# Child indulgence is child abuse: you're raising pea-intolerant prince(sses

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/child-indulgence-is-child-abuse-youre-raising-pea-intolerant-prince-sses/530186>\
**Category:** The BBQ Pit\
**Created:** [February 23, 2010, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/child-indulgence-is-child-abuse-youre-raising-pea-intolerant-prince-sses/530186 "2010-02-23T22:31:53Z")\
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**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\
**Post date:** [February 24, 2010, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/child-indulgence-is-child-abuse-youre-raising-pea-intolerant-prince-sses/530186/61 "2010-02-24T20:32:22Z")

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> [@Shodan](#):
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> Nicely put. Thanks, **bill**.
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> Regards,  
> Shodan

Thanks for the thanks guys.  
Even a broken blind pig finds an acorn twice a day or something like that 🙂

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**Author:** ![lissener](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lissener/32/6139_2.png) [@lissener](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lissener)\
**Post date:** [February 24, 2010, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/child-indulgence-is-child-abuse-youre-raising-pea-intolerant-prince-sses/530186/62 "2010-02-24T20:35:12Z")

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> [@tdn](#):
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> Hmm, maybe, but I’d bet that the words don’t matter so much, and the intent comes through loud and clear. I’d bet (and correct me if I’m wrong) that the words your parents said to you weren’t all that bad, but they send out a vibe that was really toxic.

Well, that was kind of my point.

(And for the record, this was only when they were making a conscious effort to praise, reminding themselves to go through the motions of appearing supportive; the emotional abuse was otherwise explicit and continuous.)

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**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\
**Post date:** [February 24, 2010, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/child-indulgence-is-child-abuse-youre-raising-pea-intolerant-prince-sses/530186/63 "2010-02-24T20:35:58Z")

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> [@Malthus](#):
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> I smell an excluded middle.
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> Or possibly a diaper. 😉

Thats EXTRUDED middle.

Or maybe a brown herring argument.

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**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\
**Post date:** [February 24, 2010, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/child-indulgence-is-child-abuse-youre-raising-pea-intolerant-prince-sses/530186/64 "2010-02-24T21:28:55Z")

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> [@Stoid](#):
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> …all you parents of my generation who had your kids kinda late, and as a result you just loooooooooove them soooooooooooo much you just can’t STAND to see them suffer the slings and arrows of being human, so you pad their world on every side to protect them from the pain and suffering that the world will otherwise dish out?..Shut up and listen. Pay close attention… all that effort you are putting into making sure that they always feel like winners, no matter how badly they perform, allt hat self-esteem you are making sure to shore up, all that stuff you give them just because you can and why should they go without? Here’s what it does: it ensures that by the time they become adults, they will be completely unequipped to handle real life

Rush? Is that you?

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