# Congratulations vomitguy, you win! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 30, 2021, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503 "2021-10-30T02:14:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Maserschmidt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/maserschmidt/32/18829_2.png) [@Maserschmidt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maserschmidt)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2021, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/21 "2021-10-30T16:09:41Z")
Is the retching sound consistent? I’m wondering if he has the world’s worst ringtone. ---
**Author:** ![chela](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chela/32/21582_2.png) [@chela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chela)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2021, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/22 "2021-10-30T16:55:40Z")
How does conveying concern or asking is everything okay over there turn into one being a giant asshole. Aren’t you projecting just a teensy bit? ---
**Author:** ![Darren\_Garrison](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darren_garrison/32/92_2.png) [@Darren\_Garrison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darren_Garrison)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2021, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/23 "2021-10-30T17:00:28Z")
> [@chela](#): > > How does conveying concern or asking is everything okay over there turn into one being a giant asshole. Aren’t you projecting just a teensy bit?. The poster I was responding to wasn’t telling how to “show concern”, they were telling how to passive-agressively harass the person. There was nothing “nice” or “well-meaning” about it. ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2021, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/24 "2021-10-30T17:07:28Z")
1. Is the other person living in their office? 2. Is the other person a dog? ---
**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2021, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/25 "2021-10-30T20:37:45Z")
> [@aurora\_maire](#): > > Would you be okay with knocking on the door of the business and telling whoever is there that you are a doctor and thought you heard someone in distress? Or just knocking on the wall and calling out to him? If nothing else, that would let him know you can hear it and maybe he would do it somewhere else. > [@Darren\_Garrison](#): > > The poster I was responding to wasn’t telling how to “show concern”, they were telling how to passive-agressively harass the person. There was nothing “nice” or “well-meaning” about it. I’m not seeing it. The last sentence reflects a possible practical benefit, but that doesn’t make it passive-aggressive (an over-used term anyway). I think you’re over-reacting. ---
**Author:** ![Darren\_Garrison](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darren_garrison/32/92_2.png) [@Darren\_Garrison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darren_Garrison)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2021, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/26 "2021-10-30T21:01:55Z")
> [@Roderick\_Femm](#): > > I’m not seeing it. The last sentence reflects a possible practical benefit, but that doesn’t make it passive-aggressive (an over-used term anyway). I think you’re over-reacting. I’m imagining what the situation might be. If I had a long-term condition that made me retch, I would be perfectly aware of it. I would know the problems that it cause for me and others. And if it was late at night and I thought I had privacy but suddenly had someone showing up to sicksplain to me, there is no other way I would take it but hostile. And that goes with _any_ medical condition. “I can’t help but notice that you are fat. Have you considered doing something about it?” “I noticed you are in a wheelchair—have you tried walking?” You don’t point out to someone something that they already know about themselves unless you are a _gigantic_ douchebag. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2021, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/27 "2021-10-30T21:02:16Z")
Look at the bright side: You aren’t smelling anything. ---
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2021, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/28 "2021-10-30T21:06:08Z")
> [@psychobunny](#): > > …it is wearing me down and I am not sure I can take it much longer. > [@psychobunny](#): > > …I like to finish the work at work and not take it home with me. What’s going on at home that makes vomitguy the better option? mmm ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2021, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/29 "2021-10-30T21:12:20Z")
> [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](#): > > What’s going on at home that makes vomitguy the better option? Why should there be anything? To some of us, a clear separation between our home and our work lives, where home isn’t just another work space, is a big deal. ---
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2021, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/30 "2021-10-30T21:17:33Z")
Eh, I just found it a little odd that the OP is choosing to endure what they describe as “something that makes me want to vomit” and “makes me sick to my stomach” that “happens over and over again” for “close to a year” when there is what I would consider an easy fix. YMMV. mmm ---
**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2021, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/31 "2021-10-30T21:31:04Z")
Yes, and those are _exactly_ the same kinds of situations. Sure they are. ---
**Author:** ![RivkahChaya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rivkahchaya/32/8919_2.png) [@RivkahChaya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RivkahChaya)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2021, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/32 "2021-10-30T22:57:41Z")
> [@Maserschmidt](#): > > Is the retching sound consistent? I’m wondering if he has the world’s worst ringtone. I was wondering something like that. I know it’s usually the sort of thing you outgrow when you are about 14, but I have met adults who think things like this are funny. I have never actually heard a retching ringtone, but I saw an ad for an uploadable fart ringtone once. IIRC, $1.99. All that’s heard is retching? it never progresses to actual vomiting? I once sat in front of a guy during an exam in college when we had assigned seats just for the exam. I had noticed that the guy always sat at one of the tables in the back by himself, and I wondered why. During the exam, he burped several times, albeit, not very loudly. I didn’t speak to him about it-- I finished early and left. But I just assumed he had a delicate stomach, and had attacks like that a lot, and that’s why he sat so isolated. So maybe the neighbor has some kind of stomach condition that causes a lot of gas, and additionally a weird-sounding burp-- or just a very loud one that sounds like retching once it gets through the wall. Or, I’m misunderstanding, and this does progress to vomiting, with splashing, and toilets flushing. In that case, I have no idea. But if you ever see carry-out containers in his trash, DON’T order from that place. ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2021, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/33 "2021-10-31T02:55:08Z")
I was wondering exactly the same thing. You can definitely get ringtones for just about anything. ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2021, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/34 "2021-10-31T03:35:58Z")
That is the proper thing. Or knocking and making a polite inquiry. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2021, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/35 "2021-10-31T03:40:35Z")
> [@Darren\_Garrison](#): > > > [@chela](#): > > > > Hardly sounds like harassment when someone takes notice of a potentially serious event happening next door by asking if someone needs help. And @Darren_Garrison you have no idea if it’s a chronic health problem or not. > > You’re right. I don’t know. You know who _does_ know if they have a chronic health problem or not? The retcher. Do you think they don’t know that they have the problem? Anyone who tries to intervene isn’t “just trying to help”, they are harrassing them via being a _ **gigantic** _ asshole. But nothing described sounds like harassment–to me, at least. They didn’t recommend saying mean things to them, nor did they recommend repeated contact. They recommended discussing the issue as a matter of concern, with the side effect that this would let the person know they can be heard, and thus they may choose to do something about it if they can. Yes, the situation might be uncomfortable if they can’t help it. But the situation is already uncomfortable because the OP is getting nauseated hearing them. Even though it isn’t the neighbor’s fault, somethign they are doing is adversely affecting the OP in a pretty bad way. The OP is lucky they aren’t the type who automatically vomit when they hear vomiting. Plus there’s the possibility that the neighbor hasn’t actually seen a doctor about this, and a doctor talking to them might motivate to get it checked out. We’re all hesitant to go to the doctor these days due to the pandemic. The last thing I’d want on my conscience would be hearing someone who is in distress, not helping, and then they wind up dying or suffering severe harm due to my inaction. I just don’t see why you consider merely talking to them as harassment. It may be an uncomfortable conversation, but that’s just a reason to try and find the lease uncomfortable way to address it, not a reason to ignore the issue. ---
**Author:** ![chela](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chela/32/21582_2.png) [@chela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chela)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2021, 11:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/36 "2021-10-31T11:45:59Z")
Right could be vomit-guys burner phone that he’s assigned someone a retching ring tone. Now he knows when it’s Deep-throat calling. ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Cad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saint_cad/32/18907_2.png) [@Saint\_Cad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Cad)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2021, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/37 "2021-10-31T12:01:47Z")
I’m thinking he’s making money doing highly specialized videos/webcamming. ---
**Author:** ![ratatoskK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ratatoskk/32/2987_2.png) [@ratatoskK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ratatoskK)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2021, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/38 "2021-10-31T15:38:36Z")
You mean he’s making videos of himself vomiting? That’s disgusting! ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2021, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/39 "2021-10-31T15:46:42Z")
Having a audio loop of retching noises playing while the office is unoccupied would probably work well as a security system. No one would want to break in and risk slipping on piles of vomit. ---
**Author:** ![Euphonious\_Polemic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/euphonious_polemic/32/3002_2.png) [@Euphonious\_Polemic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euphonious_Polemic)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2021, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/congratulations-vomitguy-you-win/953503/40 "2021-10-31T16:12:49Z")
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