get the shakes just driving past the place. Ugh.