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Yeah, we know what “sent to Coventry” means.
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Others of us didn’t, so I looked it up and posted the footnotes.
Banquet Bearanswered it somewhat in the Idle Thoughts thread, after bibliophage wrote there
Kier was having a board war with Tachy, and named the function after him/her. It does sound like one of those good ideas at the time, but, like TubaDiva described, not too good, but I’m sure it could be used in some particular cases.
To further the OP, if the two members were in different states, or opposite ends of the world, where would you apply for the restraining order? Or, if it’s a local order (same household or town, for example), does it continue into the internet world? Do you have to wave the order around to have the other party suspended? I believe time will tell and this will someday happen.
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So Doper wife who has suffered years of abuse at the hands of her (also a) Doper husband finally gets the courage to leave the abusive relationship, gets a restraining order, and for her courage, the SDMB treats her to a banning?!?
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From the SDMB perspective, it’s a “not my problem” solution. I’d probably go for a indefinite suspension for both, from when it becomes a problem to keep them separated (and the restraining order displayed).
There has been Member X can’t discuss Y bans, which I suppose could work in this case.
To be perfectly clear: If someone shows up here just to harass one of our members, and the harassment is brought to our attention, we will ban the harasser, regardless of whether there is a restraining order, or whether we know of it. If you witness harassment, of yourself or anyone else, just report it, and we will take care of it. You don’t need to add any more detail in your report than “this is harassment”.
There has been an incident or two in the distant past where a couple de-coupled and one harassed the other … names I don’t remember after all this time … and when it was obvious to us what was going on (the harasser following the harassee around the board and making snarky posts, etc.) we removed the harasser. We would do that for anyone who was being stalked or victimized in that fashion, wouldn’t have to be an ex. From what I do remember, the people being harassed just wanted to be left alone in peace, they didn’t spend lots of time complaining about their ex, mostly they didn’t want to talk about it, they wanted to get on with their lives without them, period. They were not only angry and worried but embarrassed that their business was in the street like that and they wanted it stopped. Not outrageous demands.
Maybe Snarkhunter and Vanilla? Snarkhunter was banned and they were both stalking each other and taking cheap shots. But while she ignored his stalking, he kept going nuts over hers. (And she was later banned for bringing real-world crap onto the board and came back a couple of times as socks. IIRC, he never socked up.)
While anonymity is the norm here there are posters who post under their real names, or who have revealed their real names for one reason or another rather broadly.
Aside from that, there are numerous instances where members have met in real life and are thus known to each other.
There are family members that post on this board and are thus known to each other, and given that family disputes can result in restraining orders that is yet another avenue for this to occur.
All that said - it’s unlikely enough it may never happen.
My understanding of when it happened to me (not on this board) is that they were served with a court order with the handle I used, requesting my IP address and a bunch of other information. They then used the same court order with my ISP to determine who I was in real life, based on the IP address and the times it was used.
You’re not anonymous here if the government decides you are not.
