# Confused and chastened by Tubadiva **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 31, 2002, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736 "2002-07-31T18:32:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![elf6c](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c57346/32.png) [@elf6c](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elf6c)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/21 "2002-07-31T20:56:07Z")
I don’t find them raising the level of discourse- its their right, and IMHO, somewhat needed as of late. But, an announcement and a set of principles or guidelines would be nice-- kind of like what we have gracing the top of the Pit right now. ---
**Author:** ![elf6c](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c57346/32.png) [@elf6c](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elf6c)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/22 "2002-07-31T20:59:53Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by elf6c \* > \*\*I don’t find them raising the level of discourse- its their right, and IMHO, somewhat needed as of late. But, an announcement and a set of principles or guidelines would be nice-- kind of like what we have gracing the top of the Pit right now. \*\* find = mind, for clarification purposes. Sorry. ☹ :smack: ---
**Author:** ![dreamer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/6bbea6/32.png) [@dreamer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dreamer)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/23 "2002-07-31T21:35:00Z")
I though **Scylla** was just sharing a time in his life with us and his troubles with it. His post was not vulgar or indecent at all compared to others I have seen on this board. It’s all been said already but from what I hear **TubaDiva** is a very cool person and maybe she’s just having a crappy day. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/24 "2002-07-31T21:42:15Z")
Yeah, but wasn’t there a recent law passed about minors and access to sites with “mature” content? Maybe they’re trying to protect their asses? Sucks, either way. I mean, yeesh, what with whole discussions involving porn and sex toys and what not-as long as we don’t do links-what’s the difference? Color me 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Francesca](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/9fc348/32.png) [@Francesca](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Francesca)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/25 "2002-07-31T21:48:47Z")
> [@](#): > > Actually, you have another recourse - no response at all. We don’t have to respond to everything we ever see, right? No, of course we don’t _have_ to respond. But what if we _want_ to? It leads to pit threads like this, when it all could’ve been much less painless without the snottiness. If a smilie had been included, the tone of the post would’ve been altered and I think we’d all just go “okay, lesson learned” - as it is, there’s unnecessary bad feeling. Still, I’m sure we’ll all go on with our lives as before once this controversy has blown over, as it no doubt will soon 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![robertliguori](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/46a35a/32.png) [@robertliguori](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robertliguori)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/26 "2002-07-31T22:24:39Z")
Question: Can’t blueangel/angelbaby still read the pruient material on here? And mods, I’m going to go out on a limb here, posting privalges-wise. I don’t like the decision to close Scylla’s thread. I don’t like that fear for my account because I said that I don’t like the decision. We, as the members of the SDMB, have also expressed our dislike with this closing. How do you expect to raise the tone of the message board? The SDMB has been coolest because people could talk about anything. Please tell me that this isn’t about blueangel’s spiritual siblings. We have disclamers, and TMI and other pruient threads are usually marked as such. You know, it’s funny. If I’m going to get banned for writing this, than I don’t particularly care. If the SDMB is going to be such that posts, threads, and members need to justify their existence, than I think that the board will go downhill. A long, long way downhill. BTW, please don’t ban me. ---
**Author:** ![El\_Kabong](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/el_kabong/32/496_2.png) [@El\_Kabong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Kabong)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/27 "2002-07-31T22:27:38Z")
Er, count me among the baffled, especially considering [today’s column link](http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a1_083.html) on the main page. But, while I think the public chastisement was unnecessary, I can understand it, if the Mods sometimes feel like they are trying to herd presuming **TubaDiva** was having a bad day. ---
**Author:** ![El\_Kabong](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/el_kabong/32/496_2.png) [@El\_Kabong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Kabong)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/28 "2002-07-31T22:33:53Z")
Holy crap, whatever happened there? Let me try again. But, while I think the public chastisement was unnecessary, I can understand it if the Mods sometimes feel like they are trying to stem a flood of envelope-pushing posts, and I am presuming **TubaDiva** was having a bad day in this regard. ---
**Author:** ![dantheman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dantheman/32/9421_2.png) [@dantheman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dantheman)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/29 "2002-07-31T22:38:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Francesca \* > \*\* > > No, of course we don’t _have_ to respond. But what if we _want_ to? It leads to pit threads like this, when it all could’ve been much less painless without the snottiness. If a smilie had been included, the tone of the post would’ve been altered and I think we’d all just go “okay, lesson learned” - as it is, there’s unnecessary bad feeling. > > Still, I’m sure we’ll all go on with our lives as before once this controversy has blown over, as it no doubt will soon 🙂 \*\* I’m sure life’ll go on, as it is wont to do. 🙂 A smilie would have gone a long way. But alas and alack, no smilie - it’s up to us to infer. And **robert** , anyone can read any of the postings on this board; you must register to post. ---
**Author:** ![Duck\_Duck\_Goose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/50afbb/32.png) [@Duck\_Duck\_Goose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duck_Duck_Goose)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/30 "2002-07-31T23:03:30Z")
Well, Scylla, FWIW, I didn’t think it was all that bad a thread. ---
**Author:** ![ultrafilter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/3d9bf3/32.png) [@ultrafilter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultrafilter)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/31 "2002-07-31T23:17:06Z")
The thread in question didn’t deserve closing, especially in light of what else is allowed to remain open. Something funny’s going on here. ---
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/32 "2002-07-31T23:17:06Z")
Like I said, Did they explode?? ---
**Author:** ![CRorex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CRorex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CRorex)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/33 "2002-07-31T23:22:31Z")
Ya know if they’re trying to raise the moral level of the boards there has to be a reason… Maybe they are going to try to market it? Get subscribers and appeal to a wider bunch of people other than us nutz who live here? ---
**Author:** ![Tinkertoy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f19dbf/32.png) [@Tinkertoy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tinkertoy)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/34 "2002-07-31T23:24:04Z")
I find the whole thing scary. I know it’s their board but we posters make what it is. I’m afraid that if things are changed too much it will cease to be the fun place it is now. ---
**Author:** ![CRorex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CRorex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CRorex)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/35 "2002-07-31T23:26:42Z")
Ugh I hit submit too fast. I’ve noticed things like this before, mainly back in the early 90’s when I mudded. All of a sudden a small close knit mud would have admit start kicking players off for behaviour nobody minded… a few weeks later we were told to pay 10$/month to continue using our accounts ---
**Author:** ![Myrnalene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@Myrnalene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Myrnalene)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/36 "2002-07-31T23:37:16Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by red\_dragon60 \* > **I think it really hit when it came out that** blueangel_\* was 12. Many older dopers thought that it might not be good to have the kind of stuff said here being said. \*\* As **Blueangel** ’s most virulent detractor let me assure you that no one in her thread said anything of the sort. My beef and everyone else’s beef was that she shouldn’t have been here at all. Never did anyone call for cleaning up the material here. I would weep if my beloved Pit was made safe for little girls. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/37 "2002-07-31T23:38:04Z")
Several times in the past, particularly in a very recent thread where I merely pointed out a clear discrepency in a moderator action for which I was merely amused, you **Scylla** saw fit to flame my ass, suggesting I was lucky I haven’t been banned. No one else saw fit to respond in like manner. Just because you’re one of those moderator ass kissing posters who flame newbie’s for questioning moderator actions, that doesn’t make you immune from administrator censure. So suck it up baby. It’s not your message board. Now that I’ve got that off my chest, Tuba’s action really surprised me. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/38 "2002-07-31T23:38:38Z")
I’m sure that **Scylla** will be uh, relieved to hear this reassuring news from [\*The Men’s Health Forum](http://www.malehealth.co.uk/Askthedoc/topic.asp?ID=34)\*: > [@](#): > > Masturbation is healthy but not vital. I’m sure your god would want you to be healthy. Not masturbating will not cause you any harm either and **you will not suffer from exploding testicles**. On balance I would prefer to think that an omnipotent caring deity would rather see happiness than frustration. So relax, guy, even though your “only issue is that you wish you could have been told nicely,” your ghoulies are safe. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Fenris](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fenris/32/498_2.png) [@Fenris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fenris)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2002, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/39 "2002-07-31T23:56:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by robertliguori \* > \*\*Question: Can’t blueangel/angelbaby still read the pruient material on here? > > And mods, I’m going to go out on a limb here, posting privalges-wise. I don’t like the decision to close Scylla’s thread. I don’t like that fear for my account because I said that I don’t like the decision. > > \ > > You know, it’s funny. If I’m going to get banned for writing this, than I don’t particularly care. If the SDMB is going to be such that posts, threads, and members need to justify their existence, than I think that the board will go downhill. A long, long way downhill. > BTW, please don’t ban me. \*\* \ Isn’t it just a wee bit early to play the “I FEAR FOR MY POSTING PRIVLIGES, BUT STILL I BRAVELY SPEAK THE TRUTH!” martyr card? We’re not even up to page two yet. This is just sloppy people. Attend as I enlighten. This isn’t all THAT tricky. Things started correctly with the closing of a thread. But the next steps are crucial. _FIRST_: comes the accusation of mod-Nazi-dom _SECOND_ comes the meltdown _THIRD_ come the banning _THEN AND ONLY THEN_ do we get the hysterical “o GOD! i might be NEXT!!! WHO KNOWS WHAT THEY’LL DO?!” posts. I mean, really. C’mon. Fenris ---
**Author:** ![Finagle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b19c9b/32.png) [@Finagle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Finagle)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2002, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736/40 "2002-08-01T00:05:16Z")
I’m just peeved because I feel I was deprived a really obvious “Scylla the rock” joke. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/confused-and-chastened-by-tubadiva/121736.md?page=3)