# Cheating, porn use and the Coolidge Effect **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 6, 2013, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cheating-porn-use-and-the-coolidge-effect/652154 "2013-03-06T04:14:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e47c2d/32.png) [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hershele_Ostropoler)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2013, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cheating-porn-use-and-the-coolidge-effect/652154/41 "2013-03-07T14:30:07Z")
I don’t know if it’s common to be jaded by porn, but I do think there’s a sort of winnowing that can look superficially similar. Like, the neophyte finds 17 different types of porn, and pretty much all of them are better than no porn, but eventually he finds that certain types … ah, work better than others. But it’s not a question of being jaded; he didn’t stop liking certain things, he’s just come to realize that he never liked them all that much. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2013, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cheating-porn-use-and-the-coolidge-effect/652154/42 "2013-03-07T14:30:10Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > I was just justifying why my wife might in fact be a bit subconsciously bored with sex. I posit there is nothing subconcious about it. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2013, 11:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cheating-porn-use-and-the-coolidge-effect/652154/43 "2013-03-08T11:26:07Z")
> [@Little\_Nemo](#): > > Please do me a favor and never describe your sex life again. > > I’m willing to have a discussion on the general topic but I really don’t want to hear your personal details. Then encourage your compatriots to stop bringing up the guys earlier posts in any thread that is remotely tangentially related, all because it offends them so much that some random guy thinks his wife is only average looking. And that’s the most favorable read I can give of their motivations, seeing as the kid’s brutal honesty is part of his personality disorder. The same brutal honesty the Dope usually loves, but for some reason doesn’t like it when this kid does it. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2013, 12:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cheating-porn-use-and-the-coolidge-effect/652154/44 "2013-03-08T12:07:36Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > Then encourage your compatriots to stop bringing up the guys earlier posts in any thread that is remotely tangentially related, all because it offends them so much that some random guy thinks his wife is only average looking. > > And that’s the most favorable read I can give of their motivations, seeing as the kid’s brutal honesty is part of his personality disorder. The same brutal honesty the Dope usually loves, but for some reason doesn’t like it when this kid does it. Taking him under your wing, hey? ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2013, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cheating-porn-use-and-the-coolidge-effect/652154/45 "2013-03-08T15:33:38Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > Then encourage your compatriots to stop bringing up the guys earlier posts in any thread that is remotely tangentially related, all because it offends them so much that some random guy thinks his wife is only average looking. > > And that’s the most favorable read I can give of their motivations, seeing as the kid’s brutal honesty is part of his personality disorder. The same brutal honesty the Dope usually loves, but for some reason doesn’t like it when this kid does it. I agree that some people are bringing up subjects that are off-topic. But I don’t feel it’s my responsibility to police their posts. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2013, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cheating-porn-use-and-the-coolidge-effect/652154/46 "2013-03-08T15:43:17Z")
> [@Little\_Nemo](#): > > I agree that some people are bringing up subjects that are off-topic. The topic is cheating, porn use, and the Coolidge Effect. Covers a lot of ground. ---
**Author:** ![Lakai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9de0a6/32.png) [@Lakai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lakai)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2013, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cheating-porn-use-and-the-coolidge-effect/652154/47 "2013-03-08T18:03:56Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > Also apparently with some people they have trouble being stimulated enough by real sex due to the intense porn they use… I think the problem is more often that people already have trouble being stimulated by real sex, and therefore turn to porn because it’s the only thing left. They say porn caused the problem because that’s easier on their ego than blaming themselves. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2013, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cheating-porn-use-and-the-coolidge-effect/652154/48 "2013-03-08T18:15:47Z")
> [@Der\_Trihs](#): > > Well, I guess we know why “she’s” only a 5 now. > > He: “You have no personality!” > > “She”: _\_ Please, tell us more about your awesome sex life, Captain Snark. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2013, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cheating-porn-use-and-the-coolidge-effect/652154/49 "2013-03-08T18:24:25Z")
> [@Trinopus](#): > > You should see the vast amount of “My Little Pony” cartoon porn! Oh Noes! Do they have doodles too? :eek: [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cheating-porn-use-and-the-coolidge-effect/652154.md?page=2)