olivesmarch4th’s situation was essentially the scenario I was asking about in the OP; and I’m sorry to hear that you were in such a situation. This seems to suggest there’s more stopping a parent from selling everything a minor child ‘owns’ as a punishment for some egregious offence other than child abuse charges.
I should have distinguished better between my commentary on the news story and the actually hypothetical GQ. Obviously the situation in the news story must be legally pretty cut and dried or the headline would be a lot different. Though from what limited information is available, I do question what the mother did.
My oldest cousin, who is a nice guy, actually got himself into a very similar situation. His parents bought a brand new economy car for the kids to share, since all three of them were about to be driving age at the same time. However, my cousin had been working at his father’s business for some time, and had earned a lot of leeway from them with his performance there. So after high school graduation, when he told them he intended to move out to an apartment across the street from the local college (which he was going to attend) they let him take the new car with him, which they continued to pay for in full. His parents had a long list of requirements he had to meet though, and I know they were clear about communicating what they were and how important they considered them because I was there when they did. One of the requirements was remaining a full-time student, partly for insurance reasons. That’s where my cousin did something monumentally stupid- his grades started slipping, a lot, apparently because he was enjoying his new independence a little too much. He didn’t tell anyone about it, but let the problem get worse and worse. Eventually, he went and talked to his professors about it. Most of them recommended he drop their classes before the semester cut-off. Still not discussing it with anyone in the family, he went ahead and dropped them. Then he waited a month to tell his parents. Their response: they drove to his apartment and took the car back. Without ready transportation he was in a bad situation for some time, but I think his parents were completely in the right because A) They were paying for the car in full B) He had been straining their generosity on several fronts, some not mentioned here C) He made NO ATTEMPT to communicate his problems to them and get help or work something out until it was far too late.
All that said, again I still question what the mother from the news story did. I don’t know the son’s general behavior, and the details of their agreement and the car’s disposition aren’t available, so I can’t say how severe a punishment was in order. But: from my reading of the article, the alcohol was unopened. I believe it is strongly suggested by the article’s wording that she put the car up for sale and then told her son she had found the alcohol, which would mean she decided on a severe punishment before giving him a chance to defend himself. Furthermore, in many places automobiles are vital for transportation, and being 19 I’d like to think this woman’s son has a few places he needs to be. I don’t know what alternative transportation is available to him, or what the financial burden of maintaining the car was, but it seems very severe restrictions on the car’s use would be just as effective discipline as selling it, while still allowing the son to get things done and aquire further driving experience. Even total grounding from the vehicle can at least be reversed later on; now before he can ‘own’ a car again one has to be found for purchase. Most importantly by far though, I believe the mocking newspaper ad was totally inappropriate. Disciplining a child is not exclusive of respecting them, and publicly humiliating a 19-year-old is not contributing to his upbringing. Again, I believe she placed the ad before talking to her son about the alcohol. That’s not parenting, it’s theater.