# Confession time... does SIZE really not matter ? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 13, 2003, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826 "2003-08-13T04:12:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2003, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/21 "2003-08-13T19:52:32Z")
Like many of the other ladies here have already said: Too big = OUCH and isn’t all that great Too small = disappointing but can be overcome if the man is talented in other ways. Average? Preferred and JUST RIGHT. So guys? For the LAST time…quit worrying, you’re probably just fine. (ps, now men who are un"cut", imo? A different story, WAY uncomfortable sex there in my experience) ---
**Author:** ![aphrodisiac](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f08c70/32.png) [@aphrodisiac](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aphrodisiac)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2003, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/22 "2003-08-13T21:50:07Z")
In my experience… All of the black men I’ve been with were above average in length and width. I could just be lucky. Men with small penis’ usually compensate by giving oral sex. Some women are satisfied with that, I’m not. I don’t like small penis’. When I’m having sex I like to feel it, all of it. If there’s not a lot to feel, I’m not satisfied. Although if it’s too long it bumps up against my stomach and that hurts. Overall, I’ll take width over length any day. However, even width doesn’t make up for a tinky winky. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Sauron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Sauron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sauron)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2003, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/23 "2003-08-13T21:56:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by CanvasShoes \* > (ps, now men who are un"cut", imo? A different story, WAY uncomfortable sex there in my experience) _Please_, **CanvasShoes** , if you haven’t already seen them, search for Jack Dean Tyler’s old threads. He was quite adamant that uncircumcised men were the only people who could please a woman properly. Warning, though – it’ll take you about two hours to read all his crap. ---
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2003, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/24 "2003-08-13T22:11:46Z")
Cut, uncut, I don’t care. They feel the same. And, as blunt as it is, my take on size is: Anything in between ‘I can feel that’ and ‘Holy shit, I’m being torn in half’ is just fine. Myself, I prefer them a bit longer than average and a lot thicker than average, but I’ve been with guys who weren’t and been just as happy. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2003, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/25 "2003-08-13T22:51:33Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Guinastasia \* > **But Giraffe, wouldn’t it be, “Find me highly arousing you do.”?** :smack: That would have been funnier. ---
**Author:** ![elucidator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8edcca/32.png) [@elucidator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elucidator)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2003, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/26 "2003-08-13T23:22:01Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Giraffe \* > \*\*…Of course, this might only work on the skanks. \*\* Is there something that _doesn’t_ work on the skanks? Further, as I recall, it works best on the “weak-minded”. If the “weak-minded” were invariably skanky, human evolution might move along right crisply. Regretably… ---
**Author:** ![elucidator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8edcca/32.png) [@elucidator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elucidator)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2003, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/27 "2003-08-13T23:26:49Z")
In my dream, I’m on the way to visit Mom, on the train, when it enters a tunnel and everything gets all dark and womblike…_tomb_like, it gets all _tomb_like…so I light a cigar by flicking my Big…my _Bic_, flicking my _Bic_… ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/28 "2003-08-14T00:03:01Z")
I apologize to any skanks I might have offended by implying they might be weak-minded. ---
**Author:** ![fnord1966](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ad7895/32.png) [@fnord1966](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fnord1966)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/29 "2003-08-14T00:53:18Z")
Aww, I was going to bring up JDT, He was kinda funny, in the way that fire ants gnawing on your foreskin is funny. Anyways, back to my question, Is there any noticable difference with foreskin or without? extra girth would be negligable, and there would be no length difference. That said, owning foreskin is a rather dull affair, no added benifits on my end, and no concievable benifits from visiting a drive through moyel. ---
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/30 "2003-08-14T01:02:43Z")
> [@](#): > > Is there any noticable difference with foreskin or without? extra girth would be negligable, and there would be no length difference. Other than the fact that I have found some minor amusement in playing with the foreskin, I have noticed no actual difference in how good the sex is. Please remember that this editorial is not meant to indicate that this is the viewpoint of the SDMB management or community at large, and they had nothing to do with the formulation of this viewpoint or its expression. ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/31 "2003-08-14T01:03:59Z")
Off to IMHO. And please, let’s keep it slightly above the “Penthouse Forum” level, shall we? ---
**Author:** ![Shaolinrabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Shaolinrabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shaolinrabbit)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/32 "2003-08-14T01:09:35Z")
Now hang on, in these threads, which I am already quite familiar with, all the ladies pop in and say that too big is painful and too small is not enough, so you’re better off being average. Now, at the risk of cruching egos like eggshells, can we get some figures here? Like what each of you considers ‘too big’ and ‘too small’ Preferably the nearest figure, since we all think 1" is too small and 12" is too big. I think that would be interesting 😃 ---
**Author:** ![fnord1966](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ad7895/32.png) [@fnord1966](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fnord1966)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/33 "2003-08-14T01:13:25Z")
i think anything that either one cant grasp all the way around with one hand is gonna be too big, Impressive in the locker room, but not usefull. ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/34 "2003-08-14T01:33:01Z")
I honestly don’t think I could rank all the ones I’ve seen in order of size. That’s how unimportant size is. Except for one poor, unfortunate exception. (And he was such a nice guy, too…) Now _style?_ That’s a whole other story. ---
**Author:** ![JohnBckWLD](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/d6d6ee/32.png) [@JohnBckWLD](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnBckWLD)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/35 "2003-08-14T01:39:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Bongmaster \* > \*\*Hmm, having just above average is starting to make me feel quite confident… \*\* Keep hitting the bong and you may see a decrease in both the size and the intensity of the orgasm. I can’t say for sure whether shrinkage will occur, I’m not a Dr. (nor do I play one on TV). But even if everything remains constant, the munchies will eventually catch up with you. We all know munchies lead to expanded waistlines and expanded waistlines lead to making Mr. Happy appear smaller. ---
**Author:** ![emmaliminal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7bcc69/32.png) [@emmaliminal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/emmaliminal)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 1:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/36 "2003-08-14T01:41:54Z")
**Copaesthetic** , the problems with your data-gathering project are several: • Too few rulers on bedside tables • Self-reporting is somewhat unreliable • Do I have to say Hi to Opal if I use bullets? • The things change size all the damn time anyway • Even with well-stocked rulers, impartial witnesses, and an agreement to measure only at, say, peak extension, exactly what are you measuring? Do you go digging around for the root, or only the part that’s visibly peninsular? Topside or underneath? To weigh in on the weighty width vs. length issue: too much width you can solve with KY, while too much length, depending on the angle, can be pokin’ all kind of collateral damage. You got your ovaries, your stomach, your large intestine. Ow! Extraordinary length is good for nuthin’ but visuals, and not much even then, if you ask me. Whereas too little of either has to be well behind the bell curve for it to matter. Even a standard deviation or two out, skills, enthusiasm, and care can more than make up the difference. Of course, there’s always gonna be that > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Eva Luna_ > one poor, unfortunate exception. (And he was such a nice guy, too…) … but I think they’re damn rare. Oh, and **Avalonian…** > [@](#): > > Of course, the Force probably provides all the compensation anyone might need. … don’t go counting on that. The Force is a little choosy with her compensation. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Shaolinrabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Shaolinrabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shaolinrabbit)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/37 "2003-08-14T01:48:10Z")
Ok, for the benefit of **emilyforce** and any other who may have found my question to be too exacting, I’m not asking for rocket science. Just a general idea, in inches, not millimeters. 😃 I’m reasonably certain that anyone can run down the list of relative sizes and say: " 6" was ok, 7" was ok, 8" was ok that one time but not that other time, 9" hurt like hell" etc. Just a basic ballpark figure, I would assume the acceptable range to generally fall between 5" and 8" by preference. At least that’s my impression. I just thought it might be interesting if someone thought that 8" was just right and 14 1/2" was just a hair too big 😃 I’m being lighthearted about it because it’s just meant in fun, no big deal. ---
**Author:** ![Super\_Gnat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e274bd/32.png) [@Super\_Gnat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Super_Gnat)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/38 "2003-08-14T01:54:30Z")
**emilyforce** ’s last bullet point: The Master has decreed that you measure along the top. It also implies that flaccid length and erect length should be considered separately. Jeez, I can’t believe I’m posting this. ---
**Author:** ![Wolfe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Wolfe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wolfe)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/39 "2003-08-14T02:06:06Z")
Here is an importan question: What’s a skank? ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826/40 "2003-08-14T03:07:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Sqube \* > \*\*The Black Man myth is pretty much that; we’re not all hung like horses. That would be distinctly bad, actually. Remember the saying “It’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean?” That’s true, as long as your boat isn’t a dinghy or an ocean liner. So you’re alright. \*\* “It may be the motion of the ocean, not the size of the ship… but it takes a loooong time to get to England in a rowboat” - Jeff Foxworthy, who’da thunk it? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confession-time-does-size-really-not-matter/194826.md?page=3)