# Cesario, you're awfully sanctimonious for a pedophile **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [September 29, 2009, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973 "2009-09-29T14:48:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 42
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2009, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/822 "2009-10-17T19:29:11Z")
Having thought about it a bit more, I picture a poster who claimed to be living in Africa, living near a tribe named the Mulumbuu and how much he enjoyed getting drunk into his pickup truck on Saturday night and running over random Mulumbuuns. A number of posters get outraged, suggest the poster get anger-management treatment, go to AA, give up his keys, plus heaping on all kinds of profane scorn and insults and calls for him to be banned and so forth, along with much discussion about the nature of pickup trucks and African society, but ultimately we’d only have the poster’s word that the Mulumbuu even exist in the first place. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2009, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/823 "2009-10-18T00:06:17Z")
> [@Jack\_Batty](#): > > I guess my first statement wasn’t clear, but my point is … I’m a little surprised that it took you this long to realize that this guy is only trying to legitimize his own particular brand of deviancy. His only aim in this debate is to parade his urges before us so we can see what brave soul he is. Funk that, I say. > > As to my other point … we can talk about whether canibalism should be legalized, but I’m not going to discuss it with a guy gnawing on a human femur. > > Discussion of pedophilia, adult-child sex, age of consent, … nothing about that makes me squeamish. I just don’t get how we have guy here who says he wants to have sex with children, that some of them want to have sex with him, that he could get away with it if he wanted, etc. … why the fuck do we want to give him a forum. > > He should be a case-study, not a debate participant. Bingo. But I’d change the cannibalism scenario to “someone who says he has long wanted to taste human femur, worked in a surgical unit, and thinks there should be a test given to people and if they pass, they can FEAST! People will be lining up to donate their femurs, seriously!”. He has done his gender no favors in the educational field. I have long advocated for male teachers in elementary and pre-schools and have felt that men are marginalized too often in the field regarding those age groups because of this (mostly) unfounded fear. He (and those other rare people like him) is the reason men have been so. It may not be “fair”, but society has decided that the risk of damage to children outweighs the slight to men. Thoughts may or may not be fathers to the act or crime. Sexual fantasy is just that… until it isn’t. If a Doper had started a thread about pedophilia, stressing that s/he would never act upon it, that s/he did obtain release in other ways etc, perhaps the conversation would have been somewhat different. The concept of pedophilia is a complex one, one that I am not apt to explore, but that I have no qualms about being explored strictly hypothetically, in an appropriate context. That is not this thread. **Cesario** did not do that, which is something his defenders haven’t realized or have realized and don’t care about, or have deluded themselves into believing that he did. To read (as much as one can, his posts are coma inducing) his posts is to sink deeper and deeper into his twisty rationalizations and intellectualization of this inflammatory issue. It is not enough for him to have these fantasies and thoughts, he needs approval or at least acceptance from us for them. Let me amend: he needs us to attend to them–negative attention is as rewarding as positive. Attending to them does legitimize the existence to some extent. IOW, we are feeding a troll of sorts. I would like to point out that AFAICT, there has been very little “burn him!” in this thread. A few posters early on called for his banning. Of course people are going to have strong reactions to this topic; there have been Dopers who have posted about their sexual abuse in their childhoods; there are Dopers who have children and are concerned that this could happen to them; there are Dopers who are engaged members of society who recognize the value that mores have, as well as other Dopers who want to challenge those mores. Sexual abuse of children is not a dry stuffy topic to be relegated to an abstruse debate. This discussion has never been about debating “correctly” or about building proper arguments. It’s been a real conversation–oh, not TO\*\* Cesario\*\* or even involving him–he’s out in his own little perverted version of the NCLB “test” world-- but amongst all the other Dopers who have participated in the thread. ---
**Author:** ![fuzzypickles](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/9d8465/32.png) [@fuzzypickles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fuzzypickles)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2009, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/824 "2009-10-18T00:25:02Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > Bingo. But I’d change the cannibalism scenario to “someone who says he has long wanted to taste human femur, worked in a surgical unit, and thinks there should be a test given to people and if they pass, they can FEAST! People will be lining up to donate their femurs, seriously!”. Alternatively, you could always eat at Wendy’s. 😃 > [@eleanorigby](#): > > IOW, we are feeding a troll of sorts. Gosh, ya think? :rolleyes: By the way, **Cesario** mentioned upthread that he used to be an elementary school teacher. Not that I expect a straight answer from him, but I’d be curious to hear the story of why he no longer works there… ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2009, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/825 "2009-10-18T01:07:51Z")
> [@Bryan\_Ekers](#): > > Having thought about it a bit more, I picture a poster who claimed to be living in Africa, living near a tribe named the Mulumbuu and how much he enjoyed getting drunk into his pickup truck on Saturday night and running over random Mulumbuuns. A number of posters get outraged, suggest the poster get anger-management treatment, go to AA, give up his keys, plus heaping on all kinds of profane scorn and insults and calls for him to be banned and so forth, along with much discussion about the nature of pickup trucks and African society, but ultimately we’d only have the poster’s word that the Mulumbuu even exist in the first place. Except that’s all we EVER have: a poster’s word. ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2009, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/826 "2009-10-18T01:12:44Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Except that’s all we EVER have: a poster’s word. Exactly, which is why I find the forthy response amusing. ---
**Author:** ![aldiboronti](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9fc348/32.png) [@aldiboronti](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aldiboronti)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2009, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/827 "2009-10-18T14:48:36Z")
After a 17 page thread, long and detailed responses from **Cesario** to a host of questions and much debate on the topic, I can truly say I have learned something - **Cesario** is awfully sanctimonious for a pedophile, isn’t he? ---
**Author:** ![Contrapuntal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e274bd/32.png) [@Contrapuntal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrapuntal)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2009, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/828 "2009-10-18T18:22:43Z")
> [@Bryan\_Ekers](#): > > Exactly, which is why I find the forthy response amusing. As well as the backy responses. ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2009, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/829 "2009-10-18T18:25:16Z")
> [@Contrapuntal](#): > > As well as the backy responses. Yeah, I’m downy with those. ---
**Author:** ![AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2009, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/830 "2009-10-19T04:14:33Z")
> [@](#): > > Do you think if someone like Cesario had a little girl on his lap and no adults around, that he would never ever ever, just let one hand go a little too low? > > People like Cesario can even convince themselves that it was just an accident, his hand just slipped. > > Saying he’d never hurt a child because all he has to do is not rape them is disingenuous because sexual abuse is way more than just raping babies. YES. This exactly! Pedophiles’ thinking processes are EXTREMELY distorted. "Oh it’s not REALLY rape. She (most of the time its a girl who’s abused) led me on (ala Lolita) " Yes, its not full on “boom boom” intercourse rape…but it is STILL unwanted sexual abuse! It is an older person taking advantage of a little kid’s naitive. Kids are TOO easy to take advantage of. And yes, there are adults who are easy to take advantage of, but overall kids are extremely easy to take advantage of… Which is why pedophiles are attracted to them. They are easy to take advantage of! Oh and Cesario…I think you think that there’s no such thing as a pedophile who acts on his desires. There are a LOT out there. Even in that study you cited, it said that 20% of sex offenses against children were committed by pedophiles. That’s quite a bit. There ARE dangerous pedos out there. ---
**Author:** ![Zeriel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/58956e/32.png) [@Zeriel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeriel)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2009, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/831 "2009-10-19T13:10:02Z")
Uh, I don’t think he said any such thing–he said “Most child molesters are not exclusively pedophiles” and “he personally has not acted on his desires”. The former is borne out by the statistics, and the latter is essentially unknowable. What’s with the need to vilify him? So he’s not repentant about the contents of his own mind, big fucking deal. As long as he does what he says he’s doing–that is, not doing inappropriate things with kids–then what the hell reason do you have to make him out to be some kind of monster? And why the fuck does pedophilia in your mind have to be some kind of compulsion to abuse the helpless instead of a straight-up attraction to the physical form of a pre-pubescent? The ongoing conflation of “pedophile” (one who is attracted to kids) and “child molester” (one who inappropriately sexually contacts kids) when they’re in reality a Venn diagram seems to be at the root of 90% of the flaming idiotic hate around here. Look at it this way: In reality, if every pedophile had **Cesario** ’s claimed self-control the world would be a goddamn significantly better place, because instead of whatever number of molested kids we’d have a bunch of people doing their damnedest to work for “children’s rights” and “emancipation” and failing because the majority thinks they’re crazy. ---
**Author:** ![aldiboronti](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9fc348/32.png) [@aldiboronti](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aldiboronti)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2009, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/832 "2009-10-19T14:47:21Z")
> [@Zeriel](#): > > Uh, I don’t think he said any such thing–he said “Most child molesters are not exclusively pedophiles” and “he personally has not acted on his desires”. The former is borne out by the statistics, and the latter is essentially unknowable. > > What’s with the need to vilify him? So he’s not repentant about the contents of his own mind, big fucking deal. As long as he does what he says he’s doing–that is, not doing inappropriate things with kids–then what the hell reason do you have to make him out to be some kind of monster? > > And why the fuck does pedophilia in your mind have to be some kind of compulsion to abuse the helpless instead of a straight-up attraction to the physical form of a pre-pubescent? The ongoing conflation of “pedophile” (one who is attracted to kids) and “child molester” (one who inappropriately sexually contacts kids) when they’re in reality a Venn diagram seems to be at the root of 90% of the flaming idiotic hate around here. > > Look at it this way: In reality, if every pedophile had **Cesario** ’s claimed self-control the world would be a goddamn significantly better place, because instead of whatever number of molested kids we’d have a bunch of people doing their damnedest to work for “children’s rights” and “emancipation” and failing because the majority thinks they’re crazy. It would be an even better place if there were no goddam pedophiles at all. Swear to God, this thread sometimes reads like it’s Support Your Local Pedophile week. ---
**Author:** ![Ludovic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ab992/32.png) [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2009, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/833 "2009-10-19T15:02:56Z")
> [@aldiboronti](#): > > It would be an even better place if there were no goddam pedophiles at all. Swear to God, this thread sometimes reads like it’s Support Your Local Pedophile week. I hear you can get rid of them with shock therapy. ---
**Author:** ![Zeriel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/58956e/32.png) [@Zeriel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeriel)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2009, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/834 "2009-10-19T15:10:35Z")
> [@aldiboronti](#): > > It would be an even better place if there were no goddam pedophiles at all. Swear to God, this thread sometimes reads like it’s Support Your Local Pedophile week. I’ll tell you what, as soon as you can form the Thought Crime Enforcement Division and read people’s minds to find out who’s going to break the law and who’s not, I’ll get right with you on that. Until then, I’ll continue to celebrate Support the Right To Free Speech (Even if You Hate It) Week, which is every goddamn week in this goddamn country as far as I’m concerned. I don’t give a SHIT about pedophiles until/unless they cross the line and become child molesters, at which point you can have whatever violent fantasy killings you care to. ---
**Author:** ![Zeriel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/58956e/32.png) [@Zeriel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeriel)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2009, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/835 "2009-10-19T15:17:21Z")
Oh, and for the record, hell yes I support any pedophile who exercises his willpower and doesn’t hurt little kids. You want we should DISCOURAGE that behavior? ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2009, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/836 "2009-10-19T15:55:35Z")
Bravo, Zeriel. Well put. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2009, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/837 "2009-10-19T17:09:24Z")
And the pedophile-phile team SCORES! The crowd goes WILD! Hey… where are all the kids running off to? ---
**Author:** ![Zeriel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/58956e/32.png) [@Zeriel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeriel)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2009, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/838 "2009-10-19T17:38:26Z")
I’m sorry you’re too dense to understand the difference between “supports pedophiles” and “supports the right to free speech (but not action) regardless of how vile the speech is perceived to be”, **Turnip** -for-brains. ---
**Author:** ![Contrapuntal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e274bd/32.png) [@Contrapuntal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrapuntal)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2009, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/839 "2009-10-19T17:57:42Z")
> [@Zeriel](#): > > I’m sorry you’re too dense to understand the difference between “supports pedophiles” and “supports the right to free speech (but not action) regardless of how vile the speech is perceived to be”, **Turnip** -for-brains. \*\*Cesario \*\*supports pedophilia. He believes it should not be illegal. ---
**Author:** ![aldiboronti](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9fc348/32.png) [@aldiboronti](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aldiboronti)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2009, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/840 "2009-10-19T17:59:04Z")
A pedophile is, to quote the OED, “an adult who is sexually attracted to young children.” **Cesario** is a pedophile. As long as there are pedophiles around young children will be in danger from them. They can swear daily on a stack of Bibles 10 miles high that they wouldn’t harm a hair on the little cherubs’ heads, they still, because of their perverse desires, pose a threat to kids. But no. According to **Cesario** ’s champions only actual child molesters pose any threat to children. Before they cross that line they are as safe with children as any other adult. It’s self-evidently preposterous, of course, but such is, or seems to be their position. Do feel free to correct me, Cesariophiles. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2009, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973/841 "2009-10-19T17:59:08Z")
> [@Zeriel](#): > > I’m sorry you’re too dense to understand the difference between “supports pedophiles” and “supports the right to free speech (but not action) regardless of how vile the speech is perceived to be”, **Turnip** -for-brains. Well, see, that makes a lot more sense, but you had to go and shorten it into “hell yes I support any pedophile…” et cetera et cetera. You can understand my confusion, what with the turnip for brains and all. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973.md?page=41) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cesario-youre-awfully-sanctimonious-for-a-pedophile/511973.md?page=43)