# Changing Your Last Name

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/changing-your-last-name/191726>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [July 29, 2003, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/changing-your-last-name/191726 "2003-07-29T18:58:42Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![Marvel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/779978/32.png) [@Marvel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marvel)\
**Post date:** [July 30, 2003, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/changing-your-last-name/191726/41 "2003-07-30T21:28:52Z")

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Mercury,

How much would it cost? I knew someone who had her name legally changed (first AND last) just in time for her college graduation and I THINK it cost fifty dollars. Heck, I’d help you take up a collection for a new surname so you’re not stuck with an icky one on your diploma.

Seriously, I could start you off with ten bucks or so. Contact me at pfm@cwru.edu .

Patty “Damn, I Love My Name” Marvel

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**Author:** ![j666](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9de0a6/32.png) [@j666](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/j666)\
**Post date:** [July 31, 2003, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/changing-your-last-name/191726/42 "2003-07-31T04:40:02Z")

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When I was discussing marriage, I asked if my spouse would dislike my keeping my surname (no); I asked if he would prefer I used his name (might be nice to have the same name); I asked if he would consider using my name (no).

So no way in hell would I change my name.

If he needs me to change my name to demonstrate committment, he’s not paying attention.

When two hypenated surnames marry, they pick and choose for the kids; live with it.

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**Author:** ![Essured](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/278dde/32.png) [@Essured](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Essured)\
**Post date:** [July 31, 2003, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/changing-your-last-name/191726/43 "2003-07-31T13:17:22Z")

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> \*Originally posted by Isabelle \*  
> \*\*Why not just take the husbands name and be done with it? Is there a phobia that the marriage won’t work out and therefore you would want to maintain your maiden name also? \*\*

I never saw any good (to me) reason to change my name, just because I married. I have no phobia about my marriage not lasting at all, I’m in it for the long haul. I just saw no compelling reason to bother to change, just as my husband saw no compelling reason to change his surname to mine.

We did consider briefly both changing our names to a new made-up surname, but ditched it immediately, because I still couldn’t think up a good enough reason to change (a joint name does not mean greater commitment) and he didn’t like my cheesy name suggestions. 🙂

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