Your OP was talking about the Great Debates forum.
Now you are changing tacks and talking about people that you meet socially at a holiday function. Those are two different situations.
ETA: If I meet someone socially at a holiday function, and the person starts trying to convert me, then I have the perfect right to engage in a debate about their beliefs.
There’s a lot that I’m tempted to say in response to this, but it would be a hijack of this thread and would more properly belong in the Great Debates forum itself. Maybe if I have time I’ll actually start a thread there later, but for now I’ll just say, No, I can tell you that religious people (well, some of them) really do believe in God.
In a religious sense, witnessing is more than just describing a religious experience, it is describing a religious experience for the purposeof convincing others something about that religious experience. The value of the religion is supports, the importance of sharing the religious beliefs of the one who had the experience. The need to convert or repent or in some way change your actions to meet what the person telling the story feels is right.
That is why religious witnessing goes in GD. It is in essence a one-sided debate. “Hey you should believe this way”. If someone starts witnessing at me, I am thoroughly within my rights to (a) question their claims, (b) counter witness, (c) tell them to STFU as I don’t want to hear it. Of course, since this is an open board, I can’t tell them STFU because they may not be talking to just me, and someone else may be interested, but I can choose not to participate in the conversation. But the first two options are components of a rebuttal debate. Ergo, GD.
“Cross-examining the witness” I’ll give you, but I think “witnessing” in this sense is very much a “religious American” thing. Certainly I, as a native English-speaker born in England, didn’t learn that sense of the word until I was in my 40s, I think.
Incidentally, am I the only one taking something of a liking to SDMBKL? (S)he seems the sort of poster we ought to encourage.
yes that is how most religious folk I have met work but there are always the dangerous ones who push creationism as science in schools etc, these I will rally against!
It bugs me whenever I see his name 'cause my initials are KL. So I keep thinking “dammit, SDMBKL is ME!” But then I read the posts and… erm, clearly not. That’s when I breathe a sigh of relief, realizing that I haven’t acquired DID among my myriad other mental quirks.