# Cleveland chubby chasers **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 4, 2003, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562 "2003-10-04T16:51:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![elmwood](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/elmwood/32/3060_2.png) [@elmwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elmwood)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/1 "2003-10-04T16:51:20Z")
[This article](http://clevescene.com/issues/2003-10-01/feature.html/1/index.html) in the weekly Cleveland Scene describes men who pursue overweight women for sex, apparently because they’re easier than what they consider to be more attractive women. Kinda’ sad. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/2 "2003-10-04T17:13:12Z")
> [@](#): > > It’s not that they prefer fat women, they say. It’s just easier. > > “You’re not embarrassed getting shot down by them,” Mark says. “You’re not embarrassed when they leave.” > > Mark’s had nothing but big women for a long time. On a woman of average height, he’ll go up to 160, 170 pounds – 225 if it’s St. Patrick’s Day or New Year’s Eve. > > “I wake up and see monsters in his bed,” Rick says, feigning horror. > > Mark doesn’t dispute their size. But he resists the “monster” label. “The problem is, sometimes they’re really nice people.” He feels sorry for them, sorry for using them, sorry for being a jerk. If his friends don’t find out, he’ll call them. Do it again. > > Rick will have none of it. “I just talk to them like they’re complete disgusting pigs,” he says. “You gotta break 'em down with insults. Comment on their fat – ‘You’re a dirty little pig.’ They call me a dick, an asshole, but after a few beers, they’re into it.” > > “He’s good because he has no conscience,” Mark says mournfully Wow…just wow. ---
**Author:** ![elmwood](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/elmwood/32/3060_2.png) [@elmwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elmwood)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/3 "2003-10-04T17:28:35Z")
I’m wondering … how can one get aroused in an encounter with someone that you’re not physically attracted to? Isn’t there any guilt about using someone like that? How do the subject women feel? ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/4 "2003-10-04T17:32:34Z")
Very sad. I actually had a guy try to pick me up once, where it was **obvious** he thought I’d be interested in him, because I must be desperate (because I’m fat). He said something along the lines of “You’re very pretty. I guess you don’t hear that much” to which I replied, “Only when my husband tells me, which is fairly often”. Unable to tell when his foot was deep enough in his mouth, he continued, “Oh. Was your husband disappointed when you gained weight after the wedding? I wouldn’t have been. I like big women”, and again, a truthful reply was the best: “I’ve actually lost weight since our wedding 4 years ago. But I’d be willing to bet your dick hasn’t gotten any bigger in that time period”. Knowing a good parting shot when I take one, I walked away after that, and never looked back. Related story: I was working for a dating service, in the department that handled the actual “matching”. A man called, upset about his last few introducitons. They were all too fat. I listened patiently, sympathized, asked what I could do to improve the situation, etc. etc. Finally, he said “You know what I’d really like? I’d really like to meet someone like you”, “Oh, no, sir, I’m sure you wouldn’t like me”. “Oh, yes,” he said, “I like you very much! Are you by any chance single?” “Well, no, as a matter of fact, I’m not single. And I also weigh well over 250 pounds” (all in my sweetest voice, natch). Long silence. “Oh. You must think I’m a real asshole!” “Oh, no, sir” (still sweetest voice), “but if you feel like one right now, I can certainly understand that. Have a good day, and I’ll work on your file for you”. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/5 "2003-10-04T17:34:15Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by elmwood_ > How do the subject women feel? The article makes it pretty clear that most of the guys doing this don’t much care how the women feel. But I know who the **real** pigs are!:rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Mr\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9dc877/32.png) [@Mr\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr_Jim)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/6 "2003-10-04T17:36:13Z")
He’s a far uglier human being than any overweight woman. ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/7 "2003-10-04T17:53:37Z")
I feel I should say something here, but I’m speechless. ---
**Author:** ![occ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8c91f0/32.png) [@occ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/occ)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/8 "2003-10-04T18:07:01Z")
Come on, this was clearly written to produce reactions of shocked disgust. The article is pretty much based on one guy, his roommate, and maybe a friend or two of theirs. The story implies that “hogging” is a well-known term, and a common social activity. I’ve never heard of it before, and I betcha nobody else on the board has, either. Not that the article wasn’t interesting, but I don’t think its evidence of a wide social trend by any means. ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/9 "2003-10-04T19:10:13Z")
I just want to point out that there is a difference between “chubby chasing,” which is seeking out women (or men) who are large/overweight/fat because one actually is attracted to them (among gay men there’s a lt of overlap between “chubby chasing” and “bears”) and this “hogging” thing which is just gross. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/10 "2003-10-04T19:17:01Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by GingerOfTheNorth \* > \*\*I feel I should say something here, but I’m speechless. \*\* I would, but it’s the wrong forum for what I have to say. ---
**Author:** ![bojon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3da27b/32.png) [@bojon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bojon)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/11 "2003-10-04T19:40:52Z")
When you turn off the lights, its just perfume and personality. ---
**Author:** ![whistlepig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/73ab20/32.png) [@whistlepig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whistlepig)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/12 "2003-10-04T20:58:42Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by occ \* > \*\*The story implies that “hogging” is a well-known term, and a common social activity. I’ve never heard of it before, and I betcha nobody else on the board has, either. > > Not that the article wasn’t interesting, but I don’t think its evidence of a wide social trend by any means. \*\* I’ve certainly heard of the term, and for years. Most if not all the guys I know are familiar with the term. Lousy behavior, but it’s not exactly a new trend. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/13 "2003-10-04T23:05:43Z")
**Otto** , thank you for pointing out that important distinction! As a large, attractive woman, I’ve been approached by “chubby chasers”, but wasn’t interested in them, because I always thought I wanted someone who appreciated me for my **inner** beauty, not what was visible on the outside. But, there is a huge (no pun intended) between chubby chasers and “hogging”, which is just sickening! ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2003, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/14 "2003-10-04T23:53:22Z")
I’ve had a lot of similar experiences, **norinew**. As if I’m supposed to be so grateful for the slightest crumb of attention I’ll not notice how moronic they are. Preferences are fine, everyone has them, but anyone who only dates a type instead of individuals sorta weirds me out. ---
**Author:** ![bojon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3da27b/32.png) [@bojon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bojon)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2003, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/15 "2003-10-05T00:13:36Z")
I remember pig fridays. And I am still friends with a couple of them. Looking back, they were far safer than the Ally McBeal types who probably gave me a STD. Has anyone heard of the ugly girl personality, they rock. ---
**Author:** ![aphrodisiac](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f08c70/32.png) [@aphrodisiac](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aphrodisiac)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2003, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/16 "2003-10-05T00:14:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by bojon \* > \*\*When you turn off the lights, its just perfume and personality. \*\* 😃 You’re amazing. Could you please breed, often. We need more of you around. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![bojon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3da27b/32.png) [@bojon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bojon)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2003, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/17 "2003-10-05T00:27:00Z")
Its the truth. I left out Performance because of Subjectivity. ---
**Author:** ![SnoopyFan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d07c76/32.png) [@SnoopyFan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnoopyFan)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2003, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cleveland-chubby-chasers/205562/18 "2003-10-05T01:11:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by bojon \* > \*\*Its the truth. I left out Performance because of Subjectivity. \*\* **It’s still talking, aphrodisiac! Make it stop!** ☹