# Condoms with "delayer"... women like it ? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 20, 2005, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051 "2005-06-20T14:38:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Rashak\_Mani](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ea666f/32.png) [@Rashak\_Mani](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rashak_Mani)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/21 "2005-06-21T19:02:37Z")
> [@Bibliovore](#): > > Wait a second, I’m confused here…I always thought that the longer a guy was able to keep it up before ejaculating, the better. Is this not the case? Don’t women want their guys to have a bit of staying power during their lovemaking, or is this just a Hollywood myth as well? Exactly what I want to know… obviously my OP ain’t clear enough :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![js\_africanus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/87869e/32.png) [@js\_africanus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/js_africanus)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/22 "2005-06-21T19:25:31Z")
> [@Antigen](#): > > …if he’s “pumping” (God that looks wrong) for 20 minutes or more I’m wondering what’s _wrong_ with him. It’s always the man’s fault… 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Bongmaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Bongmaster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bongmaster)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/23 "2005-06-21T20:35:18Z")
_ahem_ As they say, different strokes for different folks. 😉 Some women like longer sex, others not so much. The same woman can want longer sex one night, a quickie the next. The real skill comes in control and being able to adapt to whatever the mood is. To me any longer than 10-15 minutes and it becomes exercise. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/24 "2005-06-21T20:41:54Z")
> [@Bibliovore](#): > > Wait a second, I’m confused here…I always thought that the longer a guy was able to keep it up before ejaculating, the better. Is this not the case? Don’t women want their guys to have a bit of staying power during their lovemaking, or is this just a Hollywood myth as well? A few minutes, yes, but more than that and I’ll be walking funny afterwards. YMMV. I’d guess that for those who can climax from intercourse, more may well be better. I still think the thought of numbed genitals is awful. I’d rather just get myself off afterwards or something instead of dealing with that sort of stuff. ---
**Author:** ![Wolfian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/7ea924/32.png) [@Wolfian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wolfian)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/25 "2005-06-21T20:47:58Z")
> [@raz](#): > > [TMI WARNING!] > > And I totally forgot about the little incident and the next time we were getting, um…down and dirty, I went down on him after he had been wearing one of those stupid condoms and GOOD LORD NEVER DO THAT! It felt like I had been to the dentist because my entire mouth and tongue was totally numb. > > [/TMI] The same thing happened to me and my former SO. The thing is, I don’t think they were “delayer” condoms. They just had a very strong spermicide. Of course I stupidly kissed her after she had finished. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![New\_Beginning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@New\_Beginning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/New_Beginning)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/26 "2005-06-22T01:57:05Z")
Regarding the chafing issue: After years of, erm, carefully controlled tests with my GFs, I learned to keep a small spray bottle with water nearby. If you’re using water based lubes, you can rejuvenate them with a spray or two. Certainly long enough for both parties to be satisfied before chafing becomes a problem. 🙂 But to the original poster: Yes chafing can of course be an issue if pumping goes on forever, and this is exacerbated by the fact that the condom itself is far more irritating than the real thing! ---
**Author:** ![Cyros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@Cyros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyros)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/27 "2005-06-22T02:53:24Z")
> [@Bibliovore](#): > > Wait a second, I’m confused here…I always thought that the longer a guy was able to keep it up before ejaculating, the better. Is this not the case? Don’t women want their guys to have a bit of staying power during their lovemaking, or is this just a Hollywood myth as well? Actual intercourse, two minutes is just fine by me. More than ten and I’m bored. It’s nice and everything, but it’s not the big thing for me. I usually get what I want first and everything else is just icing on the cake, you know? And the idea of purposely desensitizing oneself to prolong intercourse boggles my mind. Why dull the intensity? If a man wants to impress me, he need only be attentive and generous with foreplay. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 3:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/28 "2005-06-22T03:13:23Z")
> [@Antigen](#): > > See, that’s _not_ the part of the act that’s supposed to go on for an hour. Don’t get me wrong, it’s all tons of fun, but if he’s “pumping” (God that looks wrong) for 20 minutes or more I’m wondering what’s _wrong_ with him. :eek: whoa, whoa, whoa, back up a bit there…_there’s a “part of the act that’s supposed to go on for an hour”_? I always keep missing the damn bulletins! :smack: Work with me, people! ---
**Author:** ![Pixisis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@Pixisis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixisis)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 12:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/29 "2005-06-22T12:03:06Z")
> [@Cyros](#): > > And the idea of purposely desensitizing oneself to prolong intercourse boggles my mind. Why dull the intensity? If a man wants to impress me, he need only be attentive and generous with foreplay. AMEN ! > [@JRDelirious](#): > > :eek: whoa, whoa, whoa, back up a bit there…_there’s a “part of the act that’s supposed to go on for an hour”_? I always keep missing the damn bulletins! :smack: Work with me, people! with respect to different strokes … for me the longer the buildup, the better the sex. so, i’d say an hour of foreplay would be great ! after that, the actual “pumping” need not last all that long. Actually, anything longer than 5 minutes, starts to chaff … unless there’s still a lot of other touching going on. what I really don’t like is just enough foreplay for arousal, and then nothing but “pumping”. ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/30 "2005-06-22T12:50:44Z")
Quite the topical [article](http://www.nydailynews.com/front/story/321399p-274653c.html) in today’s NY Daily News. It actually has some interesting data and discussion about sex and time. ---
**Author:** ![Poonther](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Poonther](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poonther)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/31 "2005-06-22T16:11:31Z")
> [@Cyros](#): > > Actual intercourse, two minutes is just fine by me. More than ten and I’m bored. It’s nice and everything, but it’s not the big thing for me. I usually get what I want first and everything else is just icing on the cake, you know? > > And the idea of purposely desensitizing oneself to prolong intercourse boggles my mind. Why dull the intensity? If a man wants to impress me, he need only be attentive and generous with foreplay. Good Grief…remind me to never to have sex in Monkeytown. “I got what I need, now you got two minutes buddy and don’t take more than ten or you are outta here.” ---
**Author:** ![Cyros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@Cyros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyros)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/32 "2005-06-22T22:52:42Z")
> [@Poonther](#): > > Good Grief…remind me to never to have sex in Monkeytown. > > “I got what I need, now you got two minutes buddy and don’t take more than ten or you are outta here.” Perhaps I should have worded that better. What most people seem to constitute as foreplay is what works for me. Therefore, a man taking 30 minutes or an hour for the sole purpose of impressing me, well, won’t. Presumably most men like foreplay as well and are interested in some action outside of the pumping, no? And if it takes a man more time to climax, that’s fine too. I just don’t think men should get caught up in trying to hold back because they _think_ that is what their partner would want. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/33 "2005-06-23T04:07:24Z")
> [@Cyros](#): > > Presumably most men like foreplay as well and are interested in some action outside of the pumping, no? Oh, absolutely! But it also bears remembering that in our case, the mere pumping IS usually all it really takes get us where _we_ are going, so of course we feel like making it the main event. > [@](#): > > And if it takes a man more time to climax, that’s fine too. I just don’t think men should get caught up in trying to hold back because they _think_ that is what their partner would want. Ah, but… you realize what the problem is for most of us guys… that once _we_ are done, going on any further with anything else requires a mighty mustering of the will. And we are aware (through extensive practice) just how fast we can be if we want to… so we overcompensate by making it an endurance event. ---
**Author:** ![Rashak\_Mani](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ea666f/32.png) [@Rashak\_Mani](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rashak_Mani)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2005, 1:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/34 "2005-06-24T13:09:25Z")
Kind of relieved to hear some of these comments… I’m no endurance champion or fan… 😛 Just long enough to get her an orgasm or two seems fine. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2005, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/35 "2005-06-24T14:50:21Z")
I had an experience similar to **raz** ’s. I had picked up a bunch of condoms for free at Planned Parenthood. The Cute One and I were having fun, but he didn’t seem to be having as much fun as I was, so I took the condom off and went down on him. Afterwards, I couldn’t figure out why my lips and tongue were numb. Then it hit me . . . PP had given us delayers! Fergit that! I like lots of foreplay followed by a moderate amount of, erm, pumping, if that’s what we’re calling it. Anyway, so I went to Walgreens and spent much longer than I would have liked to in front of the rack of condoms (conveniently located next to the line of people waiting to get their perscriptions filled). I finally picked [these](http://www.durex.com/US/productRange.asp?intProdCat=397&intMenuOpen=4&intProd=1265). Haven’t had a chance to test them yet, though. ☹ Has anyone else tried weirdly shaped/textured condoms? p.s. **Happy Scrappy Hero Pup** , that was hilarious. ---
**Author:** ![Aangelica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b2d939/32.png) [@Aangelica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aangelica)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2005, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/36 "2005-06-24T15:12:43Z")
_cough_ I’m a wee bit quick off the line myself, so a half hour of prolonged thrusting just sounds uncomfortable for me. It’s about 25 minutes longer than I really need (and really about 15 minutes longer than I find comfortable). Don’t get me wrong - if my fella needs that long, then that’s one thing, but there’s no need to do it on _my_ account. I think a lot of gentlemen are under the impression if they can’t last porn-movie long, then there’s something wrong with them and their partner won’t be satisfied. Which is hooey. More time before the thrusting = less thrusting time required (as a rule). This kind of thing will vary widely from girl to girl - so you’re best off just asking any given partner 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2005, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/37 "2005-06-24T15:32:45Z")
Depends on the mood really, doesn’t it. Sometimes I want tear-my-clothes-off-forget-about-foreplay-f\*uck-me-now stuff. Sometimes I want to stay in bed all morning making love to my honey. Generally I tend to come at least 3 times with Irishfella anyway, once during foreplay, once at the beginning of the actual sex, once when he does. I’m usually completely wiped out after that, and need to sleep for a while. Making things last longer would be something of an overkill. Women who find it difficult to orgasm more than once, or from intercourse alone aren’t going to get much benefit either. The only women I can think of who are actually going to like this are ones who take a while to get off from intercourse, and their partner doesn’t last long enough for them. They’ll be the ones who are usually nipping off to the bathroom straight after he’s come so that they can finish themselves off. ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2005, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/38 "2005-06-24T15:55:56Z")
> [@irishgirl](#): > > The only women I can think of who are actually going to like this are ones who take a while to get off from intercourse, and their partner doesn’t last long enough for them. They’ll be the ones who are usually nipping off to the bathroom straight after he’s come so that they can finish themselves off. I can’t believe some women put up with that bull. If a guy can’t make my orgasm a priority then he isn’t going to be getting another spin. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2005, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/39 "2005-06-24T16:09:25Z")
> [@irishgirl](#): > > The only women I can think of who are actually going to like this are ones who take a while to get off from intercourse, and their partner doesn’t last long enough for them. They’ll be the ones who are usually nipping off to the bathroom straight after he’s come so that they can finish themselves off. Hmm…if I don’t climax before he’s done, and I want to, either he or I will take care of matters, no running off to hide required. Maybe we’re a little more open than a lot of people about this stuff, but it’s not like it’s a secret that I masturbate and sometimes that’s the only way that’s going to get me there. He likes to watch. And sometimes I just don’t want to at all. Maybe I’m tired, and it’d be more effort than it’s worth right then. So while of course it matters if he cares if I climax, I don’t necessarily want to all the time, and that’s fine by us. ---
**Author:** ![MacGyverInSeattle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/958977/32.png) [@MacGyverInSeattle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MacGyverInSeattle)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2005, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051/40 "2005-06-24T18:58:02Z")
I (male) have always had the opposite problem, I am generally unable to climax in less than 30 minutes or so and sometimes not at all. Never had a problem with staying in the game and stamina, but after an hour and a lot of lube both the GF and Hans are pretty well raw. I have been with several women that thought it was a cool… before they tried it. So we have had to get by with other activities to get there. **Hanswurst is German for hand sausage and means also puppet, clown and dildo** [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/condoms-with-delayer-women-like-it/309051.md?page=3)